Ok, first of all, pardon me for saying forget the praying and all that whatnot, regardless of your religion its irrelevant to you asking advice. You should probably tune out everyone else's opinion and think deep within your own self. Being with him for three years has made the two of you very close I assume. You mentioned making love, that really does keep two people close. You have lived 3 years of your entire life telling yourself you love him and that he is your boyfriend. That is more than enough to train you brain to think you can't live without him. If you really feel there is nothing left in the relationship you need to get out, you need to make YOU happy. You won't be able to just walk away as if you only knew him a week. You will hurt, your body, your mind, will both crave to have him back. That doesn't necessarily mean you should take him back. It may take awhile to get over him, if you do decide you should leave him, but end in the end you may be glad you did. You need to look ahead, and think what will make you happier down the road. I, myself was in a long relationship with someone and I know exactly what it feels like to have to try and leave after so long. Trust me, you'll feel better if you do what you need to do. Don't go back to him after a week, that doesn't give you enough time to realize if you need him or not. What you need now is a break, atleast a month or so to find out for sure if you really need him or you just think you need him. My advice, take a break for a month or two, meet some other guys, don't go too far, just hang out with some friends, and after awhile if you absolutely can't forget him, and something tells you that you love him, then go back to him. Basically make sure you really love him, and not just think you love him. Either way it'll all be kool one day hun.

Given that you have not givin much information about your relationship with this guy over the past three years, there really is no philosopher on earth that can help you at this moment. All I can say is: Letting go is hard believe me, I still love the women I was with even though now I have a loving girlfriend who and we will be having a kid here soon. I tell you this because in a sense I know what you are going through even though I am not you. You wished to leave him, said you had nothing left he had taken it all. Then fine there is your answer, leave. Leave him, and give yourself time. Find where exactly it is you want to be. Restore those resources you exhausted on him. Give your self time to rest. It will be hard as I said, but keep a positive out look. I promise there will be another. Or who knows you may relise you must be with him, it is what you feel as oh so right. Take your time, enjoy a little freedom and see where your grounds are when you land. Good luck Becomingbroken. And dont worrie everything will be fine

the question is- do you want him. I think you feel guilty about the situation, but you feel the need to move on. if that was your first reaction, you shouldn't go back on it just because he has said something new. If you want him and still have feelings for him then go be with him, but if you want to end it, don't let your guilt or possibly love of him get in the way.

My question simply would be: Why the break-up and how much if at all do you love him?

- If the break-up is just for a change of perspective, that is natural to want, a new environment, but I urge you not to let go of what you have entirely, because if you cut all the strings, then fusing them together tastes extra effort. - If the break-up is because you truly have come to a point in your life where there is just no feeling, and it's like waking up to a dull and hazed dream all over again, making your head sping like over-gnawed grass, then it is time for a change and a well-deserved break. - And in responce to my second question: How much do you really love him if at all. If you can see yourself growing old with him and still laughing at each others joke and cuddling watching your grandchildren grow, then there still might be hope; but if all you see is fighting and arguing, don't risk it because there is ALWAYS someone out there that fits you and your needs and perspective.

P.S. - I'm not licensed psychologist, but I speak from experience, I had something similar happen in a three-year relationship, I wrote a story on it on my page if you would like, but if you need help, I'd love to help. Let me know what you decide, it would be nice to know, please.

I can add little to what has already been said, it's all good sensible stuff.

The important thing is, what does your conscience say?

You seem to be in a rut, so, maybe a change of scene might broaden your perspectives as well as your options?

Good luck -sterl'

based on the limited facts, you obviously have reason to feel that you have given all you have to give.. not just relative to a specific incident, but ongoing turmoil and repeated pain. I have found that when you feel that you have given all you have to give and continue trying to give, you start giving away your hopes, your dreams, your reasonable expectations and pieces of yourself that were never meant to be given away and are extremely difficult if not impossible to recover. there are people who live to repair damage, in a relationship that would be otherwise comfortable, these people create the turmoil themselves, in order to have something to fix. this is not going to change. We are very good at making it seem as if it is going to, but in reality only a long seperation and reparation of ourselves is going to make us capable of having and maintaining a healthy relationship. as you may have noticed, i am one of those fixer uppers, so if you read your man to be that type, believe what i am telling you.

Should i give it another try... God Some one help me...

first of all: do not PRAY about it....sorry but it doesnt help you....second of all: give it some time..you need to give yourself a break and meet some other people..ya know just to see what's out there...then after a while if you still want your beau then go for it...that's all you can do