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Common Sense Question23% Voted for by sweetypie101, Natsumi Nuada, Dienush, Augusta Agrippina.
Obviously a woman shouldnt have a child if she's not ready for it:
Emotionally because if she isnt emotionally ready her issues could seriously harm the child.. women who are not ready to face parenthood dont make good parents. Plain and simple. There are people who dont think they're ready when they really are... but for people who truly arent ready.. it becomes hard to love the child and treat it as it deserves if you resent it or feel its too big of a thing for you to handle.
Financially: Obviously because if you can't afford to support and raise the child you shouldn't be bringing it into this world. Every person deserves to have thier basic needs met.. if you have to rely on the government for this yourself... you shouldnt be bringing more people into the world to rely on other people's money as well.
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hmmmmm, lemme think.....23% Voted for by looking4realtruth, Weydon, sweetypie101, -TheLoneWolf-.
WELL NO! DUH! If they're not ready for it there's no reason they should do it.
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No, but really...17% Voted for by NoUseForAName, NeferMaatNetjer, eyeseverchanging.
As a parent, I don't think anyone is EVER ready for a child. You think you are- financially, emotionally, or otherwise. But as soon as the child comes into the world, everything you thought gets thrown out the window. I think people should wait- I had my daughter young and even though I was more prepared than others, I would've been much more prepared had I waited.
It's a hard decision to make, but I don't think any one is ever ready.
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who is EVER prepared?17% Voted for by OrodrethC, NeferMaatNetjer, Nosferatu.
in the entire history of humanity, has any couple ever been PREPARED for children? I seriously doubt it! I think the best any parent can do is adapt, improvise, and overcome, and hope you are doing the right thing with no real knowledge of the outcome.
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Stay out of it.................Voted for by Nosferatu.
The question I would have to ask is, who is it that is going to decide who is emotionally ready, and by what criteria is this judgement going to be made. Same goes for the finacial status. I have known poor people who are happy and stable and I have known wealthy folks who are angry and unstable.
I for one can think of no one entity, (person or council) who would be qualified to make such determinations.
Can any of you honestly say you would be willing to create such an entity. Who,s to say that some day public opinion could not be swayed to disallow entire groups of people from reproducing simply because.........
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This brings up a LOT of thingsVoted for by Dark-Scorpion.
Like for instance, what did couples do before methods of birth control? After all, people were getting married much younger than they tend to today, and were having bigger families. Why did it work then, but it doesn't now?? Well, that brings up a lot of issues. One of which comes down to the family unit. Let's face it here, families just DO NOT take care of eachother like they used to. Instead of taking care of their parents in their old age, children are putting them in nursing homes and hospitals. Families do not stick together like they used to. The comunities, therefor, that we live in, are also directly effected by this. How so? Capatalism. Love it, hate it, it does a lot of things, and one of those things is desensitize people to the potential plight of others. After all, we've all worked hard for what we've gotten, let them work as well. And while that can be a healthy thing from time to time, there is also such a thing as knowing when to draw the line and say enough is enough, they really do need help. Communities no longer support eachother, and families no longer support eachother. At leaste not as they used to. This, I believe is one of the largest contributing factors to the situation of children in our culture today. Not to mention the steadily declining value of human life, and desensitization of our people. Face it, even if you do not believe in God, the thought that each person is a specially created being who is loved by a higher power lends to a higher thought of human life than the suggestion that we are nothing more than mutated monkeys, and a cosmic accident. It is the culture we live in that promotes this problem so prevelently. Now, I speak from an American standpoint. Poverty, as well as other issues, can also come into effect in America, as well as abroad, but these cultural issues cause a great deal of the problems with children all over the world. So SHOULD couples or women have children if they are not in a situation to care for them. Yes and no. No, they should avoid having children, but if they become pregnant, they should NOT abort the baby. There are other options out there. I know couples who are waiting, litterally WAITING, and have been, to adopt a child. Life finds itself, and it finds a way. There are no mistakes. Mistakes are only events that are subject to perspective and interpretation. We need to revitalize the concept of the sanctity of life before these problems will ever be properly addressed.
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Yes Or NoVoted for by Pussycat.
Today it seems that many couples and women are having children, when they are indeed unable to care or provide for these children. I live in South Africa and how many times i hav seen women who jus cannot look after their children, financially and emotionally. Why would anyone want to put their child or children through something such as not havin enough money to buy food and clothes? Children deserve to have a home, food, education and parents that love them. So why do this to them? I realise that circumstances do at times prevent this cildren from havin the things they deserve but then why do women or couples hav the children in the 1st place?
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Too many people think that having a child is all fun and dressing it up in cute clothes and whatnot. They don't think about daycare payments or getting up every three hours to feed it or making ends meet. Having a child can be a wondeful blessing, but only if one is ready for the enormous responsiblity it brings.Please register or login to comment! It's totally free