Time will help, as always. Gradually becoming interested in other people, serious or "casual" or merely flirty heps too--especially allowing yourself to do this.

When sad, are you making sure you're mourning the LOSS of it, and not simply dwelling on something you wish was still there. It's important to mourn this, because it's gone. Identify that fact whenever you think of these things.

Smile as you accept life. This may not work for everyone lol. I've told people this and it actually made them more depressed or they just couln't relate at all, but when in a similar circumstance (again and again ) I was thinking how I can't be happy with her and I can't be happy without her. Traditionally while thinking this crappy fact I focused on how much I wanted it anyway. Then one day I took note of how that sort of implied I can't be happy. And I just smiled, and even laughed a little. Perhaps I've become delirious, but I've adopted this thought process into my everyday life. Once accepting the "only" outcomes, the worst is over and all that's left is to go on and enjoy everything else, and spread good feeling by not being a jerkoff lol. I actually became happier than I had ever previously been, and still am.

I am not currently in a relationship and am in such bliss, the only time I feel mild distress is when I find myself coming closer to entering a new one lol! But then I just smile and remember that either things will work or they won't, and all I can do is enjoy whatever good comes from it.

I have been in that type of relationship before. I loved this guy, he was perfect, but he screwed me over and really hurt me. The thing is we started talking again and it seemed as though he liked me once more, but then screwed me over yet again. All I can say is dont worry about it. Such is life, and yes, time does help but there are other things to help get over him. Think about the good things in life you have. And when you least expect it, someone will come along and take your breath away.

I split up from my ex of two and half years just under a year ago and even now there are days when i think oh my god did i do the right thing, is he ok, should i go and see him, let him know what i'm up to etc. Then i remember exactly why we split up and that helps me gain a little perspective and comfort. You will come through it and when your settled in years to come you'll look back on that relationship and even though it may still smart inside you'll find yourself smiling and glad of the experience you gained from being with that person.