Dating is very common. It is becoming increasingly common in younger and younger people- some adults tell me that no one much dated in middle school. (believe this or not) I think some others will find it odd that many date in elementary school. This is almost a social norm now- people date. Men are supposed to think about sex. A lot. I don't know if women are supposed to think about sex, but I wouldn't be surprised if women and some men treated women as such. I find it distressing when people act like I'm a pervert because I'm a kid in high school, these people who know nothing about me. But why is all this? Why is dating almost required in society? Most of all, just for yourself, why date?
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friendship is crucial33% Voted for by erynwynd, Embers of Elm.
I would disagree, dating without friendship is something that is ridiculous. However as long as a true friendship exists it is not really as pointless as you seem to say. I would very much agree that people who date purely for the sex or what not and then break up in a week are idiots who are wasting their time. You might as well just get drunk and have sex with random people it will probably do you as much good. I do think that dating people who you really truly do have a friendship with can be a wonderful thing. I am personally dating a good friend of mine and see our romantic involvement as friendship explored on a different plane than the normal friendship.
I sincerely do hope that people begin to leave you alone though. for years I was hassled for not dating anyone and always being called gay because of it. the people who do things are just weak and insecure so they take out their pain on others don't let it get to you if you can.
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PointlessVoted for by Catavader.
I've managed to find no point in dating. There is a physical component, people's bodies telling them it is a good thing. People seem to embrace this at a very young age rather than trying to get over it. Many people get to the point where they say that they need to be sexually active because that's who they are- but they never made the choice to try to avoid that.
Friendships in dating are often short term, especially on the school level. I know of one person who seems to date someone for a week once a month. How close is this person to the people they date?
If they are not so close, why would they pretend to give part of themselves to each other?
Often people cannot see past a physical attraction. There may be someone they think is okay and are very attracted to and decide they are in love with them. After all, there's another person who's very attractive, but murders small children and they don't feel the same about that person. So that other thing must be love.
I see dating as a waste of time and quite often a bigotry. I do not date and in fact I feel less physical longing than most people seem to- actually almost none at all. If I had wanted to I could've become oriented towards dating, towards a physical sensation, but I chose not to. I have better things to do and frankly seeing how far I can throw a rock or pacing strikes me as more worthwile than dating.
People also doubt themselves very much. They know it is pointless, but if I try to confront someone they are not willing to admit it. Sometimes the person assumes I'm lying because I "can't get girls." (not like I've tried) The most common is to say that I am gay, even though I made no mention of a desire to date men. This makes me, in the eyes of many people, something to leer at. Gay people. How gross. If we can leer at him then we won't have to admit he's right. We can feel better about ourselves. (the fact that I have to simultaneously put up with the stereotype of being a pervert and the full bone-headedness of school society is part of what bothers me. If people would settle on non contradictory stereotypes I'd get over it.)
Simply, it is pointless. It is something for the weak. It is something for those who do not want lasting friendships. It is a choice.
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THEY ASSUMEVoted for by lisa leigh.
THEY PROBABLY ASSUME YOUR HORMONES ARE RAGING AND U ARE POSSESED BY THEM TO BE HONEST ITS NICE TO KNOW NOT EVERYONE IS UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF THERE LOWER SELVES DO YOUR OWN THING IGNORANCE AND STEREOTYPING IS SOMETHING ALL OF US ENCOUNTER DO YOUR OWN THING
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screw societyVoted for by acresofhope.
I don't date, and I don't care that people think I'm odd because of it. I just don't see the point since I'm not ready to get married yet. "So how are you going to know what kind of men you like?" people say. Well, isn't that what friendships are for? I can see qualities in my male friends I like, some I don't like so much but could live with, and some I know I couldn't put up with for the rest of my life. So yeah, no point in dating.
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December 15, 2005
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Friendship.
I have a very close relationship with one of my guy friends. We can cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie without even thinking about it. He stayed at my house one night, and in the morning, we made breakfast together. We aren't dating, we're friends. But we're COMFORTABLE with one another. I think society in general has much to do with how people THINK they are supposed to behave. Also, their family behaviors have something to do with it. If a younger brother sees his older brother date, and have children at a young age, he is likely to follow. The same with females.Please register or login to comment! It's totally free