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Do You Think It's Better To Have Kids At An Early Age, Or Later On In Your Lives?

i think that as long as you are stable enough to support another life, then you can have a child at a young age. by young age i don't mean 15 or 16 i mean maybe 18 or 19. i think it's better because by the time the child hits 18 your only about 36 or 37 and you still have a whole life ahead of you to do whatever you want. my mom had my sister and i at a youngish age (20+26) now i'm 18 and my sis is 25 so she would be totally free if she hadn't had my brothers at 30 and 31. i think she's about to go through menapause and that is something you do not need to have while still raising a 13 and 14 year old. which do you think is the better choice?
  • other then physical problems of having a child at an older age I don't think age should be factored in the decision
    I had my first born when I was 25 years old. for me there is not a benefit to having children early. I love being around my child. I feel complete for the first time in my life and am loving every minute of being a father. I'm not looking forward to him leaving the house and being on my own with my wife. So for me I don't look at him as a burden that is hindering what i want to do or become until he is out of the house. I feel i'm at the prime of enjoyment in my life with my son.

    So if you are wanting to have kids early just so you can raise them and get them out of the house early and be on your own I don't think you should be having kids. It's like saying i'm going to do all my chores early so I can have the rest of the day to go out and play. I don't look at my son as a chore.

    We based our decision when we should have kids on, of course, our financial state. We also waited until my wife and I had all the kinks worked out in our relationship and we had cemeted a concrete love and trust for one another. I feel bad for all these couples that have children right after or before they are married. Marriage is hard to figure out at first. it may seem easy but most people have to adjust. i can't imagine having the complexity of a child mixed in with trying to adjust to being married (or living together as partners).

    Physically, there can be some drawbacks to waiting to long to have children. those after 30 that have children double the chances of having a down syndrome baby. Not to mention complications with the mother during pregnancy and labor. Also, risk of miscarriage.

    I do agree it is important to weigh out the pros and cons of when to have a child, but again, if you are having a child early just to get it over with and enjoy your life after 37 then i personally don't think you are ready. That is my opinion
    66%  Voted for by qwestman, Kazrith.
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  • ICK!
    I choose NEVER! lol
    Voted for by Weydon.
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