People try to get self-esteem from tons of places, but ALMOST no one is self-assured and happy with who they are.
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labels13% Voted for by NeferMaatNetjer, piazza cavour, The Blind Bandit.
from the time we are babies, we are labeled like jars. people put labels on you to dissect you, to define you, to set borders around you. to classify you and catagorize you. to tell you who you can be with, and who you can't. to tell you what you are allowed to become, and program you into that mindset. labels, to brianwash you into thinking that you are stupid, and that your wants do not matter. Labels, to determine what kind of behavior is expected of you, and to ensure that you will do it. Labels, to tell you you cannot rise above a janitors job, because your family is poor. Labels, that say "you have to do drugs" because you are from the city. Labels that tell you that you will never succeed beacuse of your race, and that you must accept less that your potential. Labels, The worst idea man has ever had to put upon himself.
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bullying13% Voted for by trashed, piazza cavour, The Blind Bandit.
personally, as someone with low self esteem, i think most people with low self esteem are bullied somewhere along the line, emotionally or physically. it's a slippery slope, and once your self confidence drops, unless something changes drastically for the better, you carry on thinking bad thoughts until you think you're completely worthless and don't even like people looking at the pile of crap you think you are. but it's all an illusion, and as soon as you find someone to appreciate you, things look up. in fact, i think it's a positive experience, because once you dig yourself out of that hole you never get taken in by other peoples b0llocks again (touch wood
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Self esteem...13% Voted for by NeferMaatNetjer, NinelDuellen, The Blind Bandit.
Self-esteem is created by a loving and accepting environment. In a world where no one is loving and no one is accepting, it's hard to have self-esteem. Everyone is too fat, too skinny, too ugly, stuck up, too tall, too short...the list goes on. Everyone has a flaw, which must mean they are HORRIBLE. And society blows that one flaw out of proportion, look at teen magazines. Every 2 or 3 pages there is another ad or another article on how you can improve the way you look. And millions of people read this, so everyone thinks they aren't good enough. Self-esteem starts with self-acceptance. With everyone trying to improve themselves and no one being happy with who they are, the world is going downhill. ~Ashleigh
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SOCIETY13% Voted for by kriz, piazza cavour, The Blind Bandit.
I think one of the reasons why people have low self esteem is because often times they are told by other people that they are not good/smart enough to do some thing i know from personal expierence and i wanted to be a vet my whole life but people have always told me that i wasent smart enough and i am going to pcc next month to start vet tech stuff
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Self indulgent9% Voted for by Annefreak, piazza cavour.
Wanted to look a way, act a way, be a way to fit in or whatever will give you low self esteem because that model just, you know, does it so much better then you. Someone with low self esteem cares so much about what others think of them... to me, it seems kinda self indulgent.
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.Sorry, this may sound mean, but it's the truth. If someone bullies another person, it is not the "bull-er"'s fault, but the "bull-ee"'s for allowing the bullies to push them around. If a bully can bully someone, then that someone already has low self esteem and the bully just took advantage of the situation.9% Voted for by Stella Cadente, M.Ridgway.
Personally...I used to bully and be bullied all the time when I was a kid, but nothing happened because my parents never made a big deal out of it. I think it is the fact that everyone makes such a big deal about everything....you try to be honest and they tell you you're mean...someone asks for your honest opinion about their outfit let's say, and if you say that you don't like it, they'll say you're rude.
PARADOXES!!! The same people who said that HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY, also practically say don't say what you think because you might hurt someone's feelings.
I asked my friend if I was mean, and she told me that I was. I knew she was joking because she's my friend...but a girl who listened to our conversation was shocked to hear that my friend said that to me and the words "you hurt my feelings" did not come out of my mouth.
People take things wayyy too personally nowadays. That's what it is.
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Lack of Love9% Voted for by Makessenseright, piazza cavour.
People can't have any self-worth unless they know they are important to someone. I think the only way for someone to be totally self-confident without knowing that God always loves us regradless of what you do.
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YoU CaN MaKe tHe ChAnGe YoU WaNt to SeE iN YoUrSeLfVoted for by prettygirl86j.
A low self-esteem can result from troubling early-on experiences such as different kinds of abuse, lack of effort in parenting, and bullying. A child becomes a victim in "seemingly" self-confident world. The media targets it's weaker victims with unrealistic images of what people "should" be like. This doesn't make things any better. Low self-esteem and low self-respect go hand in hand. Unconfident womem don't have respect for themselves so they seek relationships to validate rather than enhance themselves. Some get the "booty call blues". That is, they seek partners to feel the closeness of a partner and don't end up in long-term relationships. This happens because they don't feel that they are desirable enough to keep a partner interested. As a woman, I don't know enough about men on this issue but none-the-less a low-self esteem is similar and bound to continue if there is a lack of will or support to change it. ...and speaking of will, one CAN make a change through recognition and desire. Self-esteem is a touchy issue, therefore it is wise to seek professional help because low-self esteem is usually geered toward a deeper issue. Jessie, F, 19
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Because they are dullVoted for by ExpensiveThinker.
Maybe their low self esteem means they're onto something...
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Look AroundHow many people have you belittled without thinking? How many people have done the same to you? These things stick. More importantly, how many magazines have you flipped through and wanted to look just like that. How many movies, television shows etc. have you seen where the main character is flawed physically. We want to be loved, appreciated, ect. and the media tells us that you must be that way to get these things. Obviously we will never find the guy of our dreams if we don't look like "that girl." When we grow up being told that we this is the way that good, pretty, intelligent, successful people are, it gets into our heads that we won't be anything of those things unless we look/do/are just like that. Not many are strong-minded enough to look at these messages their entire lives and not be affected by them. Hooray society.Voted for by Monkei.
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As a positve thinkerVoted for by frndofyaweh.
...and believer in Christ; I feel no lows of anything. I am always highly esteemed by God, as one of his children and He being my Father, is proud of my accomplishments. When I fail at a certain thing, I am not belittled or lowered, in my mind or spirit, But cxhallenged to improve or move on to the next big adventure. Failure is a learning experience. I am beautiful in someones eyes and if not; what does it matter, in my positive mind?
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