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Personally, I think this question is best answered by those who are missing their father. Those of us who have our fathers have much to learn from those who do not for whatever reason!!!
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It varies40% Voted for by Highof75, catseyes2468.
Ok i have a biased view because my father honestly does not care about me but anyway here is my opinion.My naturel father payed a small role in my up bringing and basicly what i learnt from him is how to handle those people you wont get on with later in life .Now i live with my step father he is playing a majour role in my up bringing he is teaching many things and supporting me through everything. Like i siad it varies from the kind of person this father is .
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important!Voted for by ohsweetie2788.
fathers are very important. a girl who doesn't have her father will crave attention from men since she has never felt any love from a father figure. why do i say this do you ask? what do i know do you ask? my father left me high and dry not so much as goodbye was uttered from his lips. i crave attention from men any way i can have it and i get that attention any way i have to. i cherish it and some girls (might is add who have thier fathers) don't understand why i do it but it is becuz my father left me i know it and i am not ashamed to admit it. as a counterbalance to craving attention as a fatherless girl you are wary of any man no matter how much they say you can trust them or how much they say they love you...you always fear they are going to just up and leae you without a good reason...good explaination and not so much a s a good bye...living a fatherless life is difficult at times and sometimes you wonder why what did i do i always have to remind myself it is not my fault and when i get like that i find a guy to give me affection...give me the love i feel i deserve.
~Ash~
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i dnt think the studies are rightVoted for by nightbabygurl.
i dont think that the father is more needed, im 15 and for my whole life my mother has rasied me and yer i have tryed to contact my dad but nothing ever comes of it.i have a step dad that takes over the place of my real dad, yer i honestly do wanna get to know him now im older but there are always going to be douts about him. i think my mother did an awsome job of rasing me and my two older brothers and three younger sisters, we have an aswome step dad that is like a father to all of us yet he is the 2 youngest sisters dad he is still kool. but i admit i do want to know my real dad and it would be awsome to get to know him but in many ways it could turn my whole life around
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Studies have shownVoted for by frndofyaweh.
He is much needed. The Bible says that if the mother and father seperate from marriage, then the Father should take the children, boys or girls. The father is needed more than the mother.
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Totally. I wouldn't know how it feels to be without a father, but I basically don't have one. Because I almost never really TALK to him. Y'know what I mean? First of all, he left me when I was 7 days old to go to America. (I'm chinese) So I never really got to know him in my first few years of my life. When I was two, I got to meet my father for the first time in my life. So I've never really been close to him. Plus, he's Chinese, and like 40. He doesn't know how it goes... Once I was talking to him, and I told him that people like wear mini-skirts, and he totally FREAKED. I'm serious. I don't really talk to him... but I dunno. I just like my mom more. Hm... I'm just ranting on about my dad. But a dad is needed none the less. A LOVING one. My dad has spanked me a few times when I was young, so I'm not that close to him... there's this chinese proverb that goes "If I hit you, it means that I love you. If I scold you and insult you, it means that I care about you." And obviously, my dad believes in it strongly.December 4, 2005
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Fathers and sons, daughters
My daughter was our first child. She is no less important for being a girl than is our son. When i grew up, i saw very seldom our father; although i remember him reading to me once, i gradually felt his absence more than any other influence from him. So it was that i missed many teachings that he might have given me. I have found that this is not so with every father. Some fathers do make the time to be with each of their children, playing games, teaching the names of things, explaining how is the world, how is space. I am doing this now with my children, and even sacrificing time when i might be hunting, fishing, or out listening and telling stories at the bars. I am aware that the children will not always be so young, and any time that we lose cannot be regained. I only whipped my daughter once, and i regretted it very much. We are trying very hard to teach with love. However, you young people must understand that in our more traditional societies, Chinese as well as Spanish, German, Irish, African, we knew and understood discipline, obedience, and honor much more than many of you of the "Generations X and Y." The cultures outside the United States, even some within the United States, such as Southern, Appalachian, Rocky Mountain, and other rural cultures are different in some important ways, including the concepts mentioned above. My mother used to explain to me that we were bound by the Fourth Commandment to Honour our mother and our father. High class Spanish society holds honor very dearly. I think this is something that we learned from generation to generation from the Roman and Mozarabe influence. We are careful of our actions, because they can either bring pride and honor, or disgrace and shame (dishonor). We honor our fathers, mothers, grandparents, uncles, aunts, elders because of their experience, knowledge, wisdom, but also becaue some day we shall be also older, and from what we do unto others we can expect to reap the rewards or ill effects thereof. "Right away obedience" is what my mother, descended from nobles and cavalry fighters, knights, priests, and ladies of the manor, taught us. You must obey an order immediately. Failure to do so might mean someone dying, as a result of an enemy arrow or other missile, or the quickness of the opponent to exploit a gap in your defenses. Failure to respond to a call might mean missing an important message. Failure to jump, or grab hold, might mean being swept away by fast currents, or falling into a chasm. Discipline involves much more than following orders. It involves doing the right thing at all times. It requires that even when you are tempted to rest before completing a task, or at the appropriate rest times, that you strive to accomplish what you set out to do. Discipline is cleaning up after yourself, closing what you open, even thinking before you act. Unfortunately, I see that we fathers, mothers, have not succeeded in passing on these qualities in America, Europe, and other places where affluence has arrived too quickly. It is my hope that we learn soon, before the enemy succeeds in their infiltration of our very open society, before they pull the rug out from under our feet. And who is the enemy? Ah, but that is for another essay. Suffice it to say, sometimes the worst enemy is your own self. And sometimes we are our own worst enemy.Please register or login to comment! It's totally free