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Can you still call yourself a Virgin if your raped

If a person, male/female, looses their virginity by being raped can they still consider themselves a virgin? Do you think there are conditions?
  • Yes
    You can call yourself a virgin. Rape is not about sex, it is about power. Giving your virginity to someone, would be a sex act. You were attacked, that was not sex. So yes you can.
    28%  Voted for by Enma Ai, Benedictum, Indulgence, Makessenseright.
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  • I suddenly felt this was an important issue to have talked about.
    Errr...Hear goes, I hate how uncomfortable I always feel.

    I guess I should start with my gender, I'm male, I'm a teenager now, and I only recently revealed this part of my past to my parents and friends.

    I been sexually assualted three different times in my life all by different people at different places.
    The first time I was about 81/2 maybe a little older
    I was approached by a stranger in a restroom and he fondled me, the second time was somewhere else that time I was raped and I can't bring myself to tell that story yet, but I was about to turn 11. The third time I was approached in a restroom at a local park and he forced me to proform oral, I was about 12 a few months then. I had learned from the other events he blocked my escape so I played naive and the second he dropped his guard I layed my teeth in him till, he knocked me dizzy but it was able to make my escape and I ran and ran. I never told anyone until last year when a friend of mine told me about what happend to him. Well like I said can I call myself a virgin



    21%  Voted for by Nathan Explosion, Enma Ai, Benedictum.
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  • Take your pick
    well,technically no,depending on how far it went,but morally yea,because it wasn't your choice.I do have to give you a standing ovation just for having the nerve to post that.On a personal note from me,by 12 years old you should have half a clue how to defend yourself.
    14%  Voted for by M.Ridgway, Enma Ai.
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  • Kind of...
    Physically you would no longer have you'r virginity. But mentally, if you didn't give any consent, I think it would keep you'r virginity.
    14%  Voted for by ShadowSong92, Oral Fixation.
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  • Are they healing or ignoring?
    Having some experience in this I'd say, you can call yourself whatever you are comfortable calling yourself.

    A victim of rape might not be comforatable saying that they are a virgin and they may never be comforable. Such things are not so cut and clear. Victims can't skip over their healing process and it is different for everone.

    Rape is not only an assault on the body, but on the mind. It can take a lifetime to take back the power a rapist steals from their victim.

    A declaration of virginity would be taking back some of that power. Realizing that though raped, the rapist has not stolen purity or sense of self-worth. It also means that the victim realizes that though violated, the offender can never steal the special attributions of a truly loving, healthy relationship or the beauty that comes with the most intimate aspect of those relationships.



    Voted for by JM Kenyon.
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  • Virgin Mary?
    even if you are religious, wouldn't it still be rape if it was by a deity?
    Voted for by Molzahn.
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  • Depends
    You are physically and kinda mentally no longer a virgin, but you are spiritually, and partly mentally a virgin.

    Depends on what part of you, you are talking about.
    Voted for by Doom Pickels.
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