I'm doing an opinion project for english on whether we should ignore self harmers whether they do it for attention or not. I need to argue both sides so if you can give me reasons for helping or reasons for ignoring that would be ACE! Plus if you have any good sites that you think might help me find info. I need facts too.
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Should help self harmers12% Voted for by stupid blonde, Scrap, Obsidian Dreams, NNYAnime, forbiddenforgotten.
I think we should help self-harmers whether they do it for attention or not. If they do it for attention then we must ask ourselves "why?"
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yea...12% Voted for by stupid blonde, allnotgood, ohsweetie2788, NNYAnime, forbiddenforgotten.
i think self harmers do it to release something inside themselves, that simply cant be released any other way. we should help them, because they could seriously hurt themselves. however, we should not believe that they all want attention, because some wouldn't. they just want to try to help themselves.
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Of Course Help12% Voted for by stupid blonde, Scrap, redbrita, LullabyGirl, forbiddenforgotten.
Ignoring them is just stupid. Even if they're in "that mood" and can't be helped in that moment, or even over an entire month, they can be brought ot see the light. It is a difficult process to get over, but it can be done. A great many self harmers are not in to be dark and spooky and deep. They're just regular people that developed coping issues somehwere a logn the way, through no fault of their own and not neccessarily because of a traumatic childhood, and now find that cutting is the only way to relieve tension.
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
Is a wonderful site that provides many causes for self-harm and many helpful solutions. NOTE: Do NOT read the causes section if you are in a sour mood and are prone to self-injurty, because it may increase your urge to do so at the moment. Instead skip to a more helpful part of the page.
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ambiguous...7% Voted for by Axelle Black, Miss Behavior, DancingRed.
It's hard to answer this. It's really half and half in my mind given that I'm a cutter. I'd say that cutters need help, though not necessarily for the fact that they cut but exactly for what led them to hurting themselves? I think I know why I do it. And I love it to be honest. It saves me from saying things or doing things that would be most desastrous. So in a way I do not want help. But in another way I do want help to find a way to cope with this. But I can't for example tell my mom one day, "Hey mum, I cut. Can we go see a therapist?" So then it's really hard to admit that fact in the first place and as I don't live in a place where therapists are abundant (we hardly have any) then it's really a drag to go through asking my mum and all that... transportation costs. So for that I'd say leave ME alone. But I would say that we should help the others. See? How ironic. But that's how my brain functions. But I'd say... cutters do need help. I just don't want any lol.
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Ignore5% Voted for by darkdesires88, dark-spell.
I think you should ignore them this coming from a cutter. We have our own reasons and criticizing and bothering us isnt going to help us at all let us try and fix our own problems.
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leave them alone5% Voted for by Illuminati x, dark-spell.
I think we should leave them alone. They want to do it. It's annoying to them when we do try to help them. When they're in "that mood" they won't listen to us anyways. It's their life. Why bother, everyone dies in the end, just different ways.
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Be helpful but harmless5% Voted for by katchi, LullabyGirl.
Self harmers are crying out for attention but don't know who to cry to. So they over-eat, become alcoholics, cut themselves, load up on their drug(s) of choice, allow themselves to be used (for sex, money, resources, or whatever) abuse those closest to them, neglect those they really care about the most, don't do their homework, etc., but just as the Philosophical Pug stated: Always offer help, but if they refuse it, help them by not contributing to the environment to which they can continually harm themselves.
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ignore5% Voted for by stupid blonde, DoNtBeLoNg15.
i was and still am a cutter and i hated it when people tryed to help and i think you should ignore it untill they ask for help!!
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Both5% Voted for by Sans Amour, Poetic-Artistry75.
You've got to find out WHY they do it, what's the motivation? Some are doing it just to get attention, and they should be ignored. However, there are those who are just sick and probably don't even realize that they are doing harm to themselves. They think that by releasing their blood, they release the bad, the pain within them. But all their doing is risking far more serious injury than just a few scratches, like acutally cutting the tendons in their wrist and crippling their hands.
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yes5% Voted for by Youallareposers, LullabyGirl.
there are different reasons people hurt themselves. If they want help or not you should help them. Either way they are harming themselves and you need to find out why.
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Always offer help5% Voted for by LullabyGirl, Philosophical-Pug.
When you weigh up the facts about self-harm (the majority have been abused at some point, most often sexually) it is hard to mount a rational argument for not helping. Even if it is only for attention, it is obviously attention that they need - these people need help. Things are not right if you are willing to harm yourself in order to feel better. Help should always be offered - all they have to do is say that they don't want it.
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Some where in between5% Voted for by HunteroftheDusk, LullabyGirl.
Depends what you concider help. I was a cutter and had a friend that was a cutter at the same time. WHy would help each other by making sure that if one of us was upset the other would be ther or slap each others hands if we were itching at our skin. I even urged her to get help. But I don't think you should go tell some one (an adult figure) that someones cutting because the cutters has to come to terms with and has to be ready to seek help.
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to each his ownVoted for by mylegisnumb.
let them get on with it. I used ot self harm and i didn't tell anyone, and i got over it.
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pay attentionVoted for by the affluent poor.
If you self-harm,then to view at it medically, you are technically sick. Sometimes self-harmers are at such a point of denial that to them, self-harming it is completely okay and rational way to cope with stress or whatever else they are dealing with. If you are a self-harmer, it is important to find someone who you can talk to and who can walk with you until you stop. Whether this person is a professional or a mentor, it is important that this person knows what they are talking about otherwise they won't help.
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Stop the danger of cutting!Voted for by MovingMountains.
It's really great if someone can help themselves. Usually, those that do that are not the ones who are seeking attention because others don't know they are suffering. However, cutting is dangerous, whether it is for attention or not. It can lead to worse things, and mistakes can be made. It's important that those who are injuring themselves get help in anyway that's necessary.
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YOU CAN'T SAVE THEM FROM THEMSELF!Voted for by kriz.
I am a cutter and have been for the last 7 years of my life and coming form personal expierence if a cutter wants help they will ask for it if a cutter dose not want help then there is nothing you can do to stop them you can lock them up in a ward but you still cant not save a person from them self!!!
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you can not make them stop, but you can provide understanding and listen to themVoted for by Pseudo Angel Slayer.
Well I'm a cutter, and I have been off and on since the seventh grade (I'm in ninth grade now.) I've been trying to stop. Many people have tried to help me. And I have two friends who cut, and I've tried to help them. But what I've realized is that you can't make them do anything. I now realize why everyone got so frustrated with me after trying to help, because they realized they couldn't get me to stop. The thing is, is that people should help if they want to- they should be there if the cutter needs to help, they should offer support, etc. But they have to know that it is an internal choice the cutter makes. The cutter has to decide when they want to stop cutting. No one else can decide for them. And most of the time, if someone tries to force you to stop, you resist even more. So if people want to help, they should never try to force them to stop. If they choose to ignore it then I can't do anything about it.
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