Ok where to start. I've always thought that waiting until marriage to sleep with someone was what i'd plan to do. I never thought i met anyone that i trusted enough either. I never wanetd to be called names or regret loosing into to someone who tricked, lied to me. Now i'm not sure, i feel i'm old enough as i'm turning 18 soon. I've been respected by people and it made me feel better that i was going to wait. Now i'm not sure, i feel as if it's ok to sleep with someone if truly care, but how can i go back on my word..i've been the sort of person always against sex before marriage(not saying that i want to do this) just been thinking about this a lot lately. There's a guy who think's im to young to be with..because i'm not at all sexual. Do you believe if someone cares about you enough they won't care if you don't get intimate with them? (i know this is sort of stupid question)
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...if you have to cough...33% Voted for by katchi, Kei-Aira.
I was much younger than you when I lost my virginity. I did it of my own volition, meaning, we did it because I wanted to do it. While I felt mature enough at the time to make that decision, now in my thirties I am still questioning the decisions I have made over my sex life. I keep saying to myself, "I wish I had waited." But then, in life there really are no guarantees that my sexual life would have been the better for waiting, and you can't go back...you can only lose your virginity once. But older to younger (boy, you, too, will trip the day you say to someone half your age, 'if I had it to do all over again...'), from me to you, WAIT. Keep your promise to yourself, for the self is all that you will ever truly have, and if you can't be true to yourself, how can you be true to anyone else? Men come and go. You are always where you are, you will always have to answer to you. If there is a guy who thinks you are too young to be with, take that as a sign that he is not right for you. For the man that will be right for you will respect the fact that you would rather wait, and he will think you are something (someone) worth waiting for, and he will be glad, on your wedding night that you waited for him.
And that was not a stupid question, but truly important. If someone truly cares for you, sex will be only an extension of their love, not the basis of it.
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Are You Sure You're Ready?33% Voted for by IvoryRose, Kei-Aira.
He's pressuring you to have sex he's not worth it. And from what you said it seems like he's pressuring you. I'm 18 and I lost mine a year and some ago. I knew it was right because he didn't ask. We talked about it maturely beforehand. But he put no pressure on me. The other reason he was willing to wait as long as I wanted. I love him still and so am happy with my decision. I couldn't garauntee that we'd be together at the time. But I could garauntee that it wouldn't change my life. And that I wouldn't regret it the next day.
Those are two garauntees that seem important. You may not end up waiting until you're married, but you do wan to wait until you're able to confidently say that you won't regret it ever, no matter what happens to you and the guy.
A good quote that I have to admit I firt read on this site, was "If sex changed your life, you weren't ready for it." Don't let it be something to change your life. Make it something special that you treasure, but don't let it be so important it turns your life upside down.
Promise or not you don't seem ready. If you feel confident that you are and you want to do it. Then go ahead. But my suggestion is wait until you're comfortable enough with yourself and the subject to not have to cough.
Good luck with your decision.
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There is no rush.Voted for by vanessa reen.
There is no need to rush into something at the moment. You are not sure of your next move so this is saying that you are in fact not ready at the moment. Maybe everything will change tomorrow, and maybe it wont. But in the end you will know whats right for you in your heart. And if this older guy truly did love you and he was the right one for you then he would wait and not pressure you into anything you were unsure of. And by him saying he thought you were to young for him as you were not sexual is showing you that is the most important thing to him, not you yourself. I do not know how old this guy is but i do know that some guys will tell you that sex is important in a relationship. This may be true, there is nothing wrong with sex in a loving relationship, but a good hearted guy will understand how this may be daunting for you and put no pressure on you at all. And that is normally when you know that the relationship is right. Otherwise you may have sex with him, he may call back, maybe not, may tell his friends, either how good you were or how bad... There is a lot of hurt to be gained by doing something you are not totally ready for. Just remember that there is no rush, although you may be feeling it now. Take your time and enjoy it when it happens, instead of rushing into something you will regret.
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There is NO Sacredness in SexVoted for by david13.
Dogs do it. Frogs do it. Amoebas do it. Sex is such a low activity in life. You place it so high because that is what you have been taught by religion. You place it so high because of your FEAR and IGNORANCE of sex. Losing your virginity is a psychological worry. Your vagina is tough and well-built to take not only a one or two penises, but rather, it can take THOUSANDS of penises with no damage to its structure. God made it tough so you can be rough. Love is sacred. Sex is what animals do. YOU ARE AN ANIMAL, remember that. Those are your roots, and you should be proud of it. HAVE SEX. ENJOY IT. USE BIRTH CONTROL. SEX IS SAFE. Become strong emotionally. The only way to become strong emotionally is to fuck your way to strength. Otherwise, you are going to end up like most women who become jaded, bitter and hateful of men.
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