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Why one feels attraction in same sex?

I met a guy who says that he takes interest in only men, especially in men who are hard, hairy, blackish and look more manly. He himself has fair complexion, plumpy physique and no hair on the whole body.He does not want to be gay as, it is perversion, he believes. Even then it is difficult for him to control himself. He likes to get nude before men. He declares it the fault of his environment and society. What do you think???????


  • take it from a gay guy

    there are several things about homosexual attraction that straight people are usually confused about and then they come up with a multitude of different theories as to why people are gay. so let me clarify

    1)people don't choose to be gay. i've seen this remark too many times from ignorant straight people. gay people don't choose to be gay anymore then straight people choose to be straight.and if one thinks about it, why would anyone choose to be gay considering all the antigay hate floating around everywhere.

    2)homosexuality is not caused by a tramatic experience. most gay people have never had a tramatic experience with any1 and their lives have been just the same as heterosexuals. plus there are children everyday that are molested and yet the majority of them turn out hetero.

    3)gay people can tell the difference between admiring and sexual desire. when i see a guy i really like my heart beats faster, i sometimes get a little nervous if im talking to him, and i get aroused. this same thing happens in straight guys when they see a woman they really like. this kind of attraction is much different than admiration and is very hard to get confused with that.

    so to answer the above question. no one knows (not even me) why gay people are gay. but i can assure you that whatever causes homosexuality is the same exact (but opposite) thing that causes heterosexuality. most likely though it has to do with what happens to you as a fetus while in your mothers womb and this is what most scientists agree on.

    18%  Voted for by cosmosis, Kazrith, Johndeereisqueer, buffytheparrotslaye, aria94. (6 total)
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  • love

    If you love someone it shouldn't matter the sex. Love is a natural emotion that is hungered for by those who live. Without the one you truely love with you then what's the point? It shouldn't matter the sex of your loved one but the feelings they give to you and the feelings you give to them. Gender is just a formality and the terms 'straight', 'gay', and 'bi' are just used in the process of elimination so people can decide more easily who they want. But even with a type and prefered gender they may wander when true love calls.

    12%  Voted for by Akito, cosmosis, buffytheparrotslaye, Nathan Explosion.
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  • Some Science for you all

    I'm going to try to add a little science into the debate to help explain some things. First of all, sexual behaviour is determined while still under fetal development. How it works is this:

    Testosterone is converted to Estrogen in the brain by an enzyme called aromatase. This estrogen in the brain during fetal development causes male sexual behaviour. Estrogen cannot freely enter the brain, because of a specific protein called, alpha-fetoproteins. Therefore, only testosterone can enter the brain, not estrogen.

    So, males produce a significantly larger amount of testosterone than do females. Therefore, females do not have very much conversion of testosterone to estrogen in the brain. Also, since the alpha-fetoproteins bind the rest of their estrogen, females do not get much estrogen in their brain at all. Thus, females develop female sexual behavior. Males have a lot of testosterone, and therefore convert a lot of testosterone to estrogen in their brain.Now, here is where I talk about where things can go wrong. If a male has defect in his aromatase enzymes in his brains, he may not get enough estrogen in his brain. Similarly, if the male does not produce enough testosterone during this fetal period, he will have the same problem. This problem is the development of female sexual behavior. Many men who have this problem are physiologically just like any other male, but, have female sexual behavior. They are attracted to males and act, often, like females in their manarisms and their speech.

    The same thing can happen to females. If a female has a defect in her alpha-fetoproteins or produce more testosterone than normal during this fetal period, they will develop male sexual behaviour.

    I hope this clears things up for all of you out there on how being gay is not a choice and is natural, especially for you ignorant raging homophobes. Good day.

    -Dan Feldman (medical student)

    6%  Voted for by DryIce808, harkey.
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  • My two cents.

    Its security/insecurity. Or at least, that's what I believe. I think you're friend is insecure with himself and doesnt want to accept himself. Maybe because he'll be teased. But that's just my opinion.

    6%  Voted for by Joyce DeGuia, normality.
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  • Both admiration and desire

    From a lesbian's view point I have experienced feelings of admiring another females body, and feelings of desiring that female sexually at the same time. Its always been suggested to me that I turn my head to look at a beautiful woman because I wish I looked like that, or I admired things about her that I didn't posess. Most of the time admiration and desire for another female goes hand in hand. Thats what makes sexuality so complicated.

    6%  Voted for by Doctor Delusional, Emotions.
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  • my belief

    I have often wondered this. I think a certain amount of homosexuals are actually admiring beauty in another man and mistake it for sexual attraction. There is nothing wrong with a man thinking another man is beautiful, but this thought isn't acceptable in our society, so these people release it in a way that doesn't exactly coincide witht heir feelings. I don't think this is for everbody though. i also believe if the brain produces more estrogen than testosterone, that the imbalance can cause someone to have more homosexual tendencies. That's what I believe on this controversial topic.

    6%  Voted for by Joshua Scott Peck, Emotions.
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  • Bisexual Guy

    I have to agree with cosmosis here. i feel the same things he does for men, just with both sexes. but i have to say what i find attractive in a girl is not the same as what i find in a guy. essentually they are different but when i look at the raw feelings, they are the same.

    oh and to shed light on the friend who doesnt feel right with every type of man, completely natural. seriously, think about it, you are attracted to traits of the other sex, same with the same sex. he just doesnt fancy hairy men like some men dont fancy hairy or obese women.

    6%  Voted for by Kazrith, cosmosis.
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  • Sexual fun

    I'm bisexual, i used to be lesbian because i was raped and refused to have anything to do with men but since then realised that i'm attracted them too much although i didnt want to be. I love both men and women and can fall inlove with both. Alot of people become attracted to the same sex for just sexual fun. Open minded people who just want a good time and i think there is nothing wrong with that.

    6%  Voted for by PureAmethyst, Emotions.
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  • Homosexuality is bad

    It is a choice you make. plain and simple. Homosexuality is also disgusting, non productive, and it makes soceity look bad. Soceity is teaching our children that homosexuality is OK, and soon soceity will be full of wussy men who talk like girls and shake their butts when they walk. Give me a break. Be a man, and stay straight.

    6%  Voted for by Johndeereisqueer, Mujtaba H Zaidi.
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  • Texture............

    I think there is also something attractive in different parts of body for different people. Those males who feel more attraction in buttocks than in vagina, are more likely to get involved in sodom/ gay relationships. Same is case with females, as they feel attraction in big breasts and are driven towards girls.

    6%  Voted for by Emotions, looking4realtruth.
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  • just a thought

    i do not know i am not attracted to the same sex but i have friends who are and mabe it is they had something tramatic happen with someeone with the opposite sex so they go look for saftey in their own, or they simply do not get along with the opposite sex they then go look for compainionship in the same?

    Voted for by looking4realtruth.
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  • First experience

    sometimes, a boy/girl has his/her very first sex with the member of his own sex, and this first experience may develop his/her taste for the same. So, it becomes difficult for him/her to enjoy more taste while doing sex with the opposite sex. So it may also be a good reason for the same. Similarly, if a boy has been used as catamite either willingly or forcibly, he cannot remain without being the passive partner as he has already performed the role of passive. So, his thirst transfers from active/top to passive/bottom. Also, one thinks that the person of the same sex can easily understand and fulfil the requirements of the member of the same sex...

    Voted for by Emotions.
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  • SOMETHING MISSING

    I don't consider any answer satisfactory one. There are some environmental causes that change the taste from opposite sex to the same sex...

    Voted for by Mujtaba H Zaidi.
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  • Lines, Lines, Lines

    Why does everyone have to draw lines... what if all men have a little gay guy in in them and all girls have a little gay girl in them and sometimes that other person is bigger than the outside person? What if we are all a little gay more or less and if that is what manifest itself to our surroundings then so be it. Why the need to label everything and everyone? What's more important than whether one is more one than the other is that one does not become unduly influenced one way or the other by external forces. Be what YOU want to be.

    Voted for by Michael Dennis Rivers.
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  • It doesn't really matter

    First, the medical student added some undeniable factual evidence to this argument. What he failed to mention (or maybe I missed it) is that a fetus that is introduced to abnormal amounts of estrogen or testosterone will obviously develop certain behavior characteristics of that sex. So homosexuality may be gentic. The evidence cannot be cast aside.

    As someone else also mentioned, a female may be attracted to another female because of a horrible experience with a male (Lets face it: we males are a disgusting bunch). The same could apply to a male being molested by a female.

    And some people just like to have sex. And by being bisexual (which also makes one a homosexual) they increase their chances of intercourse. The sensation of coming is a great sensation, now isn't it? The act of it all is also pleasurable. We all know humans are quite partial to pleasure, no matter how we acquire it.

    But it doesn't really matter, unless you are homosexual of course. No straight human being would ever be able to aptly understand homosexuality, other than on a "scientific" level, unless they have someone who is queer tell them of it, or they've secretly had gay experiences. The latter is the more likely choice.

    Voted for by VariousSingularity.
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    In a word...boobs.

    No, seriously, for me, it's just a natural attraction. Never felt anything towards guys, just girls. end of story.
    Voted for by A Thought Persists.
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