Sex before marrige? okay?
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Yeah26% Voted for by Stevie, Scrap, s-man23, Robbwindow, Piscean Wisdom. (9 total)
If you want to wait, that’s your business. Your loss too, if you ask me.
Sex doesn’t have to be about marriage, procreation, or love. It can be whatever you make of it. It can be fun. It can be intense. It can be gentle. It can be a mixture of all the above (including marriage, procreation, and love) and much, much more.
Just make sure that YOU and your partner are comfortable with it, that you’re SAFE about it, and that you’re willing to accept any reprecussions.
I think NOT doing it before marriage is a little silly. Like it or not, you’re going to be doing it with this person for the rest of your life. Aside from that fact, sex can be one of the ultimate expressions of love and affection, and therefore an important part of the relationship. If the person is selfish or WIERD about it all, you’re pretty much screwed.
This isn’t to say you can’t grow and learn together, but there’s also the fact that some people are just plain UNWILLING to learn and grow and experiment and LISTEN to one another in the sack. It’d be wise to figure out just where you and they stand.
But that’s just me.
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No, no. :)14% Voted for by Mary O, rksweetpunk, xxxforeverxxx, sinner118, Hows-your-cookie-15.
No, no. Ladies, you can’t have them all. And hurt comes with loses. So, ultimately and really, just one is it.
Make sure that ring is on the finger and the wedding date is set to be assured a trusting commitment. Enjoy the luxury of love at first wed-night, with the one who truly loves you. More complete, satisfying and nothing is better than two people in love learning how to gratify each other for the first time. Oh, how my husband and I laughed and the memories are priceless. Hollywood couldn’t light a light to our first night in all its clumsiness. We’ve been together nearly 40 years now. Two children and nine beautiful grandchildren and my husband says, “Look what we did.” -
Sex before a certain age should be the question!8% Voted for by ohsweetie970, ohsweetie2788, Fire Fang.
I think many kids have sex because it’s cool, or because “that’s what everybody does”. They wanna be like the rest. That is the big deal. Sex before marrige is just fine, it’s about being ready for what sex is. Because most young people think it’s just a physical thing. And it is, to guys, but not to girls. That’s where the problem is. The girls think it’s not a big deal, but once you did it, there’s no going back.
I myself was 17 when I lost my virginity. I was ready for it. It was a good experience to me. Many of my friends were much younger. One was 14, one was 12. The one who was 14 was not ready for it at all, and she regretted it, but the one who was 12 regrets nothing. She was mature enough for it already then.
As I said, it about being ready, not about whether you have a ring on your finger or not.
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if you are careful...8% Voted for by ohsweetie970, Enira, ohsweetie2788.
i believe it is ok, i am not saying go sleep with every guy you date or find attractive but if you are with someone for a very long time and think you will saty with them have sex just use protection and make sure neither of you have an std before hand. so have sex before marriage just don’t sleep around and be very careful.
Ash
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Sex and Love8% Voted for by SomnusLupus, Stevie, sgloveslevi.
I think a lot of people say no because they feel you can’t be in love without being married.This however is not true.To me Sex is an act of love which most people feel when they choose to have sex.Not all sex is love which is more about pleasure and lust then it is about the feelings in the heart.I think people can choose which they want to do.Wether you love someone so much you want to give yourself to them or you lust for someone so much you want to feel the pleasure they can give you.Just don’t do it because someone else says so because then you will regret it.Love can happen at any time to anyone and just because your not married doesn’t make that love tainted or even wrong.You decide how strong your love is and how far you will go to express it.Let your heart and mind be your choice of whether you want to have sex before marriage not anyone else .
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Yes5% Voted for by SuperMoose, Fire Fang.
To be honest, and I mean completely honest with what Sex in our time, yes. it is completely acceptabale in society to have sex before marrige depending on the society you live in, the US being one that accepts it. Each individual will have his or her own mind made up on this idea though and it varies by the individual. I believe personally that sex is something that is used constantly to gain what one wants and that, when used liek that, is almost always a dishonest act like lieing. I also believe though, that when you are with someone that you truly care for, it is perfectly acceptable to do that with them, as long as the feelings are honest and sincere.
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Sex and Marriage5% Voted for by Mujtaba H Zaidi, Hows-your-cookie-15.
Respected All! Man has two basic instincts i.e. hunger and sex. Man is born hungry and cries to eat/drink something at the very moment of his birth. And he is in need of edibles till he sighs his last. Sex is the second instinct that is the basic one. But this desire is born at the age of puberty or so i.e. at the age of at least 9 years. In the same way, it perishes away or weakens from the age of 50 or so. All the Heavenly religions including Judaism, Christianity and Islam have determined the way to quench the thirst of carnal desires that is marrying someone belonging to the opposite-gender who is not any of these relations: father/grandfather/brother/half-brother/son/grandson/son-in-law/nephew/real uncle in case of woman and mother/grandmother/sister/half-sister/daughter/granddaughter/daughter-in-law/niece/real aunt and others in case of man. Besides these relation a man and a woman can marry any individual of the world of opposite sex to develop physical relations in a pious and dignified way as well for her/his reproduction. All the extra-marital relations between the members of two sexes or the same sex that r beyond the marital-knot r sin and wrongful deed. When both religion and society offer the noble way to quench the lust, why should we adopt the ways which cause man’s complete ruin and humiliation not only in this world, but also in the world Hereafter?? We must keep away from all the filthy activities which may weaken our marital life as well as thwart our deeds and repute…....Thanks n Regards.
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DANGER: no diving zone!5% Voted for by sinfulseduktriss, Fire Fang.
ok, i have totally had sex before marriage and my opinion on it is totally expected of most people. the reason i think this way is that if you wait until marriage to have sex, then you could be married to someone who you have absolutely no sexual chemistry with. and that could create serious underlying problems throughout your entire marriage. this could lead to cheating and other infidelities in the relationship also. so in my opinion, test the waters before you dive in. ~Emily~
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Ideally, NoVoted for by wbiro.
But who among us can live by ideals? Ideally your first kiss should be on your wedding day, etc. etc.
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It's All Comes To A ChoiceVoted for by Annabel Lee.
There are a lot of girls and guys who have had sex before marriage. And personally, I admire those people who take abstinence first. But then again, I didn’t. I do regret it, but when you find someone that you feel trust and caring for then it comes down to that choice. Do you want to have sex with him or her? It doesn’t always have to be love, it’s more about trust. And at least knowing the person! But really, if you want to, go ahead, but know the consequences. That’s how it works, cause then the effect. Which can result out bad, or good.
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My OpinionVoted for by hellizacomin.
i think sex before marriage is perfectly fine and normal for teenagers. i had sex for the first time at the age of 15 only because i thought i was in love. maybe if you are really in love with the person its fine. if its just for fun, maybe not. but i dont know. i didnt go sleep with every guy i seen, i had fun with them but thats a different story. after i broke up with my ex bf i waited for that next special someone to come along and i found him. and now if we ever break up i will wait for the next special one to come. its not a matter of having sex for fun and pleasure its a matter of that person being special to you at the time and hopefully they will be special forever and not only for a short time.
peace and love <3 -ashley
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Marriage is Not for MeVoted for by absynth-dream.
I lived both sides of this topic. When I was younger, I was properly educated on the dangers of STD's, The Risk of Pregnancy and also-my fragile reputation. So truthfully sex seemed intimidating and frightning. I remained a Virgin until I was 18. I never really believed sex before Marriage was something wrong and I think that stigma has faded with GenX kids. Which is great because no one should ever feel bad about Natural Human Impulses. I now am in a serious relationship and I think sex is a very important part of this. I also believe that marrigae is basically a way of financial help and security and most marry out of fear of regection or loneliness. Romance truely has been drained from the idea of marriage for me and I don't plan on ever having a wedding. This doesn't mean I'm trashy or worth less then someone who is married or who did choose to wait.
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It depends on if you can marry or notVoted for by pozo.
I personally think that you should show your commitment through marriage first. Although if for some reason (because of laws banning marriage [happened in history, I don’t think it’s true anywhere today], knowledge that the person’s going to die soon and you really love them, homosexuality or something like that) you can’t marriage you shouldn’t have to. Basically, if you can choose- choose abstinance. If not, go have sex, provided (a) you are safe, (b ) you are having sex with someone you love and© you are old enough legally.
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July 27, 2005
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'love' fantastic but...
With a list it makes it seem a mythodical answer to alot of tell tale signs that may guide a lost in love (person like me) that may well of prevented falling in what seemed like a concept of love and indeed to this very day a part of me still clings to the memories and what the actual structure of yet again another 'loving ' relationship down the swany. The more we tried the less we gained. The more we help each other through the activation buttons became easily pressed. Loving and communication come hand in hand but what is a hand to hold if the fear of being noticed seemed an issue. Not only to help with each others lives 100% but to reflect it back in a tough 'love ' way can be a great healer whilst still together but when a relationship dissolves and people move on 'get over love' may still continue to make the same mistakes. Hence 'love is blind'. And the shallow ness you describe would surely be more than just material possession's or dedication to a career or seperate path of to common dinominators clinging to a 3rd degree prop in ; holidays, television, litriture, water, tree's and cleaning toilettries like sharing razors and towels that become amallgamated in the washing machine. With the shared chores of caring for animals and maintanance and seeking guidance from michanical mechenism's. The chance of children as a to do list becomes closer to yet another day in the life of 'love'April 24, 2005
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April 24, 2005
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Buyer beware..... :-)
If you wait until you're married, well, how do you know if everything works right? I don't want to make a lifelong commitment to a man only to find out that he's a selfish, uncaring jerk in bed. Or worse. As a person who's been married, let me just warn those of you who haven't. A marriage license costs about $70. A divorce costs a lot more. Divorce is an industry. If you're considering getting married, do the responsible thing and plan on a ten-year engagement. Plenty of time for those skeletons or strange sexual quirks to come out of the closet. Just take my word for it, young people. Even if you think you're madly in love.April 4, 2006
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Sex is great, but be prepared for the consequences
No act is without its consequences. Even if you have safe sex, and even if the condom doesn't break and you don't pass or catch any disease, there is a change that occurs in your mind and spirit when you engage in sex. It is powerful both biologically and psychologically. I would say spiritually too. If you don't share in the spiritual aspect, you lose a lot. Your soul gets rotten,hardened and dried, like a fruit exposed to air and sun.July 21, 2006
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I agree with you. your right on the button with this one. You lose alot when you don't engage in the spiritual asspects of sex. Take it from some one who is Dark at heart. You will die inside you heart if you don't respecte this part of haveing sex. Though, that is not what happend to me. I made my sell Dark, cold hearted, and a Pyro too.Please register or login to comment! It's totally free