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No31% Voted for by BabyMowgli, Walking Wounded, whisperinghope, Glamorous, candyecane2002. (6 total)
No you can’t they will always be a memory that you can’t erase, a part of you forever.
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Cut Someone Out26% Voted for by BabyMowgli, Energizer Bunny, candyecane2002, exquisite mind, looking4realtruth.
To cut someone out does not necessarily mean you do not love them, it might mean you just simply refuse to respond to those feelings. Having feelings and acting on them are 2 different things.
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good question10% Voted for by strangeillusion, strawberry gashes.
remember eternal sunshine of the spotless mind? just watch that movie and see the after effects of what happens when you seriously cut someone out for good. We are funny creatures, once we think we have our minds made up we change them…so I don’t believe you can actually cut someone out of your life mentally, but you sure can physically like stop seeing them. It also depends on the impact this person had…if it’s a relationship, of course it’s going to be that much harder to get them out of your life. And there’s always people who are on and off again…but it is possible to rid yourself of someone who did something negative to you by not seeing them and to rid yourself of anything that reminds them of you…but, the subconscious has a way of sneaking up on you and unlocking hidden memories…
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dependsVoted for by bettaproger.
sometimes you can’t get rid of the person. some times you can. if you realy want them gone, they will show up at the worste possible times over and over
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if you really want toVoted for by sweetypie101.
if you really want to cut someone out, you can. the brain is an amazing thing, and if something is turamatic enough.. it automatically shuts off that memory. with this same principle you can also "will yourself to forget".. alot of people dont have enough stength/willpower to do this though. anyway, cutting a person out is hard.. but possible, even if you cant will yourself to forget, if you let enough time pass, you just stop thinking of them. (this helps if you dont see them everyday) change your schedule so you dont cross paths, make new friends, shut down ur emotions, move, all this stuff is part of a successful cutting out.. trust me.. i've done it.
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Though I can, I have and I do, I know I can't.Voted for by ire.
Rather than 'cut people out' I am selective and practice inclusion sparingly. My life, my time, my home - these things are so precious that I offer the privlaage to few; However, I greatly value the privalidge when offered it realising, nevertheless, that it is all too easy to spread myself too thinly and so find, sadly, that I have to decline more freaquently than I would like. The very act of cutting someone out seems like a form of inclusion - for you have an invisible place at my table laid.
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nopeVoted for by crystaltips.
You cant cut someone completely out of your life. You have memories and im afraid there is no way to erase them. Little things always remind you of something they did/ they said. Cutting someone out is impossible.
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.Voted for by -BlackKnight-.
Nah. Even if one suffers from amnesia (brain damage being excluded here, because sometimes portions of the brain containing memories are destroyed, and in this case, those memories can never return), those memories are buried deep within their brain, and will surface eventually.
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Memories are good; they're the reason why you made your decision, you NEED to remember that!Voted for by Morgaine.
Well, I guess a good attempt isn't impossible. I've cut my father's side of the family out of my life, and it's working great for me. Sure it's not like they never existed; OFCOURSE not. If that were true, I wouldn't be as strong as I am now. But who says cutting people out is about making yourself feel like they never existed? To me, cutting them out of my life means; not acknowlegding them on special occasions (no Christmas cards, it would just be a masquerade anyway), not talking about them, when someone asks saying I don't have relatives on that side, getting rid of the pictures and making sure they stay out of my life. But I can't erase the memories. And I don't want to; they made me who I am today - a girl who is wise enough not to let those people control her life.
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I suppose
You can cut someone out of your life in the sense that you can have no contact with them, but as said, they will always be there as a memory. I think sometimes cutting someone out is a good thing. Whether it’s temporary or for good.
Right now my ex-boyfriend and I are going to cut the contact for a few months, because we have trouble just being friends (we don’t argue, we just end up in akward (*spell) situations). So we cut contact for a while, and then get back in contact when we feel like we’re ready for it…. I don’t know if it’s gonna work, but it’s worth a try.
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Relationships/Friendships
I find it rather amazing how two people can seem so right for each other one moment, and then cut each other out of each others’ lives the next. It makes you wonder whether or not to take what someone says to you seriously or not. Or it just goes to show you that some people don’t even understand themselves; or maybe I just don’t understand people.
I, personally, would rather not cut people out my life regardless of what has happened in the past. The past is the past, and nothing I can say or do will ever change it so there is no use in dwelling over it. And instead of idling, I prefer moving forward but not forgetting all that was learned/experienced. No matter how hard you may try to forget, something will bring you back to that someone, whomever that may be. You cannot let things linger just as you cannot let yourself linger as well; lingering doesn’t get you very far at all.
There are so many people out there to have more experiences with also. Just because you may want to stay in contact with your past, that doesn’t mean you must limit yourself when it comes to meeting someone new. Because (really) when do you know “this is it”?
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