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Are Girls Attracted to Jerk's?

  • Unsure

    Frankly I don't know, but I tend to lean towards the fact that you have to be good friends with someone before you can make a relationship work, I don't think that you can just dive in after just meeting them.

    Voted for by ProdigalPoet.
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  • friendship

    good point Poet and I'd like to add something. More often than not, relationships that start out as good friendships first seem to thrive. Just remember, you fall into lust at first but you slowly grow into love. Relationships need time to bloom. We live in a fast paced life and I'm afraid many of us attempt to carry this over into relationships as well.

    Voted for by Energizer Bunny.
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  • Yep

    Girls love loosers. Most of them won't admit to it outright, but who does your best girl friend think is hot? The nerd with the heart of gold, or the rebel w. the heart of gold? Sounds cliche, but it's true. Personally, I think women (and girls) like to be challenged and nice guys get boring. (No offense to all the nice guys out there).

    Voted for by NoUseForAName.
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  • i never could quite figure that out

    i never could figure out why it is that so many good women fall in love with the biggest assholes they can find. I've seen it so many times, too. I'm not talking about nerds or dreamers (I am one of those), i'm talking about drunken, abusive bullys who treat them like shit! Come on, Girls! you're better off with some pimple-faced Star-Trek geek with 3 miles of tape holding his glasses together, than some alcoholic prick who beats the hell out of you for not having the dishes done when he wants them done! At least the geek is'nt going to put you in intensive care.

    Voted for by NeferMaatNetjer.
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  • Maybe...

    They don't realize it. Or maybe the people they fall in love with aren't jerks at first, and just turn into them.

    I will never know, I guess.

    Voted for by ThisEndUp.
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  • Yes
    To put it simply. I know this is slightly vain, but if a person is really nice, but very ugly, would you personally want to kiss them? I'm sorry to upset all the idealists out there, but relationships aren't entirely about ones personality; there is most definitely a physical aspect involved. Being the "pimply geek with a heart of gold" doesn't seem to cut it. It would seem the social stigma of the "pimply geek" part far outweighs it.

    Also, from a guy who used to be the geek who played too many video games and spent too much time hacking (information security major now ), girls love confidence. I know that's a hard one to grasp (I didn't get it until last year) but you can do it! See a girl you think is cute? Try the "three second rule" -- from the time you realize she's cute, you have 3 seconds to make a movement to talk to her. If you don't move, you have to start looking again. You almost have to make it into a game. Don't get set on one person though. Leave yourself options. If things don't work out, don't dwell on it for too long. Realize what you did wrong and work to fix it next time around. Keep improving.

    After a bunch of failed relationships, I've found a girl who
    1) Loves me
    2) Is beautiful
    3) Is intelligent (she's a freakin' engineer)
    4) I can have intelligent conversations with

    However I don't know where this will go as she and I have very different ways of dealing with any form of arguing that goes on. (Believe me, arguments do happen. She ripped on me because I was in the lab 30 minutes longer than I was supposed to be because an experiment wasn't going well.) I remain myself while angry. I'm just angry. She, however shuts down, cries, and starts apologizing / blaming herself for everything due to low self-esteem (an issue we're working through together)

    Also, realize as soon as you can if a girl is "your type" or not. I know it sounds hokey, but you don't want to spend all your time arguing / trying to change someone. I know you think you can do it, but don't you want to love someone for who they are and not who you want them to be?

    Hmm if I think of much else, I'll edit this
    Voted for by Sent1nel.
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  • yep

    Women have called me just about every slang name there is. I am a jerk, I realize that, and it gets me far. At my work place, the manager's assistant, who is an attractive woman in her 20's, told me the following; "You're not on the top of every girl's list." My reply was: "I realize that, but still, I make sure to ignore them." She pretended to have a grudge on me for the next few days, after she got tired of the games, we ended up making out at her place. Girls like a challenge.

    they also like the pain.

    Voted for by asymmetry.
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  • Sometimes
    I get a lot of crap for the guys i go for everyone thinks i go for ross guys but they are always sweethearts there are a lot of girls that would rather have a cute jerk than a sweet ugly guy.
    Voted for by forget my memories.
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  • lol, some are

    lol, yeah. Some girls, including myself, are interested in "pain." A little kinky yes, buy pain is fun sometimes. Not Bloody pain for welt pain but.. biting, smacking. lol. Anyways. Yes

    Voted for by Carino.
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  • ta da jeers to tears
    yes.
    you will need to purchase a bmw asap.
    jerk it up.
    just think, 'jeremy pivin'.
    that otta do....
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