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Is love marriage a better opinion, rather than an arranged one?

Love marriage is where the couple choose each other for their marrige but in arranged one it is the right of the family to choose.


  • I think it is better

    I married for love, and am happy with my choice. I'm married because I want to be, not because of some percieved family obligation. I chose my own wife, I didnt have my parents pick me out one. Thank God for that, too. If you saw the clothes they made me wear to school, you would find their judgement as questionable as I do.

    Parents who arrange marriages are selfish. They are only thinking of their own benefit, and not the happiness of their children. They think spouses are so generic, that they can be bought and sold like household appliances. that de-humanizes the whole idea of marriage.

    40%  Voted for by NeferMaatNetjer, The Blind Bandit.
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  • "In-Love" is not real

    Maybe marriages would be better if they were arranged. Marriage is an institution, and technically, love is not the best thing to plan your life on. I don't necessarily feel this is better, but when I logically think about it, I think we would be healthier if we arranged our marriages with the understanding that it is not based on romance. If you were going to work with anyone in any situation, you would want it to be with someone you clicked with. You should have the same option with your partner. That is why I am not for child-bride/groom arranged marriages. Maybe you don't need to be "in-love" with your partner...which is actually a self-centered feeling, but you have to respect, trust and get-along with them. By pre-arranging a marriage, you do not get that chance to find a person that you would like to share your life with. But unless you plan on having kids....why even bother?

    Voted for by Sol La Mae.
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  • A person should fall inove with someone for themself but be careful at the choice made

    This is a though topic to make judgements on. Parents THINK in the best INTEREST for their children but may NOT ALWAYS RIGHT.

    A person who is looking to get marry must be careful at their choice. Since they have the freedom to choose MUST TAKE TIME, for this is a long term decision for their OWN LIFE. So as parents we can give our best advice and pray for God to bless them in the descision the make.

    I believe some one should fall inlove before there is a marriage. It could be either way in seeing someone for them self or if the parents happen to see someone they think might work for them. But remember that individual have to LOVE that person because they have to live with that person for the rest of their life. So it is important for a person to love with all their heart for that marriage to work.

    PERSONAL I always want to fall in love for myself and thank GOD the the day he blessed me to find someone.I am married for 15 years now.

    The little secret: My cousin saw a a teacher in her school and told me she saw a guy she really like for me. I was just 18 years old. "I told her thanks but it is ok." (In guyana)

    My mom saw this same guy in a supermarket and told me she saw a nice guy for me.I was 22 years old "I told her thanks it is ok"(Antigua)

    My sister saw a guy and told me she saw a guy for me.

    I saw this guy in a store and fell in love with him. My mom or my cousin nor me know is the same guy we have been seeing. Eachother just see him and knows nothing about him but only knew he was handsome no background or so.

    I did not make contact with him but went back to see him he was not there. "I lost him and felt so sad."(for three weeks) My sister and I went to a to a office for business and found he were the one in the office we had to see.

    From there we met my sister was happy for me. In four months we got married and have three beautiful children.

    When I took him to see my cousin she said that is the guy I told you about and my mom said the same. So all of us did not know is the same guy we were talking about.I think he was meant for me.

    Voted for by rosepoet.
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  • Beliefs
    I, personally, am for a love-marriage. I have friends who know people, or are in, arranged marriages though. You see, the thing is, it's all on what you were raised to believe.

    I have plenty of Indian friends, and though it is a stereotype, they do have friends who are in arranged marriages. They've shown me that arranged marriages aren't bad, just different.

    They pointed out that love marriages are made because the couple loves each other. Arranged marriages are made because of family bonds, or from a religious perspective. Well, when you are growing up, if you are taught the whole time that arranged marriages are how the world works, guess what? You're going to be okay with arranged marriages. And that's why they work so well!

    The main thing they pointed out was this; arranged marriages always work, when love marriages don't have that guaruntee. You will hardly ever find an arranged marriage couple wanting a divorce. It's because they were raised to believe it is correct, and they are fine with that!

    When in a love marriage, the couple marries for their love of each other. Some of the time this works out perfectly, others it doesn't.

    To get to the point I'm trying to make, there really isn't a better decision, arranged marriages or love marriages. It just all depends on how you were raised and your beliefs.
    Voted for by Blaze1616.
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