Can these three not come together? I've been wondering... I have this friend.. he's the closest friend I've ever had. I think he cares for me pretty much. He spends lots of time with me (considering he's very busy at least), he's kind and patient, he cares how I feel too... But it doesn't seem like he likes or appreciates anything about me. I know that the fact that he doesn't say it doesn't necessarily mean that... But anyway, this made me question... Is it possible to love someone whom you despise, if love is a feeling of desire for the other one's well being, concern for him/her, (at least slight) efforts and sacrifices made for him/her?
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I don't know, that's why I asked...Voted for by Dienush.
I guess it is particularly possible when it's about relatives.. or someone whom you used to like and appreciate a lot, too much to give up. Also, there have been several religious principles (though I'm not religious) that could somehow say it's possible. Also, Utilitarianism might also say yes... who knows... (my friend is a Utilitarian). But although religions and philosophies would seem to say yes... they only talk about love and care, not about dislike and despise... who knows?
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Mans interpretationsVoted for by frndofyaweh.
Somewhere along the line, we have skewed the emotions we feel and lost our definition of them.
As I have said here several times already; The Greek definitions of love are 5 seperate emotions. What you describe above are different forms of love.
Check this link for more on Love, which is also, liking someone, friendship and hospitality.
http://allphilosophy.com/topic/show/1227
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Love is, in the "now" definition...Voted for by eyeseverchanging.
In short, very short, terms, love is a deep care for others. A concern for their well-being, etc. Liking someone indicates you enjoy spending time with them. Appreciation is more geared to someone with an admirable quality. For example, I have a friend who has a lot of problems. I love her, I care about how she's doing, and I wish the problems would go away. But I don't always enjoy spending time with her. See - she whines a lot, and has qualities that I certainly don't appreciate. On the other hand, she has plenty of qualities that I CAN admire.
for further reference of LOVE, see the link in the post above me with the different kinds of love.
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I seeVoted for by Dorment.
Your Feelings Are Lost, Jsut becasue you dispise someone does not mean they are nothing, i am just split up with my gf i love her soo much with all my heart but i know she as you said dispices me i can do nothing but hope for a chance because i know is falling for someone else anyway the fact you hav feeling for someone close to you would ruin your realtionship together always will. I had done the same relaly close mate we got together.. we split ruined are friends forever.. Is it really worth it .. Worth the lost of a fried just because of love ?
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