i asked a friend Karlie why we loved when it made us feel so weak and this is her take on it ,she moved me soo very much and i thought that i shouild share it with everyone ...hope it makes you feel like i did...Thank you Karlie...you are an angel...keep smilling
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Why should we love someone???I think that we love just cuz we have no controll. What do u think?????25% Voted for by Mel17, Ahkam, Theblackocean.
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because25% Voted for by BloodRedTears66613, pnktrky, Ahkam.
love is an essential part of the human build, without the people we love, we are nothing. we thrive on that hope that we will one day find that one person who will one day make our lives whole... sometimes that doesnt work, but for an instant, it was there, and you tasted a sampling of what that true love will be like. without that promise of love, there is nothing to really live for.
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Another ViewI believe to be successful in love, you must love with your mind and not your heart. Emotional love can drive you into weird and strange behaviors and will usually be manifested as jealousy or manipulation for the sake of vanity or lust. Love confused with passion usually burns out quickly. Love nurtured with communication and a genuine outgoing concern for the object of your affection has a much more lasting potential.16% Voted for by mudgod, Applehead.
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echWe love, even though we are aware of the possiblity of hurt, because we have to. Whether you like it or not you might fall in love and love is a risk but thats the fun I assume. Wasnt there some quote about how loving someone is giving them the power to hurt you but trusting that they wont? Love is inevitable. Theres family love and friend love and the gushy love but there is always love.16% Voted for by Stepherz804, Theblackocean.Please login or register to comment.
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Why should we love someone?????
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Why should we love someone?????
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Because no matter what you will. No matter how hard you try with some people you will love them. Theres nothing you can do about it. You should love people because without love what exactly is there?
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You and MeWhen i am going out with some1 i want them always there 2 b with me. Am i apsesed with him or just realy like him??? HELP!!!Voted for by Mel17.Please login or register to comment.
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Its a good thing you want them to be with you alot but just because they are with you all the time doesnt mean its gonna work out. It could make it worse. Thats why when your dating you normally arent living with them. You go on dates, hang out and then go home. Too much time with one person can be completely disasterous or it can be good. Its a toss up.
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on love...Voted for by mshairi.
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am terrified of hurting people, absolutely terrified, but i have learned there is no way to not hurt people. Its gunna happen people will always get hurt, always. And love is a scary thing, anyone and anything you love holds power over you, i dont like that idea, but with it comes the fact that they also have the power to make your life ecstasy. So its about trust too, do you trust the person you love to make your life more beautiful? Someone you love will put you into ecstasy just by being with them. someone you love can cause you black depression by being mean, or just by getting hurt themselves. its like Twins, conjoined twins. if one thing happens to one of you the other one is effected. Its a huge risk but it has huge benefits. Think about Sex with someone you love, it would be the most amazing euphoric thing in the world, like the best drug, like the best high. Think about cuddling with someone you love, you would feel so safe and secure in the face of the end of the world, you would feel like nothing you have ever felt. Think about kisses, each one would be bran new and full of such seduction and passion that your soul would catch on fire. Think about poetry, you would be so close and so together that she/he would know what you are thinking, feel your very being, that secret you that not even you yourself know, they could feel that. they could feel you within yourself. I think its the most beautiful thing possible. but then... Think about fights, each one would rip your soul open and leave you bleeding so deeply and so internal that you will wish for death after each and every word. Think about pain and injuries, simple emotional hurts will scar you as well and leave you crying for the other person. ... think about death, when one of you dies it will crush the other so far and deeply that they will turn into a shell with no soul, or they will just crumple up and disappear completely. It would be the greatest agony in the world. So there you have it. Love is the Greatest ecstasy, and the Greatest agony, that there ever was or ever will be. so yeah i am scared of it, and yeah i know where your coming from, but after all that, i am still ready to take the chance, ready to take the leap, now i am just gunna wait for it to happen lol, and i cant wait. :)
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"but with it comes the fact that they also have the power to make your life ecstasy." Interesting. I suppose I more or less agree with much of what you said, but this one line in particular highlights where we change paths (but still head towards the same destination). The idea of someone making my life ecstasy is something I very much try to avoid. Making someone the very center of your universe and an unmatchable high (like a drug, as you said) puts you in grave danger of LOSING that universe and getting sick from drug withdrawal. This isn't to say I therefore avoid love. People, whethere they be lovers or friends or family, gradually work themselves into your life to a point where you your world will in fact shatter if you lose them. But the key word is gradual. If I feel myself falling in love with someone who I have known for only a fair amount of time, I do everything I can to snap myself back to reality--enjoy the company of this great person, but know that aside from being awesome (and nice to look at), there is still a great amount of time before I can actually allow someone to hold that much power over me. "Think about fights, each one would rip your soul open and leave you bleeding so deeply and so internal that you will wish for death after each and every word." HAHAHAH! And that's why! As you eloquently described, losing or potentially losing someone of great importance of you is perhaps the very worst feeling imaginable. Thats why you need to be careful, not just haphazardly trusting. I feel that 80-90% of genuine heartbreaks could be avoided if people just slowed things down.
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"but after all that, i am still ready to take the chance, ready to take the leap, now i am just gunna wait for it to happen lol, and i cant wait." A good outlook, but I feel it's not entirely genuine ;) As you said, you can't wait. Too often while people are anxiously "waiting for it happen" they're more accurately "LOOKING for it to happen". Every person they see is the potential "someone" (theoretically, everyone is, but that's not that point). Any little thing raises those hopes that you will no longer have to wait, and you can quickly find yourself falling for someone unworthy of falling for. A high cause for people's heartache. What helps is realizing that all this: the waiting, the seeing other people have it, the (most importantly) seeing it in movies and books...It doesn't really mean anything. Marrying for love and soulmates is a recent invention of human history. Now, like all recent inventions, this could be good or bad. If things work out, it's a wonderful invention that will change your life for the better AND for the worse. Just remember that this doesn't have to be your life's goal. It's an oppurtunity you can look into, and it's a nice benefit that could (and most likely WILL) happen in your life...YOUR life. You're a complete person. You don't need to be finished. You are not missing something. Luxuries like love can merely be added on, but they will not complete you. Being satisfied with yourself is the key to being read to wait. -
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Something a councilor will tell you in therapy about love and happiness; "Never rely on anothers love to make you feel happy or content, because it doesn't do the job. We must love ourselves and find our own happiness, first and foremost, before we can ever truly accept love or give it properly. -
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But if we love that some1 should we not rely on them to be with us??
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So here is the thing, when i said that "i cant wait" didnt mean i'm gunna jump into any relationship possible. No, more i am waiting for the one that will come someday (maybe) i know enough not to jump into love with the first guy who looks at me. Its just some people dont think its worth it and i think it is. And i dont think that the shrinks right, sometime someone else loving you is what it takes for you to love yourself, now you shouldnt define yourself by that person. but sometimes you yourself are your worst enemy and someone else can be a safe place. anyway i dont think love is so light as you say Weydon, i think it is one of the major things in your life. and i think life is diffrent whe it happens. but my whole speech was to say that its a choice that each person has to make for themselves. so yeah. ~kar -
"i know enough not to jump into love with the first guy who looks at me." I didn't mean to imply all that. Merely that it's awfully easy to build someone up in your mind. They can be a good person that you are pretty interested in, and you go out with them for a month or so and things go great. If you feel like you're in love at this point, you probably failed to realize my point. "but sometimes you yourself are your worst enemy and someone else can be a safe place" It's a good temporary refuge from your self-destruction. It can sometimes help you see that you are worthy of being loved. But use that to get back on your feet and love yourself regardless. "anyway i dont think love is so light as you say Weydon, i think it is one of the major things in your life. " It certainly will change your life, yes. And it can be a wonderful thing to have in your life. Even otuside of the whole "true love" and "soulmate" bit, there are people in my life that I love deeply as friends and family. As for the rest, I have been in serious relationships before. I have both had to leave and been left by people I loved. Neither was easy in the least. After a breif period of being slightly miserable and discontent with the world of girlfriends, I grew to not only get over but be truly happy with myself. Happier than I had ever been really. Looking back now I almost have to laugh at how I used to be and how important it was for me to try and make something more than casual stick. I am not against falling in love, and think it will make for quite an interesting and engaging experience when/if it rolls around again (along with being a pain in the ass ;) at least this time I'm a little wiser). In the meantime, I am thrilled to live my life as I do now.
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Just so people think I haven't gone insane (more insane), I swear I WAS responding to SOMEONE. I imagine they deleted it for some reason. I doubt it was the mods, nothing vulgar was said as far as I remember. Strange. -
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I am not sure why you think something got deleted, I didn’t change anything in my response I only just now read yours, and all the quotes you pulled out are still there in mine Weydon. sorry I wasn’t trying to act like you were accusing me of anything, here is my answer for (I think) everything you brought up: I am extremely distrust full of everyone including myself, so when I speak of love, it is like me saying that someday I want to live in the first space station on the moon. Its a dream that may happen but probably wont, its like my own private fairy tale, so all my philosophies on it are theoretical and I have no way to tell what will really happen if it happens at all, I have no heart left, so it will have to be brought back from the glacier it lives in and thawed for any of that to happen. I love my friends but with a sort of distant love that keeps them from my inner part because I am afraid to let anyone in. But I want people to try still, occasionally so that maybe it will happen... ok so I am not thinking in straight lines today. I think I replied to everything... Sorry you think something got deleted I cant see anything... maybe my friend deleted one of the posts I don’t know... thanks for carrying on so long with our discussion :) sorry for taking so long to read it lol. ~kar -
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HAHAHA Maybe I AM going insane. I could have sworn somebody else posted something though... "I am extremely distrust full of everyone including myself, so when I speak of love, it is like me saying that someday I want to live in the first space station on the moon." HAHAHAHA "Its a dream that may happen but probably wont, its like my own private fairy tale" Well, odds are it will happen. It just seems to happen to a lot of people, for the long haul or not. However, if I may I'd just like to recomend toning down the frequency of these daydreams (if they are in fact frequent). It'll just get you depressed. "I have no heart left, so it will have to be brought back from the glacier it lives in and thawed for any of that to happen. I love my friends but with a sort of distant love that keeps them from my inner part because I am afraid to let anyone in." Hmm. I'd say this is fairly safe, in that you maintain friendships and love them, but are weary to let anyone get too close without truly "earning" it. And, lol, i know it may sound like I'm backtracking on what I was saying, it's also important to take a little risk here and there--though you seem to indicate this sort of mixed mindset (which is the only logical one as far as I'm concerned ;) ). I guess the key is simply to take the path that will make you happiest/safest. Personally when I make friends I just treat them as I would any good person but never expect anything in return: not because I'm SO amazing like that, but because if I don't expect anything I won't get let down by it. Don't worry about any confusion or delayed responses, happy to help and to be insane.
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I can check for you, but am sure nothing was deleted by a moderator. Be right back..... EDIT: Nope, nothing deleted and nothing bad has been said here. Double posts are not a good practice, but the occasionally accidents or technical quirks can happen. No worries, Weydon. We'll leave the posts, as written. Hey wait a minute? Nobody is more insane than me. You must know how insane nobody can be, right? ;) -
LOL When I was a kid I used to swear I would open a store called Nobody in response to Nobody Beats the Wiz Is that store even still around? And wait! What do you mean NOTHING has been deleted? By mods or even by the person who originally wrote that...LOL I SWEAR I copy and pasted those quotes from their comment.
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Hey there peeps! It's your favorite Italian speaking!^^ Anyways i know exactly what you people mean...you don't wanna get hurt in a relationship. But...take if from someone who's never been hurt in a relationship. Sometimes it's better to get hurt. You see i've been in quiet a few relations and i've gotta say not once have i cared. I'm usually the one to dump the guy. And the sad part is i always do it on the most worst day of all. One time i was dating this guy named Josh..and he was really sensitive and touchy. So i broke up with him on valinetines day...o.o UH OH! lol...but i was happy to be once again single. I have to tell you i really don't mind being single from time to time. Your out on your own with no one else to hold you down! I'M FREE! exsept sadly i'm in a relationship right now...lol Don't take me wrong i love him...but it just seems like I'm dating some kinda chick here! he crys out for my love and attention. He's over obsesive with me! i hate it! and of course i tell him to stop obsesing over me. But he wont stop he keeps touching my arms and moaning! eww I always think to my self...will i ever find true love!? i know he isn't the one for me! But ya see here's something else you don't know....he just happens to not be the jealous type. I've had guys come up and rub there hands on my face! yet he doesn't seem to care! which shows me he doesn't care! I'LL TELL YOU WHAT TO ALL THE GUYS OUT THERE! GIRLS WANT GUYS TO GET JEALOUS! YOU WANNA KNOW WHY? IT'S CAUSE IT SHOWS THE PERSON HOW MUCH YOU CARE! so think twise! ALWAYS! plus...jealous guys totaly turn me on...*Blushes* ooooh yeah. -
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Italiangirl, you are misinterpreting jealously, it can be misplacing and abusive if all one seeks to have the other "show caring?". I do not argue one bit, jealously is the very seed of low confidence and can lead to serious problems amongst a relationship. The science and research can in fact prove it is important to distinguish jealousy from envy. To oversimplify, jealousy is anger, envy is wistful. Jealousy is destructive, envy rarely is. Insecurity, as known, just means a lack of security. Nothing offensive, sounds to me to like you have your own insecurities, like the rest of us. But it does not imply that she or he the insecure person is bad, or good. It does not imply that the insecurity is warranted or unwarranted. It simply means that the person is not secure, either in themselves, their relationship or what they have with you established. -
It can take a lifetime to learn how to love yourself. This love you talk about is not love, it is about obsession, romanticism, addiction and ownership. You want to feel that "high". That is what it is. You are addicted to that high of "being in love". You can have that feeling all the time if you train your mind to love yourself. There is only one way to do this. The most beautiful man discovered the mystery to ever-lasting happiness. He was Buddha. Learn to get off your addiction to love and find TRUE LOVE which has no fear involved.
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Do u think that bing in love is just a high?
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If u realy love that person u will do anything 2 b with him. Ur true filling r 4 him so u will do wat it takes 2 b with him!!!
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We love or it just happens?
Yes, I agree with some of the commentators, It is not a personal desire to love or to be in love. it just happens...blessed are those who are blessed by this Myth...Love.Its totally a spontanious prosess.there are no rules, no laws what so ever to make it happen or to stop this process.Please register or login to comment! It's totally free