This is about causing self harm such as cutting, burning, etc. I would just like to see peoples views on this topic.
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We are Not Crazy....21% Voted for by dianagirl18, Aislinn-Marie, BrOKen AnGel87, pozo, samvasu. (9 total)
i, being a “cutter” think that people who cut themselves are not crazy. i just think that we need to learn a better way to cope with pain and anger and all of our negative feelings. i mean, i do occasionally cut. not as much as i used to, but i still do sometimes. I AM NOT IN ANY WAY CRAZY!!
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hate it16% Voted for by Manson227, AshesToDiamond, xsilenced tears, 5th position Gb, the affluent poor. (7 total)
I’m sick of it being the “cool” thing to do. I’ve overheard a conversation in which the comment “you can’t be goth unless you cut yourself!” was made; I’ve had people shrug and say “oh, I was just bored” and I’ve spoken to people who say they’re “proud” of it.
I’ve self harmed for five years. It is not “cool”; it’s not a fashion statement; it’s not a badge of pride. It’s a damaging thing and is a symptom of deeper issues- that need dealing with. It’s something I hate and is linked, for me, to all sorts of ** that yes, in a perfect world I’d sort out but I haven’t. It’s about long sleeves and lying and blaming the cat.
It’s not something that can be slid on and off. And for anyone who thinks it’s about control- yes, you’re right. But let’s clear one thing up- you will have control of it for a very short space of time. Soon, it will control you; it will be a compulsion and it just isn’t worth it.
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To feel alive11% Voted for by Kevin, Glamorous, ohsweetie970, xsilenced tears, the affluent poor.
most people who cut just want to make sure they can still bleed and are still human, others just want attention.
Either way it is not because they are crazy but they need something from people that they are not getting
They need reassurance of something, i would know i am 17 and have cut myself since i was 11, i regret doing it and have just recently stopped, it is hard becuz i am not sure whether i have a heart anymore or not…
Ash
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Depends on the situation9% Voted for by Aislinn-Marie, ohsweetie970, CrimsonKisses, xsilenced tears.
For many people, it is a way to let things out. For others, it is a way to get attention. Both of those kinds of people need help. Cutting just for attention makes me sick and insulted, as I am a cutter. The traditional belief that cutters are insane and just hack at their skin with anything they can find is insulting and definitely not true. Of course, when I cut sometimes it is over something incredibly not worth my time, but only AFTER I’m done. However, when you cut, you do feel the pain. You do feel every single cut on your body that you make. It’s not something to mask the pain, it’s a way to make physical pain to cover up emotional pain. It’s not a brainless activity, I think a lot while I’m doing it.
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well...7% Voted for by Manson227, ohsweetie970, a696wench696m.
Ive been cutting since I was 12. I havent cut in about a year, the only reason I hold pride in those scars is because its something I have overcome. I dont know if you could even really say pride though…just some feeling that isent really negative. But along with that feeling comes a lot of negative ones. Its quite embarresing when your talking to someone and you hear “Whats all that on your arm?” Because of it, I have problems being naked infront of people, even swimming. Thats sad, I have turned down so many invatations to do things with friends and family because my body is completely scarred.
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I cut,... used to cut rather.4% Voted for by candyecane2002, True Sorrow.
Being a cutter, for me its because I cant cry. So when I started to cut it was to see tears in the form of blood. Now I do it for other reasons, like when I just get pushed over the edge and I cant handle it, I cut, and it releases endophines in the brain to satisfy me, and it makes me calm, it makes me relaxed again. Some people cut for other reasons, they cut to get attention, they cut because they cant deal with the emotions, ect…
BUT I promised my bf that I would stop, and I have… I think.
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CarefulVoted for by Scrap.
Please be careful about this everyone.
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
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Mental HelpVoted for by Energizer Bunny.
If I ever feel the need to cut myself on purpose then I hope my family knows its time to lock me away somewhere.
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Honestl...Voted for by darkdragon.
Honestly i think Cutting is one of the worse things that you can do… my two best friends went into it andnow the one got surgery and the other is on pain killers…and i am beginning to wonder why or how you all can do this to yourselves…its no more better then any other drugs or anything..all you are doing is waiting for your immune system to go down and you die from some disease that noone sees often and i for one cannot Stand by and wait for you people to do that…Those are my thoughts..i do not care if you agree or disagree
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Self InjuryVoted for by PsydewaysTears.
My view on the topic…. is that you all should stop doing it right now. If you think it’s disgusting that I want you not to hurt yourself, then my stance has changed a little bit. If you think it’s disgusting that I want you to stop hurting yourself… then I’d like to do the hurting myself. Yes. I’d like to cause pain to every person who hates me for wanting them not to hurt themselves. I hope you all hurt so bad that a new definition for the word pain becomes introduced into your sorry lives. And I want to be the one that strangles it into you.
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Nothing wrongVoted for by samvasu.
It really does depend on the individual situation… people do things like this for a whole multitude of reasons, so i dont believe that its possible to generalise. However, i do think that there’s nothing “wrong” with self injury; one is entitled to do what they like with themselves!
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I cutVoted for by Obsidian Dreams.
cut for other reasons. I suppose in a way I am crazy and need help. I cut because I like to counter emotional pain with physical. Sometimes because i feel dirty, sometimes out of sheer boredom. I need help. I do want people to find out, but the right people. Not because i want attention. But I want help.
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Coping MethodVoted for by AranC.
Cutting is a coping mechanism. There are many reasons why people self harm, yes, there are some who do it for attention seeking but they are actually the exception. And even if it is for attention seeking doesn't that indicate that there is a probem still, that they should feel the need to go so far to seek attention? Reasons for cutting and other forms of self injury are: 1: To release pressure, sometimes when we are stressed and we are unable to do anything to stop that stress it feels as if pressure is building up inside, SI, cutting in particular relieves that pressure, phsycologically. 2: To punish theirselves, they feel guilty or responsible for something that's probably not their fault, so they punish tmeselves by SI. They feel 'ugly', 'worthless', 'useless', again it's a type of punishment. 3: By causing an 'outer' actual pain, they can divert themselves from their inner pain. Maybe they are being abused, or feel less than they are, for whatever reason they feel this great emotional pain and don't know how to deal with it.
I could go on but I won't, I would end up writing a book here. :-) If anyone would like to understand more about self injury and other coping methods, IM me, I'll always answer. :-)
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nothing wrong with the peole who cut... its the cutting itsself....Voted for by what if love7 .
there is NOTHING wrong with the people who cut.. its the cutting itself that is wrong. its interesting that i came across this post actully.. i quit cutting myself along time ago.. but today i had to deal with a pain so bad that it was the only thing i could think to do.
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Cutting itselfVoted for by phoenix risen.
Cutting is wrong.Nothin is wrong with the people (I know I quoted what if love there) But seriously though,it's annoying how people do it for attention,because it's "COOL".It's NOT cool.>.It's just our way (yes I'm a cutter tooo)of copign with things.You think you have controld,but you don't.I personally dislike people who do it for attention.But also,I really wish people would understand us,so we don't have to go "Oh,I fell" or "I climbed a tree and it scratched me" Those are my excuses..EVERYTIME
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CuttingVoted for by DerANgeD iNTeNtIonS.
cutting is not for attention.....i will addmit that there are people out there who do it for attention...and this makes me so mad....it is not something to use in that manner......and it makes people think that all cutters do it for that reason...and this is not the case.... as a cutter i know......people who cut do so to feel anything...perhaps all they know is pain, or they are batteling very dark issues from thier pasts or present.......they don't flaunt their cuts around...it is their secret...and for many a shameful one...but it becomes an addiction...and a very powerful one. it is survival.....and no one who doesn't cut or self harm in anyother way...(and the're are many ways that go un- noticed...) wouldn't understand the control it takes......when you feel bad about yourself.......or anyother number of reasons that i don't wish to get into you cut......it's like crying because cutters (at least alot of them) can't cry.......so to cut is to release their pain... and you can finnaly feel the pressure that has been builing up can flow away and you feel numb yet again........we are not crazy!!!!!!!!! we are not mentally unstable......infact we should be congratulated for being able to survive........to not go further and kill ourselves.......because self injury and suicde are two completely different subjects...when you cut you are despreatly trying to hold on to life....to feel and know you are alive.....and suicide you want to die....you've had enough and you let go....anyways enough rampling....hope that shed some light....
~tasha~
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July 9, 2005
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July 15, 2005
Its keeps me living.
I'm a cutter and I'm 14. I think people that cut is not crazy nor has a mental problem. I started cutting 4 years ago. Cutting is just another to deal with anger.I don't see nothing wrong with it.I think that people that don't cut misjudge people that do.Once a cutter,always a cutter.Its never gonna changed.September 16, 2005
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No one is always any thing
I know what it is like to cut, I did it years ago before it was talked of. I did it because I was in such isolation that I wanted to be sure that I was alive. I did it to find an easier pain than the one I had been overwelmed by. I did it because I wanted to live not die I stopped and never tried to find life their again. I wish I could say that life does not have many victim roles but this one I gave up a long time ago. No person alive can stop change it is live itself.August 6, 2005
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misunderstood
Cutters are misunderstood. First, people think we're trying to kill ourselves. Then, eventually, they get over that and they start to think that they can get us to stop. Like we can just stop, just like that. Cutting is a way of dealing with inner pain. You can't get rid of that, you can't ignore it. It's an addiction. People just don't understand unless they've been there. Kind of fucked up but we ought to at least be able to explain it to others without them automatically decided that they know more about it than us. I know which pair of pants are more comfortable, even if my mother thinks I don't need that particular size; I know about how cutting helps me deal with my life, even if everyone else tries to tell me that they've got it all figured out. If people would just be more open-minded and ready to listen rather than freaking out, maybe we could help them understand, and then maybe they can help us overcome self-mutilation. ...I dunno, just an opinion....October 22, 2005
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March 18, 2006
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Hurting yourself is not healthy
as a recovered "cutter" myself, I speak from experience. cutting can cause infection. it is not a healthy behavior. apart from permanent scars, cutting can cause nerve damage, or, as happened to me once, you could slice into an artery or vein , and seriously bleed. Even if your intent is not suicide, it just might turn out that way. so, if you cut, you might want to consider a healthier alternative, like S&M or something.Please register or login to comment! It's totally free