I'm not talking about God, family, or friend love. It is obvious that we generally learn how to love those ways from our upbringing. I am talking about eros, the romantic love. Who teaches you how to love romanticly? Is it parents? Is it books, TV, music, media, movies? Are those terrible influences? Or is the ONLY way to learn to love by just going out and trying to learn it as you go? Just by asking someone out, hoping all goes well, and possibly breaking your heart?
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Trial and error.25% Voted for by trolly, nays-lil-boat.
I think the only way you learn how to recognize love is through 'testing the waters' and by experiencing the hazards of dating. You go out with someone, it doesn't work so you change your tactics and try again. You think you fall in love, it doesn't last so you try again. Eventually (for many people, anyways), you find someone 'different' who just feels 'right' and things work out on their own.
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yeah,how do we learn to love?Voted for by da poeticist.
this is a question i have often pondered. how does someone know that they are in love?(not parent-child love)if love is not truly quantitative ie. not physical,thus not being able to be seen or measured, how can we know when we are in love? esp. when its our first time,how can one confidently say for the first time that they are in love, having only heard love spoken in the past. even those who have been in “love” before, how did they know at first…and if they didnt really know then are they living a lie and ultimately- IS LOVE A LIE? PEOPLE PROFESS LOVE FOR EACH OTHER DAILY BUT HAS ANYONE EVER STOPPED TO ASK THE QUESTION “HOW DO I KNOW”.......OR IS LOVE AN INSTINCT? hmmmmmm(think about it)
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searchVoted for by Insanesaxpoet.
we have to search within ourselves for those parts of our ego which keep us from love.
Erick Fromm theorized that individuals who felt unloved by one of their parents will always mistake that characteristic of love for true romantic love. a person who's father never congradulated them (or they didn't live up to his expectations, or he was never proud of them or they didn't feel good enough) will always be trying to prove themselves, to earn the conditional love of a father. and a person who had perhaps a cold mother or a mother who only loved them as an extension of her self and her own narcisism will always be looking for the unconditional love of a mother.
We must find these parts of ourselves, find these misconceptions and work for our love. We must be able to love in order to be loved.
We must be able to love ourselves to be able to love.
we must be able to see ourselves in order to love ourselves.
We must not mistake mutual narcissism (i love you because you're so like me and if you're marvelous and loveworthy so am i) for true love.
We must search.
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rememberVoted for by grant.
How about; to remember how to love, or, how to learn to remember to love. Or, just forget it and start again now (transcend the historical context of the conditioned understanding of it's meaning).
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Learning to LoveVoted for by endsofbread.
Romantic love is the one type of love that Jesus left no perfect example. Therefore, perfect romantic love has never existed except for possibly Adam and Eve for a short while. There really is no say all end all way to approach romantic love and I think every single person is different and that every human is pretty complicated. I think it takes a strong connection and a lot of patience. A connection is just random I believe and you have to wait until you find it. But when you do find it, you have to pursue it and have the patience to deal with all the hardships in the relationship that'll come along.
I really don't know what I'm talking about, but over half American marriages end in divorce... so apparently a lot of people don't know what they're talking about when it comes to love.
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LOVEVoted for by prepy az kan be.
u dnt find love ,ever, love findz u
eberi 1 'findz' deir 'lover' in a strenge situation or wen we least expect it
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Love, difficult but worth it.Voted for by soccerjazzy7.
Finding love can be difficult. But it's worth it. Finding love or letting love come and find you is a challenge. Dating can be hard. Finding the right words to say. Wondering if he's "Mr. Right" or if she's the girl of your dreams.
But no matter what Love is definetly worth it.
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