What is the appropiate age to go out with someone and more specifically, how young/old can your partner be in comparison to you?
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Depends
It depends on how old the parties are during the age difference. It's pretty common to see happily married couples be around 5 years apart in age. Does that mean a 10 year old should go out with a 15 year old? A 15 year old with a 20 year old? Definitely not.
Once you're both above an age of average maturity and experience, I don't think age matters so much. What is this age? I guess it would vary for people, while mostly staying the same. For instance, at 16 I think it would be okay for this person to date a few years older--but not too many! Around 19-20, most people would be ready, but many should probably still be wary of large age differences. 21 and up, if you're still to naive and/or immature to handle more complex relationships, you're a lost cause anyway. There's no more chance of being manipulated from an older person than there would be to someone your own age or younger.
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Voted for by Weydon, ScorpioBlood, ditchtheloser, Matrixheart23, xMoonlightxDreamsx.
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According to 'they'
They say a man/boy is attracted to a woman/girl half his age plus seven.
Male 10 - female 12
Male 16 - female 15
Male 20 - female 17
Male 30 - female 22
Male 40 - female 27
Male 50 - female 32
Male 60 - female 37
Male 70 - female 42
Thoughts?
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Voted for by ditchtheloser, poetrygoddess99, Disturbia Notorious, Emm Jayy, SimplyNoodle.
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Answering both questions:
I think there are varying degrees of "going out". So I'd consider anywhere from 12 through to 18 appropriate for a "first date", depending on the individual.
At 12 you'd only expect phone calls and maybe - ooh la la - a peck on the lips. At 18 you'd expect a little more in depth conversation, and perhaps eventual "meaningful relations".
And age difference?
I think that at 14 - you'd be looking at a year as a big difference.
At 16 - two years as a big difference.
At 17/18 - four years a big difference.
By 18+ - difference decided more by your judgement than age.
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Voted for by sca, Krick, adolescente.
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crazy and correct
I would have to say that what is being stated is absolutely insane. To think that people's preferences and personalitys are being placed on an absolute scale is ridiculous. But, then agian, I'm sure it could be correct. I personally see this as pretty close to my opinions. And I'm plenty sure that it could be the same, if not more precise, for a multitude of other people. But I, (sorry if I offend) would say it to be retarded to think the relationship preference for every single male (not single as in without a woman) is set in fine print... but that's just me. ha ha
Voted for by frappuchine.
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historicaly
A man had to be able to suport a wife, and girls as young as 12 or 13 were expected to marry, and at least begin to learn what was expected of her from her husband, it was a sucsessful system right up untill the advent of womens lib
Voted for by Dwn.
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It's really hard to say because it depends whether or not the person (ie the older of the two and the guy) is genuine and not looking for something else...
Voted for by unco.
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Dating
I'm 20 years old, which is pretty young. and a female. I've been in several relationships and have crossed the board from younger to older partners. My ex of 2.5 years was a year younger than me and we worked great (he's an ex for other reasons, nothing to do with out age diff.) I've dated guys exactly my age, and my current boyfriend is three years older than me. I know those differences aren't significant, but to be honest with you, after the age of 20 I don't think an age difference makes any difference in a relationship at all. Maturity level does and that's important to note.
Good luck.
Voted for by IvoryRose.
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PS
Does this mean that if you are 1, that you like 7 1/2 year olds?
Voted for by frappuchine.
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Lucky 18
When it comes to ages and how young is too young...it has to start when we are 18years old, otherwise we'll all disgust ourselves if we count backward. I guess 18 is when were legally able to date whoever we want without having to worry about any legal issues and someone accusing you of molesting someone's child in court. I always dated guys who are at least no more than 7 years older than me, since I turned 18. Before that it was at least no more than 4 years. For girls, we mature faster than guys, so when were 13 or 14 years old were looking for guys around 17 or 16 years old. Some guys at that age are either looking for older women nowadays or girls age 15, 14, and sometimes even 13. Right now my boyfriend of forever is 5 years older than me and we are happy and perfect together. My parents have like 8 years different between them. One of my aunt is 3 years older than her husband. Things are changing. It's not just men who like the young but older women who prefer younger men.
Voted for by HevaenSkyy.
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depends
I think it totally depends, I met the love of my life when I was 14 and he was 17, and we've been together for 6 years now. If I were to look at my own situation, without being in love, I would say I was to young. It's a personal opinion that at that age your still very much a child. I know at least looking back on my behavior in some instances I showed just how much of a child I was.
Voted for by Mainzy.
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Actions over thoughts
Well when ever I've gone out with someone, they have been always been at a similar age to me. However to say that I've never had a 'thing' for a younger or older member of the opposite sex is total crap and chances are, most people would have to agree.
HOWEVER, i have never acted on these feelings... yet... It was always because of I was afraid of what others might think, was it real love, does the partner feel the same, am i old enough / they old enough... etc etc
So what I would really appreciate is for everyone to get your opinion across and generate more thought to the matter, because those with experience's obviously have better input to this issue.
Voted for by tfry.
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sometimes
I think girls around 13 and fourteen dating 16 and above may be ok but for the most part is risky. Its better to wait till you are mature enough to handle expectations and a relationship. I have dated people a year younger, and people my own age, but thats pretty much where I stand for now. Girls do mature faster than guys but that doesn't mean they are always as mature or have enough life experience to have a healthy relationship with guys a lot older- its not always but in teen years alot of guys can't help it but are thinking with their hormones- not intending to rag on the good guys out there who are able to manage it but they are the exception not the rule. I don't mean to say there aren't plenty of girls running around with raging hormones but they do tend to mature faster and be in better control of themselves just because of the way we are raised in society.
BTW saying retard or retarded like that is actually offensive. Please don't
Voted for by Writing0Freedom.
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Mindset.
I'm 15, and currently dating an 18 year old. I have been for almost a year. We are both very mature and arent sexually active. Our ambitions are to connect with each other as people, not to screw around (figuratively and literally) with each other.
If you want a serious relationship with an older/younger person and you know you can handle it, the why not? But if you date older/younger for reasons other than that, then, sorry, but thats quite pathetic.
To answer your question, I'd say that age of the body doesnt matter as much as the age of the mind.
Voted for by intangableenigma.
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i conducted an experiment once:
i was 26 and was approached by a 19 year old guy. he came on strong and seemed self assured, this was good. the following evening he had asked me to the movies, i said yes. what followed was a nightmare.
first i had to act as lookout in a parking lot while he smoked a joint. then we went and got our tickets.....i didn't want to force him to see "there will be blood", so i just let him pick whatever he wanted....CLOVERFIELD. i will return to this later. the movie didn't start for awhile, so we walked around the mall for a bit- saying nothing to each other. at one point he was stoked because the "delihla" song was playing over the intercom system. i was 26. he was 19. as we made our way back over to the theater, he eyed an in-and-out.... he began running towards it, turning back only to ask me if i was coming. i said i would meet him in the theater.
i sat outside theater number 4 for 25 minutes. i had done my make up for this. i had changed clothes three times for this. i was tempted to head into Rambo and sit next to a guy who might appreciate these things....
the 19 year old rounded the corner with the gait of someone who felt no need to rush. we went into the theater and sat down.
it was a horrible flick. worst i have ever seen. i have seen a lot of movies. this won the cake walk and still stands as the reigning champion of bullshit cinema.
i thanked him for the movie as i got out of his truck. that was all there was to say.
this....this is too young. i don't attribute it completely to his age. he was an idiot, and will be an idiot at 26. 'dems the breaks. but i did learn that this mentality is way too young for me. i have a thing for younger guys, most likely always will. however, there are stipulations in place that were not there pre-experiment.
if you are mature and responsible, can provide for yourself, have a good work ethic, are smart, witty, comfortable, kind, open, and willing to humble yourself and grow...., oh, and an occasion argumentative, these are the things that matter. age can not define them, for age is not necessarily the cause. bold matters too, mind you. a man must be bold.
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January 11, 2009
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Yep
Love is love, no numbers like years and ages can tell you who you can and can't love.Mag the Chodja
June 29, 2009
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And what is love, per se?
Is it the exclamation that you're in love, the obsession that is often mistaken for love? If it were true love, I'd say there are no boundaries. But, there are different variables to consider, the possibility of misdirection and deception being highly prevalent in the consideration.
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