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Can a relationship last if one of you has to move away?

Can you stay together if one of you have to move away??


  • yes (if...)

    Speaking from personal experience, I can tell you that it is possible, but it is TOUGH. You miss the other person. It is very hard to handle emotionally. You want the oher person there, but they’re not. You miss them. You think about them constantly. You spend hundreds of dollars on long-distance phone bills. You miss them. You wonder every second week whether this is the right thing. You miss them. Did I mention that you miss them? yeah…

    But it CAN work. However, I would add a few ‘IF’s. It can (may or may not) work IF:

    1. It is NOT permanent and/or for an indefinite period of time. If you know that you’re going to be with the other person by such and such a date, well, that’s not so bad. But if you don’t know when the next time you’ll see them again is… that wears you down. It’s depressing. This is an ABSOLUTE MUST.

    2. The relationship is solid, and both people are committed. If this is not there, if it’s just semi-casual, then it won’t work. It will just fall apart. It requires a special commitment.

    3. You are both willing to sacrifice the physical aspect of the relationship (not sex, I’m talking just even being able to be together, take walks, hold hands, being able to look the other person in the eye…) AND you are able to handle the intense emotional connection that will develop to compensate for this. Relationships develop on two different levels: emotional and physical. Usually they grow at the same rate in a relationship, say 50-50. But in a long distance relationship, it’s more like 90-10.

    These things are absolute MUSTs for there to be any chance. If you have all of these, great. Best of luck. If not… break it off and spare yourself the additional pain later.

    Trust me, I speak from expreience…

    Steve

    25%  Voted for by Evets, caressed in blue.
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  • Yes, they can

    a relation can make it if they both really love each other and and their love to prosper thatis what i beleive

    Voted for by your last regret.
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  • Well...

    I just got out of one. We were both pretty commited and we want to get back together when were near eachother again. It was the lack of communicaion because both of us were so busy, and the fact that we could barely see eachother. I suppose they can work, but thier real tough to manage.

    Voted for by a696wench696m.
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  • Eh..

    Depends on how devoted the two are to eachother. Depends on a few other things too.. Eh, it’s possible but I wouldn’t try it. Long distance is tough.

    Voted for by justonewish.
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  • The Real Solution

    If its Gods fate or desire to have you and your long distance relationship work out then things will work out! Otherwise you should just enjoy life and make it as easy on yourself as possible!

    Voted for by Trot.
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  • Be realistic about yourself

    Could it? Yes. Is it likely? No. I would not bet a friendship with someone I cared about on us being that special, which is what you do when you undertake a long-distance relationship. Most of the time, you and your relationships are just not that special, no matter how special they seem to you.

    Voted for by Diemgordon.
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  • YES

    I am speaking from experiance. If it's truly meant to be then you will make it through. But don't think for a second that it's easy.

    Voted for by NightmareAnatomy.
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