There are 8 choices, 10 votes for absynth-dream's debate

Stability or Sensuality?

Which would you rather-in complete honesty- Choice 1-A Partner who was understanding, Kind and Compassionate yet lacked in sex appeal and was a rather frigid lover. or Choice 2- A sometimes lover who was incredibly attractive, was lively and uninhibbated in the bedroom and amazingly affectionate. However this partner may or may not stay with you, can be insulting at times and rarely had an once of interest in you.

So which would you choose and why? Please specify whether or not you are Female or Male and your reasoning for this.


  • Neither

    I'm not going to put up with an insulting lover no matter how good he is, at the same time if I don't find someone sexually appealing I couldn't be with them no matter how nice they are. If I truly had feelings for someone and wanted to be with them I would find them sexually attractive (no matter how they looked). Just because a guy is nice doesn't mean he'd make a good boyfriend for you.

    30%  Voted for by Charlottesimmons, Scrap, Aphasia.
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  • Well

    If I had to choose: Choice 2. I don't always get along with everyone anyway, so some fights here and ther eis no biggy. Plust I'm not sure what kind of "partner" choice one is. Business partner perhaps?

    I mean, fine: They aren't the greatest look. And fine, they're not the best in bed. People can become more attractive if you grow feelings for them, and people can always learn to get better. But FRIGID? No affection at all. No desire to be with me? Come on.

    Ideally though, my partner would be a bit of a mix.

    Voted for by Scrap.
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  • choice 1 male

    well you could say that choice two sounds more appealing,but i find those that dont have great sex appeal are the ones that find a deeper love then lust. sex and the look of your mate are not the only important parts of a person and i find that just having a mate because he/she is good in bed is a little self-degrading. me, i dont care how my mate looks as long as they stay truthful.

    how would you feel if you knew that your mate had suddenly found a better person? what if they decide to leave you?? maybe your the one whos bad in bed.. not your mate.

    Voted for by Kazrith.
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  • Choice 2

    I suppose choice one seems more like a friendship then a real robust relationship! Sex is very important to me as well as satisfaction. I would find encouragement and support with outside partners and friendships and mainly stay with my sensual guy for sheer physical pleasure.

    Voted for by absynth-dream.
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  • choice 2

    choice 1 is more of a friendship than a boyfriend girlfriend thing. i like passionate guys i don't care if they are a bit mean if they can make it up to me and besides any guy who gets lippy with me pays the price, thats what i am use to and thats kind of what i like. choice 1 is too palish for a relationship. i am woman! lol.

    Voted for by ohsweetie2788.
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  • 1st

    Since i've got about 0 intrest in sex, i'd take the first one.

    Voted for by Cornilius.
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  • Why set the choice of partner thusly?

    I don't like either choice. I would not choose either partner.

    I would rather be celibate, if the only choices were those two.

    I would keep searching for the one who would be both considerate, sensitive, faithful, AND good in bed.

    Voted for by cafegroundzero.
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  • NO WAY

    I WOULD NOT CHOOSE EITHER ONE OR THE OTHER. TO CONDEMN MY SELF TO LIVE WITH A MAN WHO LEAVES ME COLD OR TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO WOULD SATIFY ME SEXUALLY ,BUT IS A JERK NO WAY !! LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO LIMIT MYSELF TO SUCH AN HORRIBLE FATE. I WANT A MAN WHO CAN FULFILL ALL MY NEEDS AND WANTS . IT MUST BE A GIVE AND TAKE SITUATION . THAT IS HOW IT SHOULD AND WILL BE .

    Voted for by a woman to love.
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