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What's wrong with looking forward to sex?

This question is mostly for Christians, but others may comment if you like.

It seems to me that almost everyone I meet (I said almost) thinks that Christian women aren't supposed to have sex drives. Now I am a Christian woman, and have committed to sexual purity, that is, abstaining from sexual activities before marriage and then only engage in sexual activities with my husband. But yes, I very much look forward to having sex with my husband one day. For some odd reason when I express this, most people are shocked, gasp and some even look at me like I just said I'd screw the next man who walks by me. It's not that I sit and fantasize about it or anything, I just look forward to it. Now if you are a Christian, tell me, what is so wrong with that?

I know that there are some people here who would say I shouldn't be waiting to have sex in the first place, but please, try to understand that I believe sex is something sacred to be shared between a husband and wife. I'm not here to change what you believe, or condemn anyone, so I hope you'll treat me with the same respect.


  • my thoughts

    Well I think it is great to wait till your married cuz then it is all the more special. I also think that there is nothing wrong with looking forward to sex, when you are in love (which I assume you would be if you marry a guy) you will want to express it in ways other than the sort of things friendships reqire... I think your marriage would suck if you didn't enjoy having sex. But that is not just my opinion, it says in a bible that it is good to have sex regularly inside of marriage, it brings you together, and God made sex, he invented it not just for child making but for pleasure.... believe it or not God actually wants you to be happy, and passionate... God loves passion cuz it is one of the drives that he gave us.... so sex is very good and should be a joy not a chore.

    44%  Voted for by Kaily, Arithni, faithfullydedicated, Makessenseright.
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  • Too many taboos

    Personally, I am not a religious person so I'm not going to comment on my thoughts about that part, but I do think it's great to look forward to having sex with your husband. This is why they have the expression, "Making love." A married couple should never have to feel bad about looking forward to those private moments with each other when they can totally and completely express themselves sexually with each other. There are many failed marriages and marital issues in general because they have terrible sex lives. I think it's awesome to have that kind of joy, excitement and desire for the person you share your life with. You shouldn't feel bad for desiring your husband...he is the man you married and for a reason. I think society has been so warped with "lusty" sex (like the media clips of Carmen Electra or Pam Anderson in swimsuits and barely there undies) that it is almost taboo for a married person to say they desire their spouse. It's as if the media puts the most emphasis on the "fantasy" sex, and that's truly a shame. Nobody should feel ashamed or embarassed when they say they like what they already have.

    22%  Voted for by YesterdaysFeelings, Arithni.
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  • i am not christian but i know many christaians so hear me out...

    sex is something sacred but a lot of christians (true christians i suppose) believe sex is to just produce children and should not be for pleasure...you should not look forward to or better yet express that you do because it is vulgar and just not nice for a religoous woman to say. i don't believe this but i have many christian friends who are appaled when i tell them i can't wait to be married and share my bed with my husband...i have stopped saying it in order to keep talking to them too. but i think that is the reason they view the thought itself as vulgar and inappropriate to even think let alone say aloud to other people who should not know anything like that about you...

    ~Ash~

    Voted for by ohsweetie2788.
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  • Nothing is Wrong!!!!

    Nowhere in the bible does it say that it is wrong to have sex. In fact the culture at the time very much embraced it. I understand that you want to wait, and that's fine. Looking forward to sharing something so powerful (emotionally and physically) with someone is not wrong. In fact you should be looking forward to it. Good luck....

    Voted for by IvoryRose.
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  • I'm a Christian...

    and I am soo excited to have sex with my wife (when I get married someday). No where in the bible does it say that women should not have a sex drive...meaning that women should be just as excited about sex as men. This isn't an invitation from God to let your sex drive take control of your actions (although you said that you wouldn't let that happen).

    If you want to hear a beautiful story about how wonderful sex is and how excited we should be about it....there is actually an entire book devoted to the poems and writings about sex (and love) by a husband (Solomon) and his wife...and this book is IN THE BIBLE (and people think that God is against sex...actually, he's totally for it...HE CREATED IT!!...but it's when people take it out of the context that He made it for is when God is against it. God created sex for pleasure and for the reason of having children...but it's only to be shared between a husband and wife). Anyway, that book in the bible is called Song of Solomon (or in some translations it's called Song of Songs). It's in the Old Testiment.

    I hope you continue to be excited and don't think it's wrong to feel that way!

    Voted for by UnspokenAmen.
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