If you meet someone (at a club, bar, football game, any public place) and they ask you how old you are, is it alright to lie if you don’t think it’ll go anywhere?
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??40% Voted for by Energizer Bunny, Lstjed.
Is it alright to lie about your age to someone you don't really know?
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Like that makes it any less "wrong". I think not!
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noVoted for by ohsweetie2788.
no no and no. you should not lie about your age to someone you just met unless you plan on never seeing them again. if you plan on dating tell them the truth. i know i want to introduce myself as being 18 but i don't becuz of what people might ask me to do when i can't do them. you should always be honest about your age...it is a wonderous thing and whether old or young you are lucky to be it.
~Ash~
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EhVoted for by Scrap.
Getting caught up in an innocent lie is an annoying thing. If you thought that no real relationship would ensue and just wanted to flirt, I can see why you'd lie. I mean, I can't tell you how many times I've had girls let me know, "If only you were older!" when I was younger (and still occasionally actually...). It's a pain in the ass, really.
But perhaps you should have told him sooner. I mean, I understand that it seems like you copuldn't immediately backtrack on the lie and would rather wait until he got to know you better...but then by that point it was suddenly too late. Even still, it is dishonest but not all that much of a foul deed--entirely understandable even.
Except for one factor. Your personal situation of age difference means you and him being together is illegal and socially questionable to many people, and could put him into hot water.
But even if that wasn't the case, it so happens that some people see being close in age as an important issue. It is up to them whether or not they can be with someone of a different age. Regardless, there is no reason for anyone to HATE you over it, and anyone that does is just being immature. It's not like cheated on him or stole from him.
As far as "not knowing what to do" if he does hate you...I'd recomend relaxing. It sucks--even if he doesn't hate you but still doesn't want to be with you. But you're only 14, and while I'm not arguing against your maturity, the fact remains that you probably don't have the largest amount of experience in the realm of developing feelings for people. I can assure you, as much as you might not want to, you will get over and learn from your screw ups and grow to become 10x happier with others. Good luck!
Oh, and can I just say that it's awesome that you were at a skating rink! I didn't even know they still had them!
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Unsure...Voted for by The Great Escape.
I met a guy at this skating rink. He’s 18. I knew he was, so when he asked me how old I was, I said 17 because I really liked him and didn’t want him to not like me just because of my age. But we went out for almost three monthes…the whole time he thought I was 17, just turned 18. I’m 14. I never thought it would go beyond the rink, that’s why I lied. And I liked him too much to tell him the truth. But we broke up and he found out. Now most of his friends hate me, I think he does…and I pretty much screwed everything up between us and I feel so bad. He has no clue about how sorry and bad I feel. I want to call him and tell him what I feel, but I’m so afraid that he hates me. And if he tells me that he hates me, I have no clue as to what I’ll do! I screwed everything up, and I need your opinion as to if I’m the bad guy or not…
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October 17, 2005
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