My heart is broken, we know this..I feel like I am stung out...here we go..I was dating this guy named Ian. Ian is really quiet and kept to himself. I was instantly attracted to him, not by looks..but something more powerful. We started dating then about a month he started to open up to me. He shared so much with me and I loved it. I fell in love with him, as did he. We were happy. Until we began getting closer to summer vacation. We weren't spending much time together, which I didn't like very much. I know I had said something to him about that once before, he seemed to try harder...But then w were on summer vacation and he went to his father's. (Long ways away) And I hadn't heard from him in over a week. I thought the worst. I called his mom's and got his father's phone number. I called him, he told me his father didn't have long distance. So I gave him the number to my calling card. He took it and called me. I was happy. But then he came home, and we still were not spending time together. I called him one day and I was pissed. If you will. Then I told him I Wanted to break up. It was the biggest mistake! I am now regreting it so badly! I called him a day later and told him I was so sorry and I wanted to get back together, he told me he needed some time. I called him a week later, and he told me I diserved better. I was so sad..it's been about three months. I still can not seem to get over him...we're "friends" now..a nd I want more. He told me he doesn't hate me. But I want him back! So much. I feel like I am dying. It hurts to see him. I just want to cry, and the fact that we have so many classes together doesn't help any. I wish he would come back. What do you think I should do?
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:)Voted for by Beena.
Let's say that he doesn't love you as much as you do. Would you still want him back? If he came back you'd like that but you still wouldn't like the fact that he didn't love you enough. And if he loves you like you do, then he'll come back. Either way, you win.
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He simply doesn't love you anymoreVoted for by camus.
He likes you but doesn't love you, in my opinion, not in the intense, longing way you want anyway. He sounds a little insecure, as do you. By constantly pining over him you are selling yourself short. Your best chance (and it is slim) lies in being cool about him and not allowing him the assurance that you are available for him no matter what. He must see you as a challenge again. You sound sincere and I like the way you took to him for reasons other than superficial looks - you'll be fine in time. camus xx
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Well...Voted for by daz6.
...when somebody is hurt then its true the bond that existed can often be broken. It seems to me that he recognises that he was partially at fault for the split. Im not altogether sure making yourself a challenge is a good idea either because he sounds like he has low self-esteem so if you do that he will probably just flop out.
I think there is alot of work to do here. To be honest I think that you need to recognise that you both need time apart in a relationship for its own health. You said he tried when you told him how you were feeling and I think that shows he was at least bothered about your feelings and made the effort - you have to meet him half-way.
Rather than go head on and just blurt your feelings out id consider making sure you remind him of the positive aspects of your relationship first. Hang-out, chill-out and have fun and when you feel the time is appropiate tell himhow you feel.
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