Porn kills love.what are your thoughts about that saying...do you think its true why/why not?
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Be Mature22% Voted for by Kei-Aira, Weydon, petethemeat, pnktrky, CrazyRebel. (6 total)
Be an adult and admit your mistakes.
Porn is a tool to help arouse you sexually, nothing more. If you cheat on someone, you make a concious decision to do that. The fact you were lusting after a porn star a few weeks ago has nothing to do with it.
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Ruins, not kill11% Voted for by Sharcu, birdlover06, TeChNoWC.
I don't think it can kill love. I think that it can definately ruin it which can lead to it dying out in the end. Pornography can ruin relationships. Act like the way you want your future husband/wife to act. If you really would want them looking at porn, sleeping around with other people, etc. then go ahead and do that. But personally I wouldn't want them to so I don't see why I should.
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No...never...impossible7% Voted for by Ahkam, realfairy.
Love...the supreme Emotion...porn just a temporary pleasure or amusement. Love and Sex are two entirely different subjects. If I can’t sing this has nothing to do with my ability of swimming or reading…Secondly pornography is a sort of addiction and can be controlled but love is a blessing and the greatest asset of life…an uncontrollable thing. I don’t mean to say that pornography is some thing good or harmless but as far as the effect of it on Love is concerned, I believe that love is entirely independent of it. Moreover love is a spontaneous phenomenon while all other things are adoptable.
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hmmm....sexy, sexy pornowhat happens when you can't have sex with that one you love? you're sex drive is going to just crash adn drop; me, i just get hornier because i'm not getting any. so, watch porn with handy-dandy vibrator and my ten fingers or cheat on my boyfriend?7% Voted for by sekmhet eye of ra, sca.
and well if you are together, watching bang bus while you have at each other is quite a little thrill too. -
When too explicit!7% Voted for by nanrek, Applehead.
Some porn is so explicit it resembles pictures in gynocology journals. It overloads your perceptions with images you would rather not know about!!! When I eat hamburger, I don't want images of the slaughter house in my mind. Neither do I want close up images of female and/or male anatomy as a prelude to sex.
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Porn doesn't ruin relationships, prudes do.I believe there's a difference between porn and the physical, emotional and tangible relationship you have with a partner.7% Voted for by sca, Weydon.
You don't fall in love with pornstars, you don't imagine impregnating them with your children, you don't hope to one day be able to provide them with a house, and you certainly don't cradle their cheek in your hand once you've worked to earn their trust and affection so much that you consummate your love through sex.
Pornstars in my experience, simply serve as a template for a man or woman. Completely impersonal, inherently temporary. And from talking to both sexes, often watching that template doesn't stop their thoughts resting solely with their loved one.
Porn doesn't ruin the love in a relationship - one partner having to pretend they don't do something, and hide it from the other partner, does.
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it really doesVoted for by OnceUponABlueMoon.
its a growing problem in this country and people should be aware of it... not saying that porn is a bad thing just saying that you cant have too much of a good thing. obsession will lead to neglect of acual love because you find that porn gives you what you want and more to pleasure yourself. and you find out that you sometimes cant get what it is that you want from your mate.
so putting the question into your head that well why do i need all the fuss that comes with love when i could just have everything i need right here in porn. therefore killing love for you
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either waydepending on the person, and relationship, porn could destroy or improve it, it is something slightly addicting when taken the wrong way, it (itself) isn't a bad thing. tho some of it is definitely not 'good' for anything at all, i still can see how this (improving a relationship) might not be the case (however slim the odds it still could happen)...Voted for by hypnorocker.
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Porn can save love!I believe that porn can save love, if married or engaged men of women loose their unfulfilled sexual needs in pornography rather than in cheating on your partner.Voted for by Coeckie.
I think that if you talk this over with your partner, and you're both reasonable, this might boost your relationship. -
The Depends on Your Meaning of LoveSome people say sex and love are two completely unrelated things. They also say it is fine to lust and have sex with whomever you want even though you are only truly in love with one person. This is the pornography world.Voted for by endsofbread.
If you agree with pornography's version of love then obviously porno doesn't hurt love at all.
But if you have a more... idealistic version of love then porno will only increase your desire for sex with anyone attractive. -
yes it doesVoted for by obituary.
porn kills love. because when you see it. it most likely becomes a habit. and soon you start wanting to watch other ppl screw rather then do it yourself.leaving your mate all alone. plus it shows stuff that ruins the whole experience when you do it. just think. ahhh ive seen this episode before. or you just start thinking of how it could be if you were with someone else ya know.
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..........i think if say for instance you and your partner watch porn together, it may become too much and seem that when you and uyour partner are having sex that you might feel intimedated by the porn stars and feel like your not ''pleasing'' your partner as much as they want to be. and then i think thats where love may die, too much of it can do the same i think.Voted for by night sky mystery.
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Side AffectsVoted for by JFourie.
Actually, how do you know it doesn’t kill love? Just because you don’t know the side affects of porn, that doesn’t mean there aren’t any. Actually one of which; love people less, degrading them, Not respecting them as much, this is all things that is part of love, right? Even looking at another woman, can make you love your partner, loved one, spouse less and it will. Avoid porn at all cost.
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October 25, 2007
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We associate lust with love because in an ideal world, lust is something we should only have for the person we love. If someone is degrading their concept of love down to being able to lust after any woman, then it is easier to cheat. I am not saying that pornogrpahy is the sole inhibitor to the breakdown of relationships, but I do know that pornography certainly does not help a loving relationship. We will always have improper feelings of lust and desire, but to continually encourage those feelings through pornography is a terrible idea. Unless they are both sexually perverted people who don't mind using sex as simply a pleasurable tool.
For my version of love, pornography can absolutely ruin love.
Gyne and Tonic
October 25, 2007
uhhh...ok
Are you saying you're weak enough to allow pornography to ruin your love for someone?Certainly, I would be irritated if my boyfriend were getting off watching porn instead of with me, but I wouldn't say it ruins love.
Watching porn isn't cheating. Cheating is when you actively participate in a sexual act with someone other than your significant other.
October 26, 2007
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Adultery in His Heart
Jesus said anyone looking at a woman with lust for her is committing adultery in his heart. You can say pish-posh, but it is what is. Allowing those feelings to be stirred up for someone that you do not love is a dangerous story. It does not matter how strong you think you are.I am saying you are who your friends are. Does your significant other want you hanging around with someone who is constantly unhonorable and disloyal to their mate? Would you want that for the person you love?
Gyne and Tonic
October 29, 2007
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And you would know what he said...?I honestly don't care who my boyfriend hangs out with. I know he loves me and wouldn't cheat, so why should i worried? he wouldn't care, either, and for the same reason. in any relationship you have to trust your partner.
you also shouldn't shun a person who has committed adultery. the bible encourages killing or shunning those who do, and that's a dangerous influence.
there's also a difference between lust and love. lust is a natural biological reaction to encoruage sexual reproduction. it shouldn't be confused with love.
Hekate
November 6, 2007
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sca
November 11, 2007
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Asking a man never to look at porn, would be like asking a woman not to think or fantasise whilest having her own alone time.
A pornstar doesn't replace real women, they're just a general template with the bits in about the right places that - if anything - allow men to visualise and fantasise about their partner better.
99% of men look at porn, and it can be dated back right through the centuries. It's normal, not to mention natural - but can you imagine what some boyfriends and husbands must feel having to hide that from their girlfriends or wives?
The guilt over something so normal, so commonly practiced, and to no threat or degredation to the relationship at all?
That is what destroys relationships, not the porn.
sca
November 11, 2007
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Asking a man never to look at porn, would be like asking a woman not to think or fantasise whilest having her own alone time.
A pornstar doesn't replace real women, they're just a general template with the bits in about the right places that - if anything - allow men to visualise and fantasise about their partner better.
99% of men look at porn, and it can be dated back right through the centuries. It's normal, not to mention natural - but can you imagine what some boyfriends and husbands must feel having to hide that from their girlfriends or wives?
The guilt over something so normal, so commonly practiced, and to no threat or degredation to the relationship at all?
That is what destroys relationships, not the porn.
sca
November 11, 2007
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grow up
Men don't have any emotional attachment to porn. And no, he wouldn't be able to do as well without it. Sexually, men are visual - and when it comes to masturbation it's harder for a male to become aroused on thoughts alone than for a woman.Asking a man never to look at porn, would be like asking a woman not to think or fantasise whilest having her own alone time.
A pornstar doesn't replace real women, they're just a general template with the bits in about the right places that - if anything - allow men to visualise and fantasise about their partner better.
99% of men look at porn, and it can be dated back right through the centuries. It's normal, not to mention natural - but can you imagine what some boyfriends and husbands must feel having to hide that from their girlfriends or wives?
The guilt over something so normal, so commonly practiced, and to no threat or degredation to the relationship at all?
That is what destroys relationships, not the porn.
sca
November 11, 2007
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Weydon.
Best call.Ever.
sca
November 12, 2007
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Applehead
November 15, 2007
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Well I cannot agree although I kinda know what your saying. The thing is that men actually become reliant on the porn, maybe not all but a lot of them. They use this form of stimulation when ever needed instead of holding out. This I understand is an emotional attatchment. They are replacing whatever is missing with fantasy.
"Asking a man never to look at porn, would be like asking a woman not to think or fantasise whilest having her own alone time."
Each to their own but my fantasy would not be about anyone other than my partner, if it were I would be seriously considering leaving that relationship.
"The guilt over something so normal, so commonly practiced, and to no threat or degredation to the relationship at all?
That is what destroys relationships, not the porn. "
Normal is not always moral.
What if some dipshit decides his wife should be as slim as the girl in his porn and starts to criticise her because she isnt or even that she wont take it through the back door (coz believe me you get guys like that)This is slightly damaging to that relationship. Granted she should find a better more respectful man but still..
As for guilt, which came first the porn or the guilt? Dont be disrespecting the supposed love you have for your partner by lusting over some other person. Whether they are emotionally attatched to that person they are watching or not they become attatched to the visual stimulation which then becomes a regular form of arousal and demeans the need for physical contact. Not completely, but the mind is no longer attracted to only the person your with but also the images in your head. Not good!
July 14
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Love and sex
What porn does is (apart from exploiting some people) present a distorted image of what sex should be like. Very few people can measure up to the images presented. If someone watches a lot of porn, there is a real danger that they will expect their partner to act out some of the things that they have seen. If the partner then objects, sadly it can be the beginning of the end of that relationship.It is far better to remain faithful and learn to please one person, than be influenced by the media like that. Yes, it does kill real love.The origins of the word speak for themselves.
[Mid-19th century. Via French from, ultimately, Greek pornographos ‘writing about prostitutes’,
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