When I see a gay guy on TV, they always are dressed like woman. Why is that? Why are they so strict on their health while most straight men aren't?
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I don't.13% Voted for by tieed, Eye Sea, steenee89, Kazrith, ExpensiveThinker. (6 total)
I don't want to dress like a woman. Do you mean like drag queens or just acting girly and wearing tight clothes, etc. Either way, I'm not into that. I'm a guy who likes guys, not a girl. I mean there are some gays who do that, and it doesn't bother me, I just dislike it when people see something like and then develop ideas on an entire group of people. 'Well if the gay guy on tv wears black leather and has a hairy chest, then it must mean all gays are like that!'
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shakes head13% Voted for by Kazrith, Weydon, petethemeat, Cornilius, Sankofalokumbe. (6 total)
that is because that is how the world wants to see them. most of them are literally invisable.
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Ah, 'T.V.'13% Voted for by Eye Sea, Cornilius, Sankofalokumbe, kennybaby05, Kahliya. (6 total)
Two things:
1) You say that this logic is based off of T.V. Hmm...shouldn't that be your answer? If you saw a Chinese man on T.V. saying random things and making faces (hi ting wa to you too!), or a black woman sitting in a kitchen and just saying 'guuuuuuuuuurl' wouldn't you consider that stereotyping? The problem: Our society is so influenced by television that we start to assume the stereotypes shown to us on the silver screen are the same as real life. Not every gay man I know wears tight clothes/ wishes to dress in drag. Where is your basis for this question in real life?
2) Not to be a complete hypocrite over what I just said, but in answer to your tight clothes question: Imagine finding out that you are attracted to your own sex and trying to fulfill what you defign as a "family atmosphere." Who's to play the "wife" role? Who's to play the "husband?" One can't just point to the other and say "OK, me man you woman." Also, because of homophobia society has decided there needs to be some sort of sign to point a person out as gay. It's horrible, but it's true. Now, more liberal countries across the globe are a bit different. E.g.: On vacation in Italy even the straightest men wore tight shirts and still flirted with the oppisite sex. What's with the "tight" factor anyway? Shouldn't men be able to wear whatever they want?
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They Don'tGay men do not want to look like women. There are many categories that men can fall into when they dress like a woman: Drag Queen, Transvestite, Transsexual, Transgender. Many of the men who fall into these categories are gay or bi, but definitely not all. Many are straight. And there are certainly a lot of gay men who DO NOT fall under any of these categories.9% Voted for by maddyblue, VocifVehem, Second, nitefire.
If you wanna ask why some men want to look like women, that is a question for experts on the world of "Trans."
One's sexual orientation has little internal influence on how they desire to dress. The thing is when you are already on the outside of society, when you have already broken one major taboo (being attracted to someone of the same sex), then why do you really care what other taboos you break. The GLBT community is more open to things that are outside the 'norm' because they are in fact outside the norm already.
I think a more interesting question is why do many straight men feel compelled to dress within a very limited scope of what is 'appropriate' for straight males? A skirt can be quite comfortable for a man. -
They wanna look like us!6% Voted for by ItalianGirl, Mujtaba H Zaidi, Sankofalokumbe.
They wish they were girls...they wish they looked like me! they wanna have everything i got. YAY! i have something they don't have! boobies!
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You've been watching the wrong channels, that's all6% Voted for by beeblebear, Kazrith, dysperdis.
Honestly, it's ridiculous. People saying that all homosexual men and women fit into these stereotypes. Of course lots of them do, and lots of them don't. That's because it's such a sodding massive section of society. It's the same with bisexuals, heterosexuals, and every other group that at some point has been marginalised. Many of them fit into the stereotypical mould that has been created.Many don't. It's the ones that do that get focused on. And there's a comment up there somewhere that says perhaps they don't want to conform to male stereotypes. Hooray to that. Why would anyone want to conform to any stereotype? In my opinion - limiting yourself is bad, being open minded is good. And this doesn't mean that everybody should be shagging everyone else - people will always fancy whoever they fancy. People too often leave the concept of love out of all these debates on whether homosexuality is right or wrong, it always comes down to sex. Love is good, hate is bad. Simplistic, but I think true.
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gay or straight some ppl are whack4% Voted for by EnamoredAir, leander.
when men are into other men... aren't they attracted to the masculinity of men? i just don't understand how guys that are into guys that act prissy and are into and attracted to other prissy guys. its more like girls being into girls. it just seems that, like a lot of other ppl, some of these guys are really mixed up, and i don't think it has anything to do with their sexual preference.
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Passive/Submissive GaysPassive gays dress like woman to get the attention of active or dominant gays, I simply perceive!...4% Voted for by Mujtaba H Zaidi, Energizer Bunny.
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To Attract Men4% Voted for by Dark Red Ink, Mujtaba H Zaidi.
If your hypothesis is right (that gay guys do infact want to look like women), then my first assumption would be that they want to dress to attract men, thus coming across as more feminine as straight guys.
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Dress CodeVoted for by Sir William Wolf.
All those whom appear on television are sttention seeking. All though I agree with the statement it is only a very small minority that do this. Gay men (in my opinion) more than often fall for straight guys - Straight guys go for women - hence the reason tehy dress the way they do.
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hmmm...First off, not all gay men are attracted to straight-acting, masculine males, just as some women find male cross-dressers very attractive. Depending on the individual, the guy may not be trying to look like a woman. What most people assume are normal female or male dress are merely social constructs. It's tradition.Voted for by Gyne and Tonic.
I am a gay male who wears make-up and skirts and pumps, but I don't do it to look like a woman. It's a coincidence that my taste in fashion has to resemble that of a stereotypical woman. Marilyn Manson wears make-up like a girl (his words) but he has never gone out with the hope to be seen as a woman. Pete Burns, too, is the same.
And as far as health is concerned...that is nothing more than a stereotype. My father, in fact, is far more careful about his health than my boyfriend. -
Not all gays!Voted for by Sankofalokumbe.
Remember, there are two components to every relationship, even homosexual ones. Though many gay guys cross-dress, remember, there is always the guy who plays the male role. The gays who cross-dress just stick out more than the normal ones.
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not all gay guys dress like women.Voted for by allaboutpoetry.
first of all your talking about drag queens.which in most cases they drees like that because thats what they are.some people are born in the wrong body.in fact in some cases drag queens aren't gay they just grew up in the wrong body.i'm not saying that all of them are like that but some are.
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Skewed Perception of the Homosexual CommunityVoted for by Jason Marks.
The problem with this particular issue is that most of society is assumed to be straight. The minority of people who express characteristics that are concurrent with the stereotype homosexual are the ones who get the most exposure on TV or in real life. People assume that the homosexuals who do not dress/act/speak like these stereotypes do are straight and therefore do not include them in their perspective on what homosexuality is. These people see only the drag queens and then make conclusions about homosexuality based on what they see; misconceived conclusions mind you. NEWSFLASH: A majority of gay males, and I mean a large majority, do not want to be women!!! A majority of lesbian females, and I mean a large majority, do not want to be men!!! I as a gay male do not want to be a woman. I am no more attracted to masculine men than I am to effeminate men. The female organ is not in any way attractive to me, so I have no desire to have sexual relations with one or sport one myself. Hope this might clear something up, if not then oh well.
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steryotypes lVoted for by Scarlet Shadows.
some people beleive because a guy is a bit femine he is gay. it isn't true. any guy could be gay. thay all don't dress like women and stuff like that
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You do not have to be gay to crossdress.Voted for by newuniverse.
I beleive my title say it all but well maybe I should explain a little. Being a woman in the drag community (drag king if you don't know the term), I know that many og my counterparts are strait men and women who just ejoy the exileration of dessing in drag and preforming. Most go right back to their "normal" lives right after. Hell, I just think it's fun.
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whyVoted for by dewbee.
Perhaps because they do not want to limited to the stereotype of male in this society, i mean how natural is that?? ... (i assume here that we are being specific, my argument should go for female-to-male transexual/crossdressing as well)....
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TranssexualityReady for a quote?Voted for by VocifVehem.
“Gay men do not want to look like women. There are many categories that men can fall into when they dress like a woman: Drag Queen, Transvestite, Transsexual, Transgender. Many of the men who fall into these categories are gay or bi, but definitely not all. Many are straight. And there are certainly a lot of gay men who DO NOT fall under any of these categories.
If you wanna ask why some men want to look like women, that is a question for experts on the world of "Trans."
One's sexual orientation has little internal influence on how they desire to dress.”
I'm a transsexual/transgender. (I don't know which word to use, yet.) Like him in Boys Don't Cry. (Sad movie.) I'm an FTM transsexual, anyway, which means I was born a girl, but I emotionally and psychologically feel I should have been a guy. I suppose most transsexuals have an operation, though some might as well dress like a guy or perhaps even accept the gender they were born to.
And none of this, believe me, has anything to do with my sexuality. I'm a bisexual, and I would have been so no matter if I was born a girl, a guy or a bloody smurf. -
Homosexuality: The Bottom Line - A Life Enhancing MessageVoted for by Good Blog.
We all know homosexuals and unfortunately the vast majority was either sexually, physically or mentally abused as children or came from a very unbalanced single parent household. Others that realized their "orientation" later in life were not provided proper foundational value settings in their youth and are introduced into it through friends and pornography and their weakness of character makes them susceptible to "try it." Many abuse children, thus passing this problem along to them as their lives are also damaged. It has been handed down the generations this way.
The World Health Organization classified it as a mental disorder until 1981, then somehow it was removed, but the gays still suffered with the problem. Most have hundreds of sex partners and about 25% have over 1000. This devastating behavior destroys the psychology of the person and life is about using others and being used by others. It is unnatural like bestiality, pedophilia, and the hundreds of other sexual disorders. Millions of psychological sufferers have sexual relations with food, stuffed animals, plastic dolls, derive sexual excitement from eating feces (poop) and drinking urine (pee), etc. No one is born with these problems; they are learned from environmental factors or developed as unhealthy coping factors to deal with their problems as described herein. Others turn to crime, drugs, alcohol etc., to deal with these issues, or indulge in combinations of these behaviors. The entire gay community suffers from depression and other mental health issues, substance abuse, STDs, suicide and many other detrimental factors in their lives.
Solution: Give yourself a 30 day make over. Jesus offers a release from this curse that is true and everlasting. Find a good church that will not condemn you, but will help you overcome your addiction. Indulge yourself in the spiritual life for a month to give you a cold turkey shock to your soul. You will realize true joy in life and finally the peace you have desired all of your life. This will require you to change, but change for the better. You will learn to forgive those who have damaged your life and finally love yourself and your neighbor in a clean and pure way. You no longer have to live with this pain and struggle, there is a way out. Welcome aboard brothers and sisters, there is a new and better life ahead for you. After you take this advice given in love, go out and serve your fellow man and woman and give back to your community. Help spread this word of healing, love and peace.
God bless.
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