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Is there choice when it comes to love?

I've just been reading through a few of the debates regarding homosexuality, and a lot of people seem to be saying that because it's a 'choice' then it can be condemned. So I just want one person, straight, gay or whatever, to give me one example of when they've CHOSEN to fall in love with someone. Because after reading some of these opinions, it would seem it happens all the time.


  • Choice. No.

    If choice was a factor in love then the world would be full of a lot less heartache and a lot more safe relationships.

    26%  Voted for by beeblebear, Weydon, Kazrith, Boudica, Chanell. (8 total)
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  • I wish there was...

    But it seems like there isn't. Love is love, it just happens.You cannot control your heart. But we often get confused, and think love is attraction and vice versa. Sometimes we don't realize we have fallen in love, but sometimes we just think we did. This is an infinite-solution equation.

    20%  Voted for by Stella Cadente, Weydon, Boudica, Chanell, windi88. (6 total)
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  • Homosexuality is more than sex

    A homosexual or lesbian is person who is attactive to the same sex. Some accept their feelings and enjoy their lifestyle. Others either deny or feel guilty for it. Some get married to the oppsite sex and try to have familes. I have met several gays and lesbians who had divorses from straight relationships. So yes they can't choose who they love. And yes some people can fall out of love, but then there are many who can't. If someone is truely in love, a part of them will always love that person. No matter what.

    16%  Voted for by Boudica, Weydon, 600 Miles Away, windi88, dysperdis.
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  • do and dont

    i think u dont have the choice to fall in love but u have the choice to not get into a relationship. u can stop urself from loving a person if u really want to i believe

    6%  Voted for by DeathxFaerie, Weydon.
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  • NO

    I don't believe there is, so far in my life it have been an instinctual feeling.

    6%  Voted for by lifebabe , Dienush.
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  • You do have a choice
    "I absolutely hate the fact the some people say "Homosexuals have little or no choice!" I always HATED that statement when I was gay! It made me feel sick. Like an animal would couldn't determine wrong from right! That statement was just made up so homosexuals can feel justified for their homosexual behaviors. I'm glad I'm a heterosexual now. Because I found out that heterosexual sex is better withing marriage. And I opose anyone trying to enforce their gay thoughts on me again! I was fooled once into choosing homosexuality, and I refuse to let anyone else around me be fooled into it as well"

    Quote from my friend, Austin J. And I believe him as well. You guys have a choice. You can read the article below.

    "Bill Hernandez was a 23-year-old homosexual who took a job as a bartender at a ‘gay’ bar in California. Bill had been regarded as effeminate as a child. Through his teens he allowed his thinking to lure him into becoming a practising homosexual by his early twenties. By the age of 25, Bill was ready to commit suicide.

    The gay life is a sad life. Accounts from former homosexuals testify that ‘gays’ need to be helped—not to see their behaviour as ‘normal’, but to lay it aside. One study has shown that 40 per cent of homosexuals believed they were psychologically disturbed. Other studies show that attempted suicide and thoughts of suicide are much higher among gays than heterosexuals.

    Many governments have already decriminalized homosexuality. Others are considering it. Yet former homosexuals who have been helped to abandon their gay lifestyle by Christian ministries to homosexuals, such as Exodus International, point out something too important to ignore: homosexuality is learned behaviour that causes enormous problems for gays and for others. When gay bartender Bill Hernandez admitted this, he was helped back on the road to a normal life.

    The Australian Federation for the Family in the latter part of 1990 submitted a 46-page document on homosexuality to the Criminal Justice Commission in Queensland. This was in response to a government inquiry into whether to decriminalize homosexuality. Federation spokesman Jack Sonnemann says homosexuality is devastating to any culture that encourages its lifestyle. He says, ‘People with an alcohol problem do not need more ready availability of drink, they need to learn to run dry.’ His meticulously documented submission points out some frightening facts apart from the horrifying spread of AIDS among homosexuals:

    * Homosexuals commit between 33% and 50% of all recorded instances of child molestation.
    * Homosexual teachers have been involved in 80% of recorded teacher-pupil sexual interactions.
    * Homosexuals have accounted for about half of all molestations among those who work with children.
    * You are 15 times more likely to be murdered by a homosexual than a heterosexual during a sexual murder spree.
    * Most victims of sex murders die at the hands of a homosexual.

    ‘Homosexuality in itself produces nothing of substantive value,’ Mr. Sonnemann says, ‘yet we all must pay for its activity.’

    On such facts alone it seems that decriminalizing homosexuality is being unhelpful to homosexuals and cruel to society. In addition, the Bible gives no support to the homosexual lifestyle. Every passage of Scripture dealing with the subject puts it in a bad light. And lest homosexuals say they are born that way or have inherited their homosexuality, research does not support this.

    Studies of physical build, chromosomes, hormones, neurological, or biochemical make-up, and so on, show no differences between homosexuals and heterosexuals. American Christian psychologist Dr. Gary Collins says in his comprehensive book Christian Counselling that most researchers have concluded ‘there is no present evidence to support the idea that homosexuality has a physical or biological cause.’ This clearly fits God’s attitude towards homosexual practices. If homosexuals were born that way and ‘couldn’t help it’, their actions would not be so soundly condemned by God. Homosexuality is not a genetic trait.

    Any government considering decriminalizing homosexuality has a ready-made answer in Scripture from the One who created mankind in the beginning. The Creator provided a suitable partner—a woman—for the first man. God observed ‘It is not good that the man should be alone’, and made the woman. Thus the propagation of the human race was ensured. No union between men alone or women alone can fulfil the role God created for the man-woman relationship. Jesus emphasized this in His teaching on divorce (Matthew 19:4-6), where He quoted from both Genesis 1 and 2 to show the basis for marriage.

    Homosexuality is not an alternative to heterosexuality. God made no alternative. Homosexuals need to be helped to understand what their all-wise Creator intended, and to work at getting back on that path. It is not easy, particularly if much of the ‘learning’ has taken place at an early age. Decriminalization leads to greater social acceptance of homosexual behaviour. This brings a greater risk of young people’s being influenced at a vulnerable age. Instead of decriminalizing homosexuality, governments need to help the homosexual abandon his sinful practice. That is to his benefit and society’s."

    Qupte from Answersingenesis.com
    6%  Voted for by Doom Pickels, mudgod.
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  • there isnt much of a choice...

    as long as they make YOU happy, regardless wat other may think. love cant see it can only feel.

    Voted for by Chanell.
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  • No....but

    No we do not have a choice our urges are indeed biological if we are hetro or homosexual I do believe it is preordained.However there are those who like to experiment willingly.And mostly because of our popular culture.Everywhere you look you see homosexuals being worshiped and adored.So a lot of people who are hetrosexual by birth try to act like them because they might be better appreciated in society.

    Voted for by justin3.
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  • Turning

    The only choice in the matter of love is that of which you let your self fall or keep up. It depends on how you hold yourself, follow your feet or realize you love him. If you know them then you don't and you don't know who they are but you meet them a few years later, then the helpless need of turning out to love them is one that captures your soul and intimidates the truth, then its love and chances are... you loved him from the very begginging, for who he is and for how or who he became... (or girl if it floats your boat if your a guy) And the prospect of having a choice, the wish of knowing who to love, when and how. Is based souly on what you believe and who you believe in. What does your heart say, because you have a choice in the matter of which way you want to walk just whatch where you step, and you can't avoid love if its already there.

    Augusta

    *Just Don't get it confused*

    Voted for by THE-fortunecookie.
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  • no

    there is no choice in who you love.you can't choose who your atractid to.wether a man or a women.

    Voted for by allaboutpoetry.
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  • Love and choice

    People don't choose to fall in love; it just happens. However, that really doesn't advice the debate over the increasing homosexualization of our culture.

    When youth realize they are attracted to the same sex, they have a number of options. They can decide that their attractions define who they are as human beings and embrace a very unhealthy lifestyle, or they can seek counseling to develop heterosexual functioning. That is their choice.

    More fundamentally, we as a society have a choice as to whether we want to minimize the number of youth who have these attractions or celebrate these attractions. A recent study by Andrew Francis supports the common-sense notion that a homosexualized culture will produce more homosexuality. Of course, we already knew that because homosexuality in ancient Greece, where same-sex eroticism was idealized and glorified, was virtually universal.

    That is bad for society and bad for women my friends.

    Voted for by sofita.
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