NO........move on with your life!

should they stay in all honesty no but in all relaity if they love the person they probably will and i cannot blame them if they are in love with the person...and even if they try to get away it hurts to be without the one you love and if they weren't ready to leave then they will go right back and it will probably get worse anyways...so they should leave only if they are ready to accept the fact that the personn they love does not love them the same way and they can do better...

~Ash~

You said she doesn't have a clue that she is being taken advantage Correct?Well Make her Catch him in the act!Make her see that she needs to get away from him.

PS Sorry if i got somethings wrong.i tend to get off topic and read thind incorretly

If staying in a bad relationship makes this girl happy, then I say she should go on the way she is (which I really doubt). If she is unhappy, I strongly suggested she leaves this guy, because I mean, what is the point of being with someone that doesn't make you happy. I am sure she could find another guy just as easily as she found him.

That is not called "love" that is called co-dependency. If she really was independent and secure within herself she would not allow herself to be taken advantage of. In every situation a person will continually act out negative behavior if they are in some way getting something positive out of it for them. She is scared to leave and be on her own, so she is staying in the relationship for stability, not love.

You have to truly love yourself, value yourself, stand up for yourself and be independent before you can love someone else. If she does not find the self worth within herself then how can she stand up for herself (when she does not believe she is worthy in the first place)?

My suggestion... she needs to look in herself before she looks to someone else for her happiness and stability.

Why would you even think about staying in a relationship like that?

She needs to get him out of her life. Somehow. To actually try. Again.

Nobody should ever take advantage of anybody else. If anyone is in a relationship & is being taken advantage of, the first option would be to leave. True love does not take advantage of anyone else. Everyone deserves the best & no one in such a relationship would experience true happiness.

I can't tell you for sure, but it sounds to me like the on and off boyfriend in the situation may be a Socio-Egotist or Sociopath. This sounds extreme but there are levels of this mental disorder that range from Mad (Homicidal, Suicidal) to "level 1" I call it (Possessive, Anger issues, Jealeousy). I know it's easier said than done from my standpoint, but please take my word for it - She needs to get out of this, and fast.

There's a cycle that all couples who are involved in an abusive relationship go through. It's generic and constant in all these sort of situations. 1. Violence or Verbal Abuse will happen (Or other abuse), 2. Victim will go to get help, or go away for a little while for a "cool down period", and 3. Abuser will apologize, give gifts, treat her like a Queen, and she'll fall under the spell all over again. And it'll start over.

It's sad but it's true. I haven't been in Psychology long, but I know this type of situation like the back of my hand. The good news is, Socio-Egotists (as I call them) are usually cowards. They feel great taking over one person, it gives them a sense of power and boosts the already abnormally high ego they have. But when they're outnumbered, like if she got family and/or friends together and banded against him, they can't stand feeling out of the throne, so to speak, and will normally not take action. Unless he can get her alone again.

I suggest that she get that group around her, tell anyone what's going on, and get someone up against him. Be careful, find a support group or find a good number of family or friends to help you. You're not alone in this, love. But you simply can NOT stay in that relationship. It will not get better, he will not change; regardless of what he ever tells you.

My hopes and prayers are with you hun. Take care of yourself.

Light and blessings, -Blaire-

No! Oh yes, let the man take advantage of you! of course... What kind of stupid question is that no offense?

define love... and when you find real love you find that the two of them are in love... if one of them is not in love than it is not love... it is a person wanting another person.

In my personal opinion, I would say no. You shouldn't stay in a relationship that takes a wrong turn. Your mind convinces itself that you love that person but the question is if person loves you back. Manipulating and abusing another is not the form of love. If someone really loved you, they would be treating you much better. Those who get persuaded into thinking they're in love should think again. There's plenty of other people out there who are much better. Yes, once you leave a person you supposedly love, you feel a sense of lonliness and depression but if you can write down what you love about the person and things you don't love, the cons outweigh the pros. Think about it. Does the relationship seem to be going anywhere?

Big red flag here! I quote; "He has hit her before and constantly plays with her emotions..." Even one hit is one hit too many. This is totally unacceptable behavior and it will very likely escalate. If this man is physically and emotionally abusive, then there is only one solution, and that is to get out NOW. Find a support group, stay busy, and make an active effort to get over the jerk.