Your Views?
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My fiancee and I are swingers...30% Voted for by Boudica, Weydon, petethemeat, Chanell, cr a sh. (6 total)
We are getting married this October and he and I have been together for several yrs now. When we first met I didn't want a serious relationship. I had a bad break up with an abusive jerk and I wasn't looking for love. We kept a friends with benfits relationship for a while. Mind you we moved in as room mates and we became fast friends. Love sparked and we are very happy. We had a talk and we agreed that we enjoyed our open lifestyle and so no reason to change it. Yes we are EXTREMELY careful!!! We always use condoms and are open and honest with everyone we swing with. To be honest its kept our relationship together and made our sex life very stronge. We don't want to change this. Why should we? We're happy!!!
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Uh-oh Pete. hehee,15% Voted for by frndofyaweh, Makessenseright, Xelgaroth.
You know my view; Just don't do it. No relationship is about sex and sex is never casual. hence the later problems that sometimes can arise, with casual sex.
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Meh15% Voted for by Weydon, Kayden S, petethemeat.
Be safe and responsibile. I don't have any problems with it.
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Sex shouldn't be Casual15% Voted for by steenee89, PaleSeptembeR, Xelgaroth.
Sex isn't a casual thing in my opinion. I feel it is more serious, and meaningful. Sex has turned into many different things as society has changed. I don't see what casual sex can amount to. I don't believe it will help heal the wounds of an abusive relationship. It seems as though that would be dancing around the issue, rather than dealing with it. Sex is meant for baby making and the expression of love in my opinion, not recreation. It's too huge of a thing to be taken so lightly.
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why not?10% Voted for by Kayden S, Weydon.
I personally find it excited to have a no-strings-attached deal once in a while. It's nice to have a relationship, but if I can't get it, it's the second best thing. If your responsible then you shouldn't have any problems resulting in it. Just because it's casual doesn't mean it's bad. Relax.
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Evolution10% Voted for by Eye Sea, Oral Fixation.
In a scientific light: Back in the times of olde the world population was still kind of small, so we neeeded to multiply more (cue in sexual pleasure). Now, with a bigger population we need to cut down, so sex becomes more of a recreation then an actual nesecity. So sure, why not.
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Its the bestVoted for by Chanell.
its dangerous, but it saves alot of heart ache. who need strings attached and if you been hurt than this is just for you. but hey, to each its own.
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Choice is yours. Fair enough.
everybody has their own views, but here's a unversial view, to have sex is written all over our "JEANS!!"; a joke rather. seriously, its in our genes to mate and reproduce. But amongst humans sex has always been dangerous, no matter what the era, or century. to be safe about it, wear protection or please know who at least you're about to encounter with.
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I see potential problems in the future...
To each his own. I don't care what others do in the privacy of their bedrooms and with whom (as long as it is consensual and does no harm), BUT having said that, I would bet that somewhere along the way "swinging" will become an issue in your relationship if you truly care about each other.
For most people (myself included), the sharing of intimate love with others outside a committed relationship is extremely hurtful. Perhaps there are exceptions, but human nature is such, that for the majority of us it is painful to imagine someone you love (and who says they love you) being intimate with others.
I have a long-time friend who confided in me that she and her partner were swingers. She said it was great initially - exciting and adventuresome - they felt very enlightened and "hip" about their lifestyle for several years. And then the jealousies and doubts began to set in as they matured. If one of them seemed to enjoy a certain other person too much, then it became more of a threat to the relationship. It became unwholesome and not nearly the "fun" it once was.
I commend you for using protection and being careful about safeguarding your physical health. It is your emotional health that is a concern. Since you say you are getting married, I would also have concerns as to how this arrangement will affect your children should you decide to have them in the future.
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petethemeat
June 19, 2006
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