My sister was engaged when she was in her final year of high school. (this was back in the time when my province had an extra year of high school, so she was just as old as a first-year college student) I think is can work, but it’s extremely difficult. Two years later, and they’re still married, and quite happy, but they haven’t had the easiest time with it. Getting married, I realized, is more than simply falling in love, or being mature enough, you also need to be ready financially and be able to survive on your own. It really is much easier if you just wait a little longer, but couples never listen to that… they want it NOW.

Steve

Well, so far I've read the first six opinions on this and it humors me that all 6 have been teenagers that are in a relationship and positive that it will work out. I think the real thing for us to look at is beyond whether or not the relationship will work out. It's God fate that determines whether or not a relationship works. I too, am a high-schooler. Im a junior male in highschool and I was just as of a few weeks ago sure that I had found the one girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but I was so wrong. We are perfect to each other and love each other more then you can express into words, but she leaves for college and I have another year of high school. Sure relationships can work in High School but thats 4 years....4 YEARS OF YOUR LIFE!!!!! Now im not saying anyone is immature but why do you need to find your soul mate at such an early age, why cant you fulfill most of your life before searching for love. It's just that most high-schoolers look for a girlfriend or boyfriend to try and make up for what they feel to be that lack of someone else in their life. Im looking more forward to my senior year of high school then ever. And sure I'll probably date and everything, but Im not looking for committment at such an early age. I want to fulfill all of my dreams and let whomever is my soul mate to fulfill many of theirs to and you just need to trust that Gods fate will destine you both together. If any of you get the chance to read the book "I kissed Dating Goodbye" then you should. It's an excellent book, not too radical but it talks all about dating in highschool. If you date someone it should mean you're ready to committ to them and you're ready for a long lasted love. Too many people date to fulfill or pursue their current needs and thats it! Hooray, this is my first philisophical conversation on this site! Love you all! Trot!

for the most part I believe their sole purpose is for you to experience and learn from them so they will prepare you for your permanent relationship with your mate.

Yes I know someone that happened to. My aunts best friend who is now 54 is still with her husband she met when she was 13 in school. Things like that do work, it's just sometimes people mature or change there preference of there man or woman of choice. Good luck!!

It could go either way, with a greater chance for failure. It’s just the way of things. The same goes for ANY relationship you start up really. Hypothetically, anyway. Meaning if you were to take any random person and pursue a relationship with them, odds are you would have enough of a difference in major viewpoints that you couldn’t last. In reality you may be a bit more picky before even going on the slightest thing resembling a date, which could increase your odds.

I don’t mean to come off as jaded or callous or anything. I’m actually a fairly optimisitc person and love the idea of pursuing relationships. I’m not all that picky in the start just because I love getting to know people on multiple levels, and understand that the next girl may or may not be someone I could end up wanting to spend my life with.

“Even more so, do you think it has anything to do with the fact that the relationship is built on the grounds of teens who aren’t yet mature enough to have a real grasp of what a sturdy relationship is all about?”

A lot of them, yeah. Even some of the most sincere and loyal ones might noy entirely understand the reality of things, nor have enough experience to know just how deep their love is. If you then go on to separate schools (that aren’t close to one another, at least), there’s a fair chance you will drift apart and new loves will be found for the both of you. But even if the couple at hand was rather emotionally mature and in love…plenty of out-of-high-school relationships that also run deep can fail for other reasons.

Again, this may sound callous, but that’s not the point. The point is that you shouldn’t let these things worry you. Yes—something crappy may happen. Yes, getting your heart broken is one of the worst sensations one could experience. But that’s no reason not to ENJOY every moment you currently have (if anything, it’s MORE of a reason). And remember: Most people have had their losts loves here and there and then went on to be insanely happy for the rest of their days with someone else. Although it may suck the big one, breaking up is not the end.

Many teenagers grow up in a home where they get what they need. They aren't exposed to the harsh realities of life. They don't see death before their eyes. They don't experience extreme poverty. There are those teens that have went through enough 'living' (and not the harshness they put THEMSELVES through, mind you), and they find somebody. Somebody they relate with. Not only that, but somebody who shares a likeness of spirit. That no matter what, they find each other. Impossible, you say? There are those who have done it. My grandparents, and my Aunt and Uncle. Do I believe in love in high school? Well, what IS high school? People use high school as an excuse not to grow up. And, MOST IMPORTANTLY... just because you're in a relationship, it doesn't have to be stressful, boring, or calloused. It can be extremely joyous and fun. It just takes a little bit of sacrifice. Most teenagers haven't learned the meaning of the word 'sacrifice.'

Some people just think that after you have been with someone so long that it is just natural that you should get married, even if you aren’t ready. I belive that this is why many of the highschool sweet-hearts don’t last. Me personally I am a sophomore, way more mature than most of my peers and have been with the saem guy for almost two years. We are engaged, yes my family knows, and we are madly in love. Now I’m not saying that any of us know for sure what will happen, but these kind of relationships happen everyday. So yeah it is very much possible.

Your future spouse can be any where. It all depends on how stupid your high school was. If it is anything like mine, you may want to pretend you're gay until you graduate so you don't get put together with any girls that have an STD. So yes, it can work, but don't plan your life around it, i.e. going to the same college, bad idea, college is for you, not for two people together.