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Is hatred for someone born from loving that same person?

Can you really hate someone you claimed you loved at one time?

Love cannot turn into hate

If someone truly loves someone else, that someone could never hate the other person. People tell me that you must first love something in order to hate it. I do not believe this is true. I hate things that I never loved. I believe that if you love someone, then hate them later, you never really loved them in the first place. You may be hurt by someone, but if you truly love that person, the hate you may feel will die. I think that you can act like you hate someone, but deep down love them, but that's just hiding your true feeling for that someone. In a sense you'd be living a lie, and that's never good.

My conclusion is that if you love someone, truly love them, your feelings for that person can never fade or change because true love lasts forever. If someone does end up hating someone after a relationship is over, you never loved them in the first place.
33% Voted for by Ashton Sanford, crosscountry07, Oral Fixation.
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- Weydon
  June 29, 2006
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  "I think that you can act like you hate someone, but deep down love them, but that's just hiding your true feeling for that someone" If I still loved someone that did something hate-worthy, I would hate them twice as much while hating myself even more for feeling that way. "In a sense you'd be living a lie, and that's never good." Is it better to go on loving someone who does horrible things, just because you loved them once? "because true love lasts forever." Says who? "you never loved them in the first place." That's a pretty harsh judgement. I don't really agree.
- Ashton Sanford
  July 1, 2006
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  I'm just saying that if you loved someone, I mean truly loved someone. You're always going to love them no matter what they do.
- Weydon
  July 2, 2006
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  I'm just saying that's not always the case.
- jotokai
  July 30, 2006
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  An argument of definitions
  Here, you're arguing about the definition of "true love." She says, that by definition, if you felt "true love" then you could not fall into hate. So then, Weydon, the question seems to be simple: can such a thing as "true love" exist? Ashton: If you had "true love" how would you prove it? He could always say, "Your 'true love' just didn't do anything BAD enough."
- Weydon
  August 1, 2006
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  Well, I believe in "True love", but only a realistic definition of it. It's not magic or anything like that. It's just a whole great deal of love and connection, and in most cases is a monoganous relationship. I feel I have been in true love multiple times.
- Oral Fixation
  December 20, 2006
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  You can hate how the are...
  But you can never hate THEM. I got into this topic with my brother, who always seems to be getting himself into trouble. I said, you know, you could kill my boyfriend and I still wouldn't hate you. You're my brother and I love you no matter what...I'll just hate how you acted and I sometimes don't really like how you are.
  
  There again, a conflict arises in what I just said: If you tell someone you love everything about them, and then they do something you hate...what happens?
- dystopiandream
  March 23, 2007
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  In my opinion going by my difficult relationship with my Father. I NOW hate him but I used to love him just as much. I believe that you can dislike something intensly but to truly hate something or someone you must have loved them in some way to begin with.
  
  People don't realise how thin the line is between Love and Hate.
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HATRED

I BELIEVE PERSONALLY THAT HATRED CAN COME FROM LOVE. IT CAN COME FROM LOVING ONE SO MUCH AND BEING HURT BY THE VERY SAME ONE.

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You may still love a part of them, or at least memories of what you had, but people you love are in a prime position to hurt you. Strangers may be easy to hate for doing horrid things, but only someone you love can utterly betray you.

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The oposite of love is indifference and not hatred. I believe that only a thin line exists between love and hatred. Ofcourse, love and hatred can appear independently: we don't have to hate our parents if we love them, and we don't have to love terrorists first in order to hate them. However, it is more likely that one will be affected by the actions of person he/she loves than by the actions of person to whom he/she is indifferent. Consequently, if we have feelings for someone, we will reshape them rather than lose them.

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Weydon
June 29, 2006
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How is the opposite of love indifference? If you hate someone and someone else is indifferent, it's the same variation of you loving someone and someone else being indifferent. Indifference is just the middleground.
nikadvise
June 29, 2006
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Ok...a girl breaks up with her boyfriend. In he begining he is upset, angry, hurt and hates her, ie. he has the impression of hating her, but he still has feelings for her and did not stop loving her completely. After 2 years, he finds another girl, he's over the first one. He meets his exgirlfriend on the street, and now he is indifferent, he no longer loves her. That's what I meant by the opposites of love and indifference.
Weydon
June 30, 2006
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He also no longer hates her. Or someone else he knows that he did hate completely rather than "impression of hating", if it makes you feel better. Later he gets over this and is indifferent, he no longer hates this person. Therefore indifference is the opposite of love AND hate? Indifference is the opposite of having a feeling one way or the other on something. Not really the opposite of every single possible form of feeling.
nikadvise
July 2, 2006
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Yes, I agree. That is why I said that the line between love and hatred is thin. And indifference is the opposite of both (but not of every single feeling)
Weydon
July 2, 2006
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"And indifference is the opposite of both" How? I loved that. You hated that. She didn't care either way. My opinion and your opinion are BOTH the opposite of the third person's opinion? And my loving it and your hating it are NOT opposites? Then what are they? One is an extreme of enjoying it, the other is the extreme of not enjoying it. Indifference is merely the lack of either. "(but not of every single feeling)" Yes it is. Indifference is the LACK of feeling. Therefore having A feeling, any feeling, is the opposite of indifference. Think of a color wheel. Black is the absence of color. This does not mean that blue, for instance, is the opposite of black. Orange is the opposite of blue. Violet is the opposite of yellow, etc. Them being ANY color means that they are NOT an absence of color, so that fact alone sort of makes them opposite of black, but no more than any other color. Just as love or hate being AN emotion sort of makes them the opposite of the absence of emotions, but no more than any other. The true opposite of black would be white, as the true opposite of indifferenc would be "difference" (in the connotation that this means you DO have a swayed stance on something). The opposite of blue is orange (and the fact they are colors makes them not the absence of colors: black), the opposie of love is hate (and the fact they are feelings one way or the other means they are not the absence of feeling one way or the other: indifference).

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Intensity of emotion

If you define love as intense feelings of pleasure and goodwill, then a painful incident can reverse the polarity. You begin to associate intense displeasure with your beloved and this inspires ill will and acts of hatred. In this manner, quite literally, "love turns to hate."

Many people do not behave in this way. Perhaps they have different definitions of love, or perhaps they have simply made firmer decisions on what to love. This does not invalidate the observation that often, love and hate reverse polarity.

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To Love is to Hate

To love a person one has to hate atleast something about them.

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