Just wondering, because someone said something about it... It's not biblically wrong (Leviticus 18) and the chance of birth defects is only 2% higher than in non-first-cousin couples. Is there some other reason people are so grossed out by cousins marrying?
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Your Life...Your Bedroom...Your Decision25% Voted for by IvoryRose, ostrasized, Augusta Agrippina, -Mz Spina-x0.
First off let me say..if you think it's ok, then have at it. Personally it's not my cup of tea, but I'm staying out of your bedroom so whatever.
Second the anthropological and psychological argument is that children who grow up closely (ie: siblings and cousins) find each other sexually unattractive. Testing done showed that even kids who were completely unrelated but were raised in one family find each other unattractive. This isn't in all cases, just the majority..(no I don't know the statistics off the top of my head). So that's why. However do what you like.
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Why with your cousin???18% Voted for by Stella Cadente, crimson rivers, littleoneof-God.
I consider my first cousins brothers, and that's why it whould gross me out. It is wrong, because first, second, or whatever cousins are family, and I don't know why a guy/girl would even think about that. Go out, there are plenty of people in this world we could fall in love to, why a cousin??? Ohhh, and I don't understand why would you look the Bible about that??? You got your own opinions...if you don't like somebody controlling your life..then why whould you let something control it?
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It's morally fine12% Voted for by TruePh, omarmohamed.
If you look at it from a religious point of view... I am not aware of any religion that forbids you to marry your cousin, (though there probably are)... If you look at it from a non-religious point of view... then why should it be morally wrong? It's perfectly ok as long as you feel it's ok.. not like you're committing a crime...
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Why risk any increase in birth defects?12% Voted for by Kei-Aira, Gwen -high5-.
While it is true that the percentage of birth defects among offspring of first cousins is only slightly higher than the general population, I would ask why anyone would want to risk any increase at all?
But to answer your question as to whether or not it is morally wrong for cousins to have a relationship, I would say that varies with each person's definition of morality. Not many generations ago it was common for first cousins to marry. In the U.S. 26 states allow it. No country in Europe bans it, and it is legal in Canada and Mexico.
Personally it would not be for me, probably because of the way I was brought up. I view my cousins as family, almost as siblings, and therefore I could never see them as marriage material.
As others have said, it is an individual choice you have to weigh against the views you will encounter from society.
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UmVoted for by Weydon.
I've also read that the birth defects are not as high as people think...but it still creeps me out to no end.
I...can't believe I'm saying this...but I guess if both parties agree how is it my business? I'm sorry but this is just far to disgusting for me to officially get behind just yet, but I will be willing to listen to a debate over it.
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...Voted for by cosmosis.
this reminds me of an episode of the nanny where fran is making out with this guy and then the next day at a wedding realizes that it was her cousin...who she apparently never met.
anyway...personally the thought of being in a relationship with any of my cousins (and i have like a bajillion of them) grosses me out...a lot. although it's non of my business what other people do and just like Weydon said, if both parties agree who am i to bud in?
but what would you do if a child was born because of this? would you tell him/her that their mother/father is supposed to be their (what do you call your parents' cousins?)? anyway, i've rambled on enough...maybe someday it'll be accepted...you never know.
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it doesnt matterVoted for by obituary.
because technically were all the same family. ok from a non religious perspective. over thousands of years what are the chances that there is a single family out there who isnt related to one another. even though it may be distant relationships were all related in some way i think..
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Lesbian First Cousin SexVoted for by Interlude.
My comment is not based on the judgement of first cousin sex (although my personal opinion is that it falls into the category of incest). However, I need to speak about being HONEST and UPFRONT with the fact that one was in such a first cousin relationship and to share this fact with your present partner. I was NOT told and then invited to visit this first cousin with whom my present lesbian partner was in a sexual relationship for 10 years. I stayed in her home and was none the wiser (even tho all the rest of the family knew - except perhaps her present husband -- I found out later that her close friends tried to encourage her to "tell me" and that they felt it was wrong). I felt foolish and betrayed and deceived by a LIE OF OMISSION. I will always feel I had the RIGHT to know and that any promises of secrets to be held made with these two first cousins should have been overridden by me being told. Otherwise the power was given and left in the hands of this first cousin and respect not given to me...her present partner. No matter what my opinion would have been, I had the right to know. What do you think?
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