Violence is inherant in human beings, we’re all killers really. Adrenaline, anger, hate all these things revolve around an animal instict for combat. We all try to pretend we are this civilised race, above animals when really we arent any different. At least that s the deep view, other than that some people are incapable of getting their point across without shouting or resorting to violence, usually because they are ignorant.

Sometimes fear will make you strike. Just for an example. My older sister would kick my ass a lot of the time. She would get very pushy (hands/fists) pull my hair, she was very mean. So as we grew older – any “argument” we got into, i would panic and freak out (not hitting) but i would definately raise the argument up a level in fear that she would hit me.

I did that with my parents too in away.

I think there are other reasons that people hit. Some truly enjoy physical contact, some may truly believe they can “win” if they beat someone down. For me, it’s fear.

People dont realize that fighting happens becasue of fear. No one likes to admit they’re wrong so they say things out of fear that probably contradict themselves. They try to justify theyre point not realizing that they’re just provoking. We all prejudge, if someone isn’t like us we’ll pick out what makes them different but not taking the time to search for their good will. Everyone wants to be important in life but we all go about it in completely different ways, some ways good, some ways evil, Hitler was scared that the jews were Germany’s threat, he was trying to save germany but he came to that conclusion with opinions, not facts therefore his evil ways made him important to Germany. If someone insults you, you’re only as weak-minded as them if you insult back because their words hurt you, you shouldnt give your enemies what they want but most people do. Everyone sees a persons reputation and this makes people so hostile to defend their reputation.

People argue because of some form of misunderstanding, be it mental or verbal or physical, there is some aversion there to inflame to the level of argument, it is as simple as that. (coupled of course with tolerance and anger.)

Whether it's my desire to communicate effectively (misunderstandings), my need for safety (fear), my need to believe that I have a functioning worldview and to be validated, respected, and accepted (conflicting viewpoints)- all conflicts originate from our needs and desires. To eliminate conflict - either within our without (as per the Buddhists) is to eliminate desire. As soon as you eliminate the desire to have your viewpoints validated by the masses, to have the newest coolest technology, or to have power then there will be no reason to fight over it - it dosen't matter. There are, however some things worth fighting for. It is simply a choice to be made, what is worth more - the abscence of conflict or your needs and desires.

If you are arguing and arguing and not getting your point across you will get angrier and more frustrated. The chemicals in your brain will be off balance when you are stressed, like anger is a stress, you may then resort to your instincts which are physical, get rid of the other person who is causing the problem.