So that would make an exeption. Yes, it was a bit awkward, but is wasn’t bad at all. It was comfortable and it didn’t even hurt or anything. I think it’s really about being ready, and chosing the right person. My boyfriend and I were both virgin, so that made it a lot less stressful for me…

It depends on your definition of bad. If you mean bad as in you don't reach the big O or he came too quickly, than the first time probably will be bad, especially if neither of you are experienced.

But, my first time was beautiful. It was awkward and we were both nervous, but it was a moment that took our relationship to a new level because we were ready. It didn't hurt me, but for some girls it does.

The biggest factors in deciding if the first time will be good or bad are whether or not you're completely comfortable with that person, if YOU'RE ready, and not having high expectations of a mind blowing sex-romp.

If you can't talk about sex seriously with your partner and discuss what needs to be done beforehand (OB/GYN visit, buying condoms, starting birth control), than there's no way you're ready to have sex with them.

My first time from what I remember was the worst. I felt used, and just sick to my stomach because of what I did. I had a friend who had sex, and she had the same opinion. It’s difficult to say, but yet, it feels that everyone who has sex before their ready or even if they are ready, it still turns out bad.

I had sex when i was only 14 i was very scared of the condom breaking but i still did it i thoult it was fun my first time was not bad it was pretty good to tell you the truth i would do it again (Already have

No. I don't know where you people get this stuff.. Mine wasn't.. So they can't all be bad. I mean I was scared and all, but.. Overall, it was not that bad.

My frist time was flippin amazing. It was with my bf for over a year. Everything was perfect and it didn’t hurt like everyone said it would. We were both virgins and I guess we just knew what to do. Its not all that hard.

You know, my first time wasn't actually until recently. I started dating this girl that I felt connected to emotionally and physically. She was younger than me by a couple years and was previously sexually active. Things went pretty fast and even though I was a virgin, she never once had a complaint and even told me I was her best lover so far. For me, the experience wasn't all that awesome, but it certainly wasn't bad. I was stressed about finding love in the equation and I think that more than anything made the experience unpleasant. I think as long as you consider sex something that is natural rather than forced or coming with pretext attached, it can be a very pleasant activity.

To state the obvious answer to your question, No, not EVERYONE'S first time sucked. So there

unfotunately yes, because you feel icky afterwards for having had sex. what should be good n your mind turns bad because of it, plus it depends on how bad if you are with a virgin as well or a whore so to speak. but all the people i have met and myself included have had bad first times.

_Ash

I guess mine could be considered “bad”- but it amuses me, really. I’d been seeing the guy on and off for months; we never lasted more than a week at a time. We’d fooled around before, and I had suspiscions that I didn’t really like guys in THAT way. I mean, he wasn’t the only guy I’d hooked up with. But I wasn’t sure and I got drunk, so slept with him.

And yeah, I’m gay. (“So, how was it fror you?” “Well, let’s just say it’s proved I’m a lesbian”. The thought of that always amused me…not that I SAID it, of course.)

It hurt and was a little awkward but it’s not something I regret. It helped me realise who I am and, besides, I’ve never had an especially idealised view of sex. Yes, it can co-exist with love and romance- but it’s not a neccessity to have that.

The worst thing was cleaning out the trash the next day- and seeing the condom was split. It took me a while to pluck up any courage to get a pregnancy test. Then the day after I took it, my period came. Irony, hmm…

But despite that and the fact I never really LIKED the guy (we had a very odd relationship) and the whole me-being-gay thing, it wasn’t BAD (well, technically, it was. But it wasn’t a bad experience.) It’s not like I’m bothered by not being a virgin. It’s just a hymen, right?

I had sex when i was only 14 i was very scared of the condom breaking but i still did it i thoult it was fun my first time was not bad it was pretty good to tell you the truth i would do it again (Already have

The bad thing is when it comes to sex is you never know whether you were ready or not until afterwards so your first time could be horrible or great. I know my first kiss was bad but that was it was because it was with someone i didn't really like and wasn't my boyfriend at the time, i'm a bad girl, i know. I think sex for the first time is bad mainly because its the lack of experience of both parties especially if you are both virigns, you will be most likely completely lost in the situation and it will be over before it starts. You aren't used to each other and with most things it is true is that things get better with time. That's all I have to say.

Sex is just an act (like riding a bike). A physical thing that happens in the matterial world. That does not mean that it is not significant. It isn't really like riding a bike at all except that it is an action.

The act of sex does not have to be good or bad, although there is often a feeling either good or bad that comes after it. When sex is over all that you have left at that moment right after it ends are your thoughts. Your thoughts at that moment will last with you more than anything that happened during the act (partly because of lack of concentration on your thoughts during sex). What evwer you convince your self that the sex was like during those critical moments is how you will remember it. If you decide it was good you will remember it as good (or bad as bad etc.). this is the time when people decide that they didn't like their first time. They don't decide if it was a good idea till later.

If you decide that you liked sex right after having it and then later decided that it was a bad idea to have had sex then your memory of a warm feeling could change to that of a gross violated feeling. It is all what you get into your head. Truth is in the eyes of the beholder. Its what you convince your self that it was.

Love making on the otherhand is completely different. It changes sex from an act of physicalnes to a closeness unsurpassed by anything else. If you (plural) are in love while you (also plural) have sex then your action is sonething more. It is a manifestation of emotion (emotion is probably delt with on a seperate plane of existance than thoughts and actions). This manifestation is an intimacy beyond that of sex because of your emotional embodyments (on a different plane) being close to each other as well as being physically close to your partner.

In conclusion, wait untill you are in love to have sex. Wait until you decide that you are ready before having sex. And most importantly find a partener that loves you and will be a caring indevidual during the act (especially the first time).

Most of this comes from personal experience.

I had sex when i was only 14 i was very scared of the condom breaking but i still did it i thoult it was fun my first time was not bad it was pretty good to tell you the truth i would do it again (Already have

I had sex when i was only 14 i was very scared of the condom breaking but i still did it i thoult it was fun my first time was not bad it was pretty good to tell you the truth i would do it again (Already have

It hurt like bloody hell … which it was … bloody hell … at least for a few minutes.

Two virgins having sex would be bad. If your first time is with someone both experienced and considerate it should be good (it has to be both though). Find an older, experienced person who also is good-hearted and/or cares about you.

I'm a virgin but I think sex would be really boring. I think I could have more fun throwing a ball up in the air and catching it, or cutting paper into shapes or something simplistic like that. I think I would have to do it with another guy though since girls usually seem to get hurt by it <.<

yeah mine sucked really really back and i was like what? thats it? why all the hype? lol

It only hurts if you're not turned on enough. If you're body is really excited and truley ready, then there will be enough lubrication to make it not hurt. As for the REST of the experience, that's up to the performance of the other person. You can't be expected to be a superstar your first try after all....Practice makes perfect!!!