There are 9 choices, 13 votes for Tweedle Dee's debate

How do you love someone who you never speak with?

love, like, hoplessness thats pathtic or lost?


  • Why did you even ask?

    You ask a question on a debating website whether the 'love' that you feel for this person who you very rarely talk to is real and you give limited options about which it is. Weydon replies with his view and you throw it in his face because it does not correspond with yours. You then make personal attacks on his character calling him a 20 year old nerd who knows nothing about love and is judging you on little evidence. Well in my opinion you are doing far more of the judging about weydon's character than he is supposedly doing to yours and your comments are insulting and not needed.

    This is a debating website - be prepared for people who do not think the same way as you do...

    30%  Voted for by petethemeat, Weydon, Energizer Bunny, TeChNoWC.
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  • Just a Little Comment

    Hm, well this is an intresting conversation. Caught my attention immediatly. I'm going to have to say I agree with Your Looks. I'm sorry but how can you know what possesses her to feel how she feels? Also I think its pretty funny too, "Magical feelings in your tummy." How stupid. Now answer me this, "Have you ever been in her mind and heart, to know exactly how she feels, and DECIDE whether its Love or Not?" Well have you? Hm, I'm guessing that it would be a NO. Because if you have, I dont even want to begin on how creepy that would be. Now I understand where you are coming from to an extent. BUT, trust me man, Somethings you just know. And I dare say Love is one of them. Goo-goo eyes, by the way, is not involved in this. Please, the girl knows the difference. Don't tell her whether she's in love or not. It's her life. Besides the way you talk I'm not sure if you know exactly what she even means. Dare I say YOU DONT. "Blessed beyond nobility like God couldn't take away those moments" That is poetic, I agree, and more sensible than your whole comment. How dare you tell her not to become "wrapped up in someone" let me tell you. It all depends on who you become wrapped up in. It would be hard to become wrapped up in someone you dont love. When you find that real someone, it all changes. She's not blowing anything "out of proportion" Because if she tries to stop falling in love with him, or stop by all means, It wont work. Not even close, she'll become depressed and in denial of herself, and slowly become bitter and cold. So mind you, that could ruin someones life. I'M NOT STUPID. FOR WHO I AM, I'M A WHOLE LOT SMARTER THAN I SHOULD BE. And so is she. So please, you dont even know her, don't go making judgments about her, that would be just as bad as you thinking shes making judgments about love. Which they AREN'T judgments. It's the God proven truth. ~thank you~ RynnPuddle

    15%  Voted for by NovemberRynn, ThreeDaysGone.
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  • Yes, indeed

    Yes, I believe you can. This one guy, he kills me everytime we meet eyes. I have no attraction to his looks, no sensation to his voice, just his smile, his walk and his mind the way he thinks and talks, whether he is speaking to me or not, I cherish Him. His eyes and his Words. This is my life. To be with him I would be complete. But only if. I can't recall too many times where we were in deep conversation but the times that we were I felt blessed beyond nobility like God couldn't even take away those moments, though really knowing he could. Maybe it is my immagination but right now I'm sure that im not stupid so is this right. I has to be, otherwise man Im lost.

    You its stupid to say that your in love when your not. but its even more stupid to say you arn't when you are. Point proven.

    Voted for by Tweedle Dee.
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  • Pathetic Hopelessness

    Haha, given that those are my only two choices

    Love is deeper and love grows through connection of long times spent together and truly knowing a person, good and bad. You can't know this person that well if you've hardly even talked that much.

    You seem to have a crush or infatuation. Which can be nice. But don't blow it out of proportion like you're doing. "Blessed beyond nobility like God couldn't take away those moments"? Very poetic, but not very sensible. This guy could turn out to be a total douche if you hung out with him extensively, for one thing. Plus even if you were dating, even if you were going on a years worth of dating, you should not allow yourself to become some wrapped up in a person like that.

    Love is an enjoyable experience between people that have fun together, know each other better than most, and have been through much together. It is not goo-goo eyes and magical feelings in your tummy. That's healthy passion. Just don't let it get control of you.

    Voted for by Weydon.
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  • Be Quiet

    What makes your statement on Love, correct? What give you the right to say that it is just infaturation? Who are you, God? No I suspect not, unless God is a 20 year old Nerd sitting at a computer screen, who never touched love in his life. To tell me that it is simply a crush and pathetic could be the tuth. To you. For you know nothing about me, my history and my work area. Debating is the field of this website. And that is what I am here to do, otherwise I would be wasting my time away. So therefore you are a precious wate of time to my ciriculum. "Magical feelings in your tummy". I laughed out loud, and proud to do so too. You are like a book, a very messed up book. You are insenstive and your brain size the the weight of a feather. Unless you know what love is, don't talk about it. Cause it just makes you sound stupid. Good luck with life.

    Voted for by Tweedle Dee.
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  • My Reply: to weydon

    Ok I apologize for being over angry, its just that you dont know the situation. Yes I do know her, we are like sisters. I just dont like the fact when people think they know something and they have no idea, no one would understand this situation, so it was a waste of typing for me to even fight for that. I am on her side for many reasons, ones that i can't even begin to explain. "Trust me man somethings you think you know and you don't." I agree on that, but in this case you dont get it. Goo-goo eyes isnt involved, i will state it again. "Don't pretend like you're in my mind!!!!" I'm not pretending like I am, but I know to the full extent that "you dont". I'm sorry if I came off that way. She does know him, she has spoken with him, no not "deep conversations", she knows him enough to say she knows him. If that makes sense. "It would be hard to become wrapped up in someone you dont love." You misunderstood that part too. "When you find that real someone, it all changes. She's not blowing anything "out of proportion" Because if she tries to stop falling in love with him, or stop by all means, It wont work. Not even close, she'll become depressed and in denial of herself, and slowly become bitter and cold" That part remains true, I understand where your coming from though, we both have different points, yours based on the little you know, and mine, well a lot more complicated. "Lifetime website" No your right, its not. I'm glad you pointed that out for me, thanks so much, I would have never known! Again, you dont understand the "Making complete" part. Yes our bodies may be complete, I'm glad I still have my head and butt connected, but you just dont understand...I know that you need to know someone deeply before you spend the rest of your life with them. DUH. It's not like shes going to jump in his arms, and off to the wedding chapal it is! You dont get the point she's trying to make here. "I'M NOT STUPID. FOR WHO I AM, I'M A WHOLE LOT SMARTER THAN I SHOULD BE. " I'm glad you said "What?" because if you didnt i would be worried. "...Yeah definately. Possibly even the same person." Anythings possible, but no I'm not the same person, and if i was the same person, well that would get complicated, wouldnt it? Besides that would be really stupid, and pointless.

    However I am sorry for coming off insulting or mean, I let my emotions get the best of me, and with what i said is unfair because you dont know her personally, so i pretty much went off the cuff. For that I am sorry, otherwise my opinon pretty much remains the same. Now I would also like to say that I took your comment too seriously, for it was your right of an opinon, but I have no regrets. ~Thanks~RynnPuddle

    Voted for by NovemberRynn.
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  • Body Language

    Social interactions can happen on many levels. Based on my personal experience, you don't need to actually speak to someone in order to incite feeling of attraction or even love. I discovered (through many personal social experiments) that attraction is determined roughly on 2 things. Verbal communication and body language. And verbal communication has a weight of only about 3% in attraction. Many of you may not be familiar with what body language really consists of so I'm going to define it and add a very recent example.

    Body languge conists of how you say things (for example you can use a sarcastic tone), how you do things (if you are uptight or if you seem to be easy going), how you smell, how you look (it's not so much about having good looks... it's more based on if you take care of yourself) and many more factors.

    Now I'm gonna share with you a happening that occured no later than October 4th at night. I went to this nightclub with a girl I like for her best friend's birthday. Now I'm sure you all know that nightclubs are really the worst place to have conversation in because of the loud music. So this is where my body language techniques kicked in. We didn't talk much but just looking in her eyes made me feel a really strong attraction and I could read on her face that she felt it too. I have very developed body language skills (I can say things with my body and can read other people too quite easily). Before that night, we never got close. I mean no physical contact whatsoever. So we each started dancing seperately but I really wanted to dance with her so I started telling her with my body "come grab me and dance with me." No hand gestures. Just plain facial expressions. And a few seconds later, she picked the understood the message, got close to me and grabbed me. So we started contact dancing, my face in her face... That sort of thing. After about an hour where we both were in another world, I pulled back and gave her another look. So we made out on the dance floor. We didn't speak a single word in this time interval. Minutes later, she gave me the "I want to go sit down" look so I followed her. And the making out continued. That's beautiful. I often like to use my body language to express attraction. And these feelings and messages got stronger as the night grew into day. Don't get me wrong now... I am very successful with girls and I don't fall in love easily. And it's not because I sleep with a girl or make out with her that I will have a feeling of love or that I wanna see that girl again. But this time, it was different. And it happened just by looking into her eyes and letting my body go. We probably spoke about 20 words the whole night. Now this is where things got complicated. She went to the bathroom and stayed there for about 1 hour. So I accidentally sent out a signal to her best friend and she came close to me too. Same thing... Contact dancing. But this time, I didn't give her the look and she didn't move in for a kiss. A coincidence? I think not. And we sat down. Meanwhile, the girl I liked still hadn't showed up for the batheroom and I saw her best friend close to passing out because of the incredible amounts of alcohol running through her body. So I gestured her to sit on my lap as I did my best to keep her concious. She passed out in my arms anyways and I was stuck in place, being unable to lift her. Then the girl I liked showed up with a smile, which quickliy turned into a confused stare. I read it on her face... "What are you doing with my best friend? I thought you only liked me!" (That's practically what she said with her facial expression) It all went down hill from there. She told me (yes, with words) to go outside with her best friend and get her some fresh air while she sits around and rests. So I did what she asked me to do and left the club for half an hour and took a walk with the drunk friend. We came back and danced just as close as we were before. When we left the club, the girl I liked was mad. I've never seen anything like it before. Seriously... So I asked her what was wrong and she told me "You know what's wrong!". Of course I did, I read her body language when her best friend was all over me. She's not that good at reading subtle body language and didn't understand I was not interested in her best friend... The little attraction gleam in her eyes was still there but I also saw deception. Her best friend wanted me and she's a very good looking girl with a great personality, but looking into her eyes, I didn't feel a thing.

    We parted on semi-good terms. I explained to her what happened and told her it meant nothing to me. But somehow, the best friend developed something for me. Without words, I broke a heart and created love.

    And when I found myself alone, I regretted what happened that night. I stood there, in front of my house, smoking cigarette after cigarette and thinking of how I ruined a perfect evening by giving the wrong look to her best friend. I didn't talk much with the girl I liked, butjust having her there in the room and looking into her eyes, my feelings grew uncontrolably strong. I can't really say it's love. But it's going to grow into it if I manage to fix the mess.

    So when you ask me if you can love someone even if you don't speak to them, I say yes. Body language is more significative and clearer than verbal language.

    Voted for by mateibota.
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  • i've been in the same situation
    well, i myself can't be certain if the feeling i have is love. but if this is not love, i don't think i'll ever be able to love, or give out more than i am already.
    There's this guy that i never talked to in person, but i liked him. He found out i liked him and then started texting and calling me. We intensely texted and talked on cell phone for about 2 months last summer. After summer, we met at school but we were never able to talk in person as we did on cell. i don't think we're even considered "friends".
    and...we haven't talked since 3 months ago, but i still think of him almost every minute of my life. i worry for him when he doesn't come to school, i folded 2000 stars for him for christmas, i spent hours helping him on project rather than doing my project.
    i gave him everything and throughly humiliated myself, inside and out. i did all these for a person i rarely talked to in person, and i do not regret it. if this is love, then yes, i do think you can love a person you've never spoken to.
    Voted for by riteangle.
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  • Love is self-hypnosis
    99.999% of the time love is an inner emotion based on self-hypnosis brought on by an outward catalyst (guy or girl). Think about the times you've been in love. You are more in love with the person when you are not with him/her. You are dreaming about them. IT IS ILLUSION. You hypnotize yourself to fall in love with that person. You fantasize. You dream. You keep thinking about her or him. It is a wonderful illusion, yes indeed, but nonetheless it is FALSE.

    True love is action based on honesty and the present moment, not based on a history of that person.

    Love in a Jesus or Buddha is also psychotic. People love an ideal, an idol, a symbolic person. The world has gone crazy. The world is illusion.
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