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Acceptance in middle and high schools

Many people will reffer to the Columbine shootings for this topic, but the question I'm asking is, "Is doing nothing to help just as bad as being the bully?" because through reading "Please Stop Laughing at Me" by Jodee Blanco, my eyes have been opened to a whole new idea of bullying through the denial of help and love. It is clearly wrong to be intentionally mean, but is it meaner to pretend the problem doesn't exist? Just a thought.


  • I think those who refuse to help are just as bad.

    I'll cite a personal story for this one. In middle school I rode the bus, where I was often teased for having the middle name Kitten. One day the boy I had a crush on put cat food on my seat while I wasn't looking. Everybody on the bus knew it had happened, but none of them said a word, and that hurt more than the prank. I didn't know anybody on the bus very well, but I felt that they should have cared enough about the emotions of the people around them to say something. Maybe I'm just a bit sensitive, but I think that denying somebody help and acceptance is just as bad as being the bully.

    50%  Voted for by deathofsunrise, Kazrith.
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  • I can't speak for everyone but..

    If you take a child and give him everything he needs to survive physically verses a child who receives plenty of love and affection but was lacking in the needs department which child would you naturally say would probably make a better adult? Not all but I think most would agree that love and affection are most important. What if a bully has seriously been denied these things. Sometimes you can look at a person and tell if they are lacking in the needs department but what about judging if they are a well balanced person due to proper love and affection? Sure, there are exceptions to the rule naturally, but I'd have to say it is much harder if not close to impossible to tell this by only visible means only. I suspect some interaction will have to take place in order to evaluate the love. So when a bully picks on someone then that person is violated but what about the bully? Can he actually help the fact he is like this? Maybe circumstances beyond his control helped make him into a bully. Maybe he feels violated by a society that he feels helped shape his personality. So who is more violated: the person whom the bully picked on or the bully for being denied the love he needed? Yes, I always get mad at a bully but then in a little way I always feel sorry for some of them too for aggressive behavior usually means you were denied a necessity somewhere down the line.

    50%  Voted for by Energizer Bunny, Weydon.
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