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Is it okay to masturbate during sex?

If you have a partner that's really boring and ugly, is it okay to service yourself in their company (before they do)?
  • Well

    if you actually love them, the looks shouldnt really matter, let alone how good the sex is.

    19%  Voted for by Kazrith, frndofyaweh, Energizer Bunny, splodgey, pnktrky. (7 total)
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  • well, hell yesS

    of course... pleasing yourself is the most important thing. if you make it clear to your partner that you enjoy masturbation during sex then it may eliminate the weird feeling and it won't be so obvious that you're masturbating because you're not attracted but rather it will spare your partner's feeling and still allow you to be satisfied

    13%  Voted for by petethemeat, Kevin, exquisite mind, Order of Chaeronea, Weydon.
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  • trust! it's all about trust!

    what better way to show someone that you ultimately trust them then to masturbate in front of them during sex? that shows so much of you...and I think it's very erotic!

    11%  Voted for by petladylee, exquisite mind, Order of Chaeronea, ScorpioBlood.
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  • OK...
    Firstly, yes it's ok to masturbate during sex as long as the other person doesn't mind. If they do, go to the bathroom beforehand to do it.
    Secondly, why the hell are you (or would one) having sex with someone you don't like physically? If you like them in other ways... fine. Form a friendship with them. If it's for money, I suggest getting another job. If it's manipulation... there are other ways of manipulating people
    8%  Voted for by pozo, conniev1, ScorpioBlood.
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  • Interesting point

    While ads was obviously kidding, it raises a point some people may be offended about. While I'm not entirely sure how a man could masturbate during sex, females certainly could. And if the male (or other girl) isn't paying attention to certain needs, or simply can't reach, I see no reason why she can't reach down and amplify the pleasure.

    8%  Voted for by Weydon, looking4realtruth, sca.
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  • ugly

    If you cannot get aroused with an ugly person and you really want to have sex, why don't you have sex with them in the dark and, if this is not possible, you can reduce their ugliness by putting a bag over their head. You could tell them you have a paper bag fetish.

    5%  Voted for by nanrek, sca.
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  • ITS A NATURAL SEX SATISFACTION DEFICIENCY SYNDROME

    This is a natural sex satisfaction deficiency syndrome.

    Those who suffer from this condition(NSSDS) always turn to masturbation to make up for the sexual pleasure.

    While it may sound good that she is amplifying the pleasure it also shows that she is not being satisfied which is a bad thing.Natural sex is suppose to satisfy her sexual desire. The effects are that, she might not like sex that often because of the obvious reason that she can satisfy her sexual desire better than the natural sex from her partner.This will probably frustrate the other partner and cause a relationship crisis that could eventually cause a break up.

    5%  Voted for by likewhatitis100, sca.
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    that is very very conceited of you.looks shoulden't matter.love should.

    5%  Voted for by allaboutpoetry, Princess Wolf.
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  • Um???

    Why would you have sex with a person whom you found unattrative? Unless of course your married... Wait. What am I saying? I never get laid. I am suck a sad, sad, person. Oh, wait. I get it. I am the person who is ugly... Oh, snap.

    Voted for by Zhell1313.
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  • What?

    Your winding us up right? If you took out the really boring and ugly bit I'd understand the question but thats just taking the p.

    Before they do what service themselves or you?

    Voted for by Applehead.
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  • Duh!

    Why wouldn't it be okay? I am married and I love my husband and we have great sex but everyone knows that it's harder for a girl to get off than for a man, but we make it interesting to though... I don't see what's wrong with it, I though everyone did it?

    Voted for by tarnishedheart.
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  • ok?

    Sure. Why wouldn't it be?

    It's like "Oh, yeah, I wanna fuck you hard but I'm letting you settle before I pounce." Now if that's ALL one can do, then I feel rather sorry for whomever is doing it.

    Voted for by Order of Chaeronea.
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  • It depends on the position.
    There are some positions pleasurable only to male counterparts, so to be equal about it, or otherwise fair on the woman's part, further stimulartion either by her or by the male counterpart can be included in the sexual act. As long as both partners are hunky-dory with it all, why not?
    Voted for by Oral Fixation.
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  • THERE IS NO HEALTHY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP LOVE OUTSIDE SEX

    Sex is part of marriage and therefore part of love. Without sex marriage love is incomplete and marriage might break up with time. Sex is an essential ingridient necessary to spice up a relationship without it a relationship will suffer. Sexual attractiveness is one of the component that makes up a love relationship.The presence of sexual attractiveness enables natural sex.Sex is not substitutable.Substituting sex with masturbation is in itself a symptom that the relationship is suffering and if not attended to, it might be a matter of time before it will start breaking up.Artificial methods of ejaculation such as masturbation is not good during sex because natural sex itself, should cause ejaculation. So, its not ok to masturbate during sex.

    Voted for by likewhatitis100.
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  • Yes it's okay, but this situation isn't
    Masturbation durin sex is okay. Sex is meant to be fun and spontaneious - and stimulating yourelf is just one of many things a couple can share.

    But if you consider your partner "boring and ugly", then why are you sexually involved at all?
    If you consider someone boring, then you can't be that attached to their personality. If you consider someone ugly, then you musn't be physically attracted to them.

    Even if someone is "ugly" to the rest of the world, if you're actually attracted to them the odds are you shouldn't see it.

    I'd say that you're involving yourself sexually when you aren't comfortable, which is what isn't okay.

    Voted for by sca.
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  • sex without orgasm
    sex without orgasm is like a symphony without a climax. it might feel good and it might have it's moments, but something is definately missing.
    Voted for by NeferMaatNetjer.
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