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Can you put an age on love?

  • 20ish?

    I do believe that under the age of 20 you cannot experience the ideal form that is "Love". This is generally because most people, (and I only say most people, you might be different) aren't mature enough to understand what it is under this age. People over this age might not either, everyone grows at different rates. And there are going to be people below who can experience this at this age, and people above who will never understand it..

    Many people have a different defination of what love is, and thats fine, because obviously its different to everyone. But I do think you cannot experience something that full on, until you've managed to get to the point in life where you love yourself, you aren't dependent on anyone else for anything and you can take care of yourself. Maybe you can do that at 16. I know I can't.

    Personally speaking, I do think that teenagers do have the tendency of rushing into things (being one myself) and not thinking these things through. I think the word "love" is used too lightly, and not enough emotion/understanding goes into it, but not that it isn't a "form" of love. I just don't think you can experience..well for a lack of words, "Proper" love. I don't think "proper" love is instant, like most teenagers think it is. I think it takes time to grow, to properly love that person in the full way would take years.

    Its almost like you get a smidgen of it, not the knowledge that love doesn't consist of just love. There's other things in it as well, compassion, etc etc.. I could go on all day. But then, its different for everyone. *shrug*

    28%  Voted for by Kegger, RuthArabellaTrasher, atrain, Frail Braid, looking4realtruth. (8 total)
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  • Put an age on love? I dare you!

    I am in a wonderful relationship with my best friend lover companion boyfriend and my fiancee. He is six months older than me and I am 16 years old. We get told all the time that we are too young and we don't know what love is and we will eventually break-up or it is just puppy-teenage love and we will get over it. I always end up asking them to put an age on love and they can't do it. I am happy with him and no one seems to really notice it. I the happiest I have ever been in my life with him.

    We also went out for three months before he asked me to marry him as well. but I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I just want to ask you all: Can you put an age on love?

    17%  Voted for by RockerChickNeo1281, DavesGirl0216, RuthArabellaTrasher, ohsweetie2788, ThisEndUp.
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  • nope

    there is NO age whatsoever for love. The reason people think there is an age is because they are actually thinking that the people in question aren't mature enough to understand love from their perspecive. Love during the 50th anniversary in a committed marraige and love during the first year of a relationship is the same love, just more evolved. Basically, once you can honestly say there is no question in your mind that you love someone, then you've got it. Also keep in mind, there is a difference between loving and being in love. But that's a whole other debate all together.

    10%  Voted for by Joshua Scott Peck, RuthArabellaTrasher, ohsweetie2788.
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  • Its all yours

    Love is YOUR feeling, and noone can make it or break it, NO AGE MATTERS, just hearts souls and feeling!

    10%  Voted for by Millyphilly, LinkStarwind, RockerChickNeo1281.
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    Can you define love?

    7%  Voted for by IiYiIiIzage, beauty-of-neptune.
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  • No Age For Love

    I'm in love, I have been since I was thirteen years old, and I've been dating the same guy for almost four years now. There is NO age on love, no matter how mature or how old you get. You can't control when, why, or who you fall in love with. It's not possible. Yes, there are cases where there are "puppy-love" or whatever, but when it's real love, you feel a real click, not just a physical one, but a mental one. Like they're the last thing you think about when you close your eyes to sleep, and the first thing you think of when they open again in the morning. And when you sit here and tell anyone about it, they shun you for it and say it'll end, but you don't know that. You never know, soul mates come at any age and you can't control that age, so there is no age for love. Sorry, wait, no I'm not. Because if I was, I wouldn't be with the wonderful guy I'm with now so I'm not sorry.

    - Cait -
    7%  Voted for by RockerChickNeo1281, prettyangeleyes.
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  • No Age

    I believe that love has no age and has no boundaries. No matter what someone says, being young doesn't mean we can't love. We have feelings just as much as someone who si 20 or over. We feel, we hurt, and most of all we can love. Just because were teens doesn't mean a thing. I mean how many people have been high school sweethearts and got married. Or fell in love at a young age and got married.Come on that proves that love has no age.

    Voted for by XxToRnSoUl2666xX.
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  • Ah, Love

    Love takes on many different forms, but for the purposes of this, I will use romantic love as the basis for what I am saying.

    Young people experience love just as intensely as anyone else experiences love. The reason we tend to rush into things has a lot to do with developement, and the emotions surrounding it. Just because we can love more quickly does not make the feeling any less intense. While I have not gotten past the age of 20 as of yet, there are also psychologists that agree with me here. I don't know of any sort of "proper" love... I have never regretted a relationship, because every feeling of love I have ever shared with another person has shaped who I am, and how I treat others. Does a relationship that formed in a day make it any less of a relationship?

    Love has been compared to insanity, and in many cases, they are similar. An insane person truly believes whatever delusion they are suffering. Just because they're in an insane asylum doesn't make the feeling any less real for them. In many cases, love works the same way. What others can clearly see would not be love for them, is very real love for someone else.

    Voted for by darkpoet1987.
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  • Age doesn't matter

    When your in love and it's true love age doesn't make a difference. Hell my boyfriend is 7 years older then I am and I love him to death. I would be completely lost right now if it wasn't for him. You love who you love, you can't help it. Your not suppose to help it. It just happens and it's meant like that. Don't question it go with it. Age is nothing but a mere number that in my opinion is useless to a lot of things.

    Voted for by care bear love.
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  • A thought

    An age on love is somewhat naive. For one to assume they understand how another's mind works is ignorent of anyone who thinks it. Love may be felt at any age, but of course, as everything in the mind, it develops over time, and becomes more intricate. This is not to say that a 15year old cannot feel love, it may not be as deep as it could be when they are older, but they can still feel it (major variable- how developted ones mind is)

    Voted for by Indifferentopinion.
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  • No.

    You can be in love, in real love, if you have matured enough. There isn't a set age on when we all mature. Everyone is different, so for someone to tell a young person that they are not in love, is wrong in my book.

    Also, I suppose everyone may percieve love differently. Which makes my explanation of things harder to do. Woe is me.

    Voted for by ThisEndUp.
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  • Never. Love and age(number)=nothing 2 do with each other

    Since the birth of a child, a child and mother learn to bond and love one another. If you look at young children and the love/connection shared with their families(partents& siblings) that is proof that you can't put an age on love. Although the young one's cannot express that what they feel is love, im sure if their loved ones were taken away they would feel it. And yes i understand this is not the love we are talking about, it's just this is proof that at any age, young or old we can feel love and it is extremley wrong and INSULTING to say that someone under 20 canot experience love, that is BULL****(SORRY). But one thing i can agree on is that i too think the word love has been used lightly. Perhaps everyones standards and how they measure love are different. To me love is something that's beautiful, strong but also very destructive and scary. Love can ruin your life. Back to the whole age factor.. I think that at the age of 17 i have experienced what i felt to be my first love. It has changed me as a person, and the thing is my love is so strong(that even though we aren't together) and it's been over a year, i will always love this person, whole heartedly, uncondtionally(just like i have unconditional love for my family) not in a gross way though. I just don't think it's fair to say young teenagers can't experience love. It's fair to say that everyone at their own time will experience what they feel to be real love to them. And so what if you don't agree, it's their lives. Let them be happy/miserable.... Age and love have nothing to do with each other as age are just numbers and love is something hard to explain(emotions,feelings,connections etc.)

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