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Improving your parnter

I came across an article today entitled "6 Sneaky Ways to Improve Your Man: Take a stealthy approach to motivate your man to dress sharper, eat better, and stay fit"

Am I the only one disgusted by the idea of trying to trick your partner into becoming the type of person you want them to be?
  • POSSIBLY staying fit
    The only thing close to acceptable I can see is about being fit. As much as a bad wrap you get for seeing only the "surface value" of things, being TOO overweight can be pretty unhealthy for you. You don't have to have a statuesque physique by any means, but going too far can lead to problems I suppose. But then again, I drink superhuman amounts of alcohol and caffeine in a week, so I'm not really the person to be giving out health advice.

    Still though, as long as you're not nitpicking, if your partner's unhealthy lifestyle is a growing concern for you (whatever it may be), isn't this something you should talk about a little more openly? While EXPLAINING that you DO love them for who they are and find them attractive, and will continue to do so, you're just worried about their health?
    60%  Voted for by Weydon, Carpool, TeChNoWC.
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  • It is what it is!!!
    I think that if a person allows himself to be changed by anything that was taught by a magazine is an idiot...my girlfriend couldn't force onto me another way of thinking by sipmly reading a magazine... If it were that easy then we would have millions of articles on "How To Change Your Lover"... This is why I say that if a person is changed by this mediocure way of teaching then hey...thats what shouldv'e happened...its noone elses fault but theres...and besides...whats wrong with losing a few pounds anyway?...
    Voted for by Subway.
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  • Tricking vs. Talking about
    They are basically two ways of getting a person take your advice and to determine that person to change:
    1. Tricking that person. That seems a cheeky way of doing things. It's simpler, and it's based on the human behavior, that of which humans tend to do some things inadvertently when they encounter some physical and emotional cues from the partner. I don't agree with this type of convincing a person, because you just make them to do that thing, without being fully conscious of it.
    2. Letting the person know your opinion and open up, make that person to open up, and openly discuss about it, and about how you feel about it, and how the other person feels about it. Sometimes it's very hard... But if you keep trying you will succeed in that and the result is much more rewarding than the one from the first method, and consequently you and your partner become closer and more open to each other.
    Sometimes ... the second one doesn't work at all... so you have to try at least one time the first one... and combine them to get the thing to start... from there you should no longer use the tricking solution... it's not fare for your partner, and not even for you!
    Voted for by zink.
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  • Can't be done.
    The only person we can change is ourselves. Tricking someone doesn't change them, it just changes you into a dishonest person.
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