It has always been my opinion that you shouldn't become romantically involved with someone unless it is your intention to eventually give them all of you. If you are just interested for purposes of a ddep attachment, then you can achieve that through friendship. To hold back that one thing seems silly, perhaps if going by the idea of not having sex until you are married, you should only make friends and when you think someone is very compatible with your emotional needs and personality, you then marry them, but sexual and emotional compatibility are two different things, and until you have been emersed in every aspect of a person it is a risky business tying yourself to them for all your life.

The consequences of sex are much more expensive for women than for men. A woman only contributes 400 unfertilized eggs during her childbearing years. When she becomes pregnant, she must invest nine months of child bearing and many years of child rearing. She tries to select a healthy mate who will be a good provider and will share in the child rearing. Men, on the other hand, produce a trillon cheap sperm in their life times which they can spread around at little cost to themselves. With such little investment, men want as many orgasms as possible with as many women available as soon as possible!

im 14 and i know that you will emediatly think 'she has no idea what she is talking about shes too young', but my boyfriend is 18 and we have been together for a year already, trust me when i say that if he loves you and respects you the fact that you are not sexual should not bother him, if you meet someone and thats the first thing he asks or hints and says no then dnt bother with him. love is a connection you have with someone. someone you admire and look up to. i can imagine it must be difficult when you are confused to wether you think you should or shouldnt, but the main thing is that you make love with someone you think you will spend a lifetime with, someone who you trust completely with everything and you both share that trust. i have alot more to say but im babbling on and i dnt want to bore you. but its is something you have to think long and hard about, you should not sleep around, that is really not right and you will be dissapointed in ourself when you find the one you truly love, because something so special that you want to share with him, has been given to other people too.

If he doesnt want to be with you because you wont have sex with him, leave him. its not like you really really need him.i think it bugs you because hes challanging you basically and what your opinions are