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why is it hard to tell the difference between love and lust?

people have so much hard trouble figuring out (mostly in the heat of the moment in life) how to figure out if something is lust or if it is love.


  • simply put

    You fall into lust, but you grow into love.

    31%  Voted for by Energizer Bunny, Weydon, frndofyaweh, LittleSignal, Shandilliahosen. (10 total)
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  • Lust and love are different

    Lust is based on physical conditions; Love is based in spiritual and un-conditional.

    They are extremely different than one another. The worlds view of love is mis-interpreted.

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    Falling into a lust relationship defined: purely based on attributes, To make yourself or your spouse happier, Lust is to; aquire physical or emotional satisfactions.

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    Growing a love relationship: purely based on family and completeness of the spirit. Not attempting to make self happy or make spouse happy. No conditions at all. Un-selfish Love. Knowing you are equals, but not owners of the other. Accepting that two people are different, accepting their faults, They are desirable to one another based on, being one body and spirit. Based on hearts, not looks or actions. Love is; a responsibility first, the rewards are last.

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    *Unconditional Love is Agape* We should strive for it and strive to practice it.

    18%  Voted for by frndofyaweh, Energizer Bunny, AnalyzingThoughts, Benedictum, MindsAbyss. (6 total)
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  • Both

    They're both very similar, and in truth you can't really be in love with someone you don't lust after. If you didn't, they'd just be your really good friend. If you feel lust, you just have to see if you love them SEPARATELY from that. The basic questions: would you still love them if they were burned in a fire, blah blah blah.

    15%  Voted for by Weydon, Energizer Bunny, Benedictum, spanner, endsofbread.
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  • Lust guises itself as love

    People often delude themselves into believing that lust is indeed love because it "feels good". Love is something that thats time, patience and often great heartache to achive and commit to.

    6%  Voted for by newuniverse, spanner.
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  • if they're ugly

    it's probably just love :-)

    Voted for by ExpensiveThinker.
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  • Love and Lust

    You love another person if you have the same positive feelings as you have toward your dog. Lust toward another person is the same feeling you have when you play with yourself!

    Voted for by nanrek.
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  • visual

    you can tell the difference between lust and love because when your with someone whom you find VERY appealing and all you want to do is touch them and do naughty things with them and that is all you look forward to then it is lust, now i would think that is simple.

    Voted for by xrachx.
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  • Pfft.
    I don't have trouble seeing if it is love or lust.

    The things you do and feel are different for both. :/
    Voted for by Benedictum.
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  • i think..
    well i think that the difference is that you can love different people in different ways
    you can love your partner, you mum, your sister, your bestfriend etc etc

    but lust, lust could be (and i go into teen language) when you like see this really fit guy and go and speak to him and then at the end of the evening you end up getting off with him or something to the same effect.
    .sorry only way i could put that

    basically its purely physicall.
    Voted for by Phoebe as if.
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  • ..
    Until you realize from first-hand experience what love is, it very easy to mistake lust with a hint of caring for that person for love since it creates such a powerful obsession.
    Voted for by ScorpioBlood.
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  • looking at it cynically
    love is an evolutionary reflex that makes us want to reproduce.

    From an absolutely atheist evolutionist stand-point, you could propose that the sole purpose of our existence is to procreate to further the survival of our species. If we are afterall just a more evolutionarily advanced species of mammal; looking at the rest of the animal kingdom would suggest this to be true.

    Therefore we could presume that love is just another evolutionary advancement to try and get us to have sex more.

    For instance we might want to have sex with a 'really fit guy/girl' as soon as we see them. But we wouldnt want to have sex with an ugly one unless we fell in love with them.

    In short, love and lust are two instinctive reactions working hand in hand to ensure that none of the population misses out on the chance to make our species survive that little bit longer.

    Im not even sure if i agree with this, as there are obviously arguments against as well as for, im just putting it out there as an option.
    Voted for by WaltzMoore.
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  • Love it till its lust. ;)
    Lust you can feel, immediately. It doesn't take time, it doesn't take thinking or conceptual meaning. It's right there when you need it and want it most.

    While love is a pain in the toosh. When you see them, you don't automatically want to strip, your want to kiss them gently and wonder whats going on through their mind. And if it were lust, then you'd just want to other things probably instead of kissing.

    Love is worth living, it makes your chest throb when their laughing at one of your jokes or your head to spin when they don't even have to tell you whats going on through their mind, but with a just a quick glance at them, you already know.

    While lust, a few hours later, wears off. And you'll eventually stop caring about how, what, when, where it happened just a simple few hours later. And if the other person doesn't feel the same way. [Tsk.Tsk. Infatuation is just another form of lust.]


    Peace.

    Voted for by Tweedle Dee.
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  • You don't have to want someone or have a desire for them to love them
    Love is a choice to put the wellbeing of another ahead of your own, without regard to the person in which the choice is made.
    Voted for by Dwn.
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