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Lust

  • Distinction
    Hello .....

    There is a distinction between sex and lust. Let me make an attempt........
    Sex is an act of procreation.
    Lust is a sensation.

    Sex is the name of love-making involving two bodies
    Lust is the mental satisfaction of an individual.

    Sex is universal method of producing offsprings
    By many accounts, Lust is limited to a few species

    Sex is accepted in law
    Lust is seen as taboo

    Sex is a legal exercise
    Lust is seen as sin

    Sex is welcome
    Lust is to be tamed

    Sex is f@#k and fuse
    Lust is only f@$k and S@#k

    ps: ha ha ..well this may be amusing but i think i just reflected the common perception and perspectives of dominant forces on this topic.
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  • The Depreversion of Lust

    A philosophy is a living thing, it must adjust to life in order to stay true to simple principles that insure the quality of whom it serves. In times when women were property and life was harsh and short, the sexual moralities we use today were quite useful. In this world we now live, we understand that women and children are worthy of the same respect as men. In this modern life we also have better health care with much lower mortality rates. Populations are growing and humanity is spreading, this world is changing. We have managed to go from wagons to space shuttles in as little as two hundred years, but the way we understand our interactions between each other has done little to evolve.

    In popular culture there is an undeserved respect given to virginity. It is seen as pure for us to remain ignorant on sexual matters, but what good can ignorance ever do? In conservative North America, educational programs are insisted upon that teach that the total avoidance of sex is preferred over the use of detailed sexual education and the use of condoms. The statistics speak for themselves on the 'benefits' of this enforced ignorance. In states that use abstinence only programs, teen pregnancy is the highest..

    There is also a taboo on sex it's self. There is a danger in making any word or concept 'taboo'. The truth of the concept will fester in the darkness of ignorance, never accessed or understood for what it truly is and instead allowed to run rampant in counter-cultures. Some would argue that sex is perversion, but what about the perversion of sex? Is the perversion of sex the use of it for anything but reciprocation? Is it only in the use of closed relationships? We've made these and other assertions without ever thinking about what they mean. The truth is that we have no logical backing for any of our moral assertions, only a brute force of social control. There is no substance to these arguments.

    Let me begin with the first assertion, 'Sex is only for reciprocation'. Assuming that there is some specific goal behind nature, assuming it has some anthropomorphic sense of will, we have to question the previous statement. If sex were only for recreation, it is a very wasteful process. Every twenty-eight days an unfertilized ova is ejected from the womb during menstruation. Also, several spontaneous abortions may occur while a couple attempts to have a child. On the males side, millions of sperm are created and wasted in masturbation, nocturnal emissions, or simply re absorption into the body. There also demonstrated homosexuality in various animals, but that's overkill of example. The point is that there is no focused meaning to sex, it's just something that the body does. If every need or opportunity to re procreate with sex were taken and successful, the human population would be far worse than the near nine billion we are soon to reach.

    The next assertion is a little harder to dispel because we have to understand how relationships were first conceived. In both Eastern and Western cultures, women were essentially property to be bought and sold. If it were not all out slavery, then unquestionable loyalty would be demanded of them. This as commonly a one sided idea, laws of fidelity in the culture of the old testament specially harsh on women. This is not to say that modern relationships are forms of slavery, but there is a a shadow of it's origins tainted across the way the think about relationships. We 'own' the person, or are 'owned' by them. Jealousy and sexual infidelity are two of the more common endings to relationships. The lesson is ironic. Couples can be hung up on matters of sexual loyalty when it's really the context of their relationships that should be more important. A vending machine snack with a coworker is not as important as a meal with a loved one.. but they are both still the act of eating. A relationship should focus on the time and investment one has with that person in their lives. How much you are willing to sacrifice of your time and energy to that one person is the measure of how much you love them. The sexual act has too much importance in our society, it is a distraction to the true value of a relationship.
    It goes without saying that there is a great deal of damage done to young people when they are shamed out of their own sexualities, or forced to early. We do not respect sex the way it should be respected. For the young, finding it on their own is one of the first instances when they can feel empowered. It is one of the first times that a child can supply for their own needs. In time that can expand to finding their own means in life, but we shame them and stunt them. I dream of a day when we can speak of it, understanding and explaining calmly the need for boundaries that are not arbitrary such as marriage. Sexual boundaries should serve a purpose, such as a young person who is at a lower level of independence than an older person. Allowing the youth to find their own means is a liberating exercise, but providing it for them would take that budding independence away.. That is a simple explanation of why child molestation is wrong, which holds more strength than the original argument of “It is because it is”.

    So, Am I saying you should have sex with everything you see? NO. I'm telling you to think, I'm telling you to focus more on who people are and not make sex so damned important that it becomes a distraction (positive and negative) and a source of both shame and stress. Don't try to ignore it, don't try to shun it, don't try for forget it. Be responsible and listen to your body. You don't have compromise between respect, and lust. You don't have to live under the weight of shame, not if you simply stop and think.

    Perhaps if people stop and looked at sex with the same eyes that pulled us out short brutal lives in times before we had modern technology, we can live happier, less stressful lives.
    Voted for by Janis Chambers.
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  • Lust is a consuming fire
    Lust once egnited will spark from a small ember, then once fanned by desire and an irreconcilable need to possess, will turn into a consuming fire...which inturn will eventually consume itself.
    Lust seeks to satisfy its rage and frustration upon the act of "sex" venting its need to possess and dominate the object in question.
    Sex in itself is simply an "act", though there are several factors that come into play when engaging in sex that can ultimately.... cause serious harm to you, take you to hights of unimagined rapture or leave you totally indifferent. The last being in my opinion the most damaging.
    Lust in its natural state is simply a vehicle allowing us to maneuver into a position where we can begin to form a bond with the person in question, this may or may not lead to "love".
    Sex in its natural state is an act of "consummating" a relationship that has a possibility of love in its "future".
    Of course this is not all inclusive concerning lust or sex.
    Unfortunately in todays society, due to many outward and inward factors, sex and lust can become imbalanced and perverted, causing us great duress and heatache.
    If love were an ocean liner, lust would be a gangplank.
    Voted for by Valhalla422.
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